"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Field Report 1

Reyaj

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 19, 2002
Messages
3,221
Reaction score
378
Age
48
Location
Northern CALI USA
Ok this field report is in on one of the girls I met from my 100 approach thread.


I basically met this girl in a club, she is young, 18 freshman in college. Basically I was drunk, she was drunk, we both started dancing, then making out, then groping. I guess it was supposed to be left at that, but I ended up getting her number and talked to her over the course of over a month. I had made several attempts to meet this girl. The first attempt I asked her out to movie, she initially said yes, but then text messaged me the day of the date and said she'd rather watch football (unreal right) but suggested we hang out on Thursday night, which is college night and usually involves going to a party and going to a club. I agreed, and during the week b4 that she told me that she doesn't know me really well so thats why she is cautious plus that she's been through drama with guys but thinks Im a nice guy and wants to get to know me better.

Well since I hooked up with this girl pretty easily in the club, I figured that thats all I should really look for, so I had made plans with her to have a party in her dorm with a few of my friends. Well again the day of the hook up, she cancels saying her friends ditched her. Then she texts me that same night saying she's going to the club that we originally hooked up at and that I should go there.

Well after this I was pissed so I ignored her.... She messaged me online asking what was wrong and I flat out told her how its messed up to play with me like. She was very apologetic and also mentioned that she isn't used to the "whole dating thing" and didnt want me to be mad at her, and blamed her friends for being indecisve.

Anyway since I really had nothing better to do, I still talked to tihs girl once in a while during the weeks. and we recently had plans about 2 weeks ago to meet up for dinner on a Friday. Well on the day of the dinner she texts me saying that her friend is giong to come with her cause she wants to meet me. I told her it was last minute but I would try to get one of my friends.

She ends up texting me that day saying her friend probably couldn't come, but that she had an allergic reaction to something but would call me whe she got out of the hospital.

Guess what? She texted me saying that she couldn't make it cause she was going to be in the hospital waiting to get medicine too long, but wanted to have breakfast monday.

Well obviously I was mad, but instead of cursing her out like I normally would do when girls pull this ****, I took a deep breath and said ok.

We end up meeting for lunch on Monday in her town. She was with 2 of her friends and I brought one of my friends. During the lunch she didn't really talk to me too much and mostly talked to her friends.

I kissed her on the cheek goodbye and decided to send her a text message later that night saying "You looked very pretty today"

She replied and said "lol thanks"

That was about it, she didn't call me or message me online or anything anymore. So I decided to message her online a few days later and say something like "I guess your friends **** blocked me lol"

She said that I haven't called her either and made up some story about how her grandmother has been sick also and then suddenly put her away message up. I then find out a few days later that she blocked my screen name.


So I guess the moral of this story is, young girls you hook up with should be left at that and not for dating?

Typical **** I go through.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

superman2k6

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 24, 2005
Messages
88
Reaction score
0
Age
39
Location
Smallville?
don't worry about this man, girls flake all the time

take it with a grain of salt and next her

i know exactly how you're feeling, especially the part about finally meeting her and her friends are there and she seems to ignore you and only talk to her friends. i guess she just wasn't interested
 

SamePendo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 30, 2003
Messages
2,393
Reaction score
14
Location
At home
:nono:

1)You were mega-available for her.
2)You took up her ****.
3)You weren't misterious, ****y, funny, nothing.

This is constructive criticism man, but you really need to complete the 100 aproach thingy, aproach 2 x day, just say hi. It wasn't her, it was you.

It's like if I go upto a punk-rebel-type guy and spit on his face. And he procedes to hit me along with his gang of ****ers. And I come here and say "beware of punk-rebel-guys!! They beat the crap out of you!" It was my fault, I didn't get the best out of him.

Btw, read Erick L!ve posts, he is probably older than you and me, and he's banging this 18 year old *****. Next time next her asap.
 

GropeDope

Banned
Joined
May 6, 2003
Messages
220
Reaction score
0
There's nothing left to say here. I think SamePendo covered everything pretty well. In my opinion instead of continuing on with your 100 approaches and forgetting about this one chick that you hooked up with out of pure luck, you got lazy and decided you found a possible lay that you should persue, so you put aside your PRIORITIES (the 100 approaches) for 1 worthless b!tch. I hope you realized this.

If you had still continued with the original plan instead of procrastinating and dragging it on like you currently have been, you probably wouldn't even have had the time to deal with her bullsh!t flake a$$ because you would have met a higher quality HB already.

FORGET THE B!TCH AND FIND ANOTHER ONE! I GUARANTEE YOU WILL FIND 20 HOTTER AND SMARTER HBs THAN THIS DUMB HO YOU ARE ACTUALLY WASTING A THREAD ON IF YOU STOP F*CKIN AROUND AND FINISH THE DAMN APPROACHES!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Eccentric

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2005
Messages
358
Reaction score
3
"You looked very pretty today" :down:
 

Reyaj

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 19, 2002
Messages
3,221
Reaction score
378
Age
48
Location
Northern CALI USA
damn Gropedope, you are right again I must admit. I guess I did figure I could get ass from this girl and I put my priorties to the side... I guess its because I have tried so often to juggle many girls that I end up with nothing, so I figured I'd try and put more effort on one individually but I found that abandoning the rules of the game didn't work either.


Yeah I guess the "you looked very pretty today" line sounds lame in retrospect. But thats the thought I was feeling in my head at the time and I thought it would be sweet to send that message.
I guess I should have played the game and not said something nice like that. This is what I mean about the $*#*# rules, its almost like you can't even be yourself, or be sweet/nice cause it will lower a girl's interest.

I still don't get what happend here?
 
Top