Field Report 001

[AntoniousIV]

Quick disclamer. Pls don't give me the "build an abundance of plates" advice, I'm in a small city where I used to be a majority but now I'm a minority (europe). And the people who are now the majority have preset marriges by their families, and I don't share their religion (islam). So it's basically impossible to do so. It'll probably be easier to do so once I go to college next year and I'm in a city where I'm the majority again (I turn 18 in oct 18th).


2-3 weeks ago while at work (waiter, as a summer job) I decided to go get tea for myself. Went in the shop, and there was no tea. Near me (in the shop) were 2 girls, one was staring at me. I smiled then got out, regreting that I didn't approach her. And went to a pharmacy really close and got the tea. I left my bicycle at the shop and when I went back they were in front of the shop, and she was still staring. This time I approached.
Me: Hey I'm Antonious.
Her: Hey I'm Stacy.
Me: Let's get to know eachother.
Her: Sure. (She said it with a smile, probably added a few words, but I don’t remember exactly. )
Me: Let's go for a drink.
Her: Yeah. (She said it with a smile, probably added a few words, but I don’t remember exactly. )
Me: What's ur number.
*she gives it to me while staring.
I head back to work. finish off and then later I messaged her on viber, and after maybe 8 messages she said something rude,I said you're not funny. And she stopped responding.

Today I was at work, morning shift. After the shift I went out for a drink with my cousin (male). We were chilling talking, then when we were splitting he saw the girls and apparently he knew them. He said hi and they talked a little,I just stared off into the distance ignoring her. She tried to say hi to me but I just ignored her.
Then afterwards we split up. And my cousin texts me:
Him: The girl told me to say hi to you from the girl who blocked you. She was very shy and couldn't say hi. (contradiction, she tried to say hi, said it timidly though)
Me: Ok.
Him: Wdym ok, she said she's very ashamed right now.
*I didn't really wanna talk about it cus I just got home and I was showering, so I tried changing the theme.
Me: Are you at the cinema?
Him: No I'm opposite of the cinema, you should come, and follow her on ig. (where the girl has a booth, so they were messaging me together)
Me: Why?
Him: She'll give you a second change?
Me: ahhahaha,
Him: Don't worry
Me: If she wants to she can text me.


Any advice?

 

[BPH]

It's very hard to help you or give you advice when it seems you actively do the opposite of what you should do, then provide no context as to why you did it...

Like here:

I head back to work. finish off and then later I messaged her on viber, and after maybe 8 messages she said something rude,I said you're not funny. And she stopped responding.

What did she say that was rude? Was it rude? Could you have misinterpreted it? Even if it was rude, could you have spun it?

Instead, you chose to shut it down, so it's obvious why she stopped responding. Furthermore, you should only be texting to set up a date...looking at my phone right now, there's a girl I have tentative plans set up with for this weekend. Ignoring her 4-text multi-text, it was a total of 9 messages between us.

Remove your ego. If you were the great catch you seem to act like you are, you wouldn't be returning to this forum asking for advice so regularly.

Today I was at work, morning shift. After the shift I went out for a drink with my cousin (male). We were chilling talking, then when we were splitting he saw the girls and apparently he knew them. He said hi and they talked a little,I just stared off into the distance ignoring her. She tried to say hi to me but I just ignored her.
Then afterwards we split up. And my cousin texts me:
Him: The girl told me to say hi to you from the girl who blocked you. She was very shy and couldn't say hi. (contradiction, she tried to say hi, said it timidly though)
Me: Ok.
Him: Wdym ok, she said she's very ashamed right now.
*I didn't really wanna talk about it cus I just got home and I was showering, so I tried changing the theme.
Me: Are you at the cinema?
Him: No I'm opposite of the cinema, you should come, and follow her on ig. (where the girl has a booth, so they were messaging me together)
Me: Why?
Him: She'll give you a second change?
Me: ahhahaha,
Him: Don't worry
Me: If she wants to she can text me.

I don't understand what I'm reading here...a girl who blocked you tried to get your attention and went so far as to communicate through your cousin that you should come see her?

On one hand, what you've done here is fine. If she really wants to see you, she can unblock you and get your number from your cousin to text you herself.

On the other hand, if you want to get laid, and don't take things personally (which you certainly do) you could've shown up, given her some sh** for blocking you, telling her you're surprised she wanted to see you, given the block, then allow her to plead her case to you as to why YOU should give HER a second chance. If she wants to stay on her pedestal and act like she's giving you a chance to prove yourself, then yeah, I'd just spend my time elsewhere.

 

[AntoniousIV]

I did want to just schedule a date as soon as possible, but I got blocked 8 messages in.....

What did she say that was rude? Was it rude? Could you have misinterpreted it? Even if it was rude, could you have spun it?

She said are you 58 to be messaging me on viber?
I said I have a rare genetics mutation which makes me look 17 when I'm actually 60
She said : so you're retarded?
I said: You're not funny.
Apparently she blocked me afterwards. (viber doesn't show)

I don't care if she called me retarded. I thought it was a **** test, and that I needed to "put her in her place". That's what I've read on r/TRP.(r/theredpill)

I don't understand what I'm reading here...a girl who blocked you tried to get your attention and went so far as to communicate through your cousin that you should come see her?

Which part was incoherent? I definetly wanna get laid. I guess I missed the opportunity to go give her $hit about blocking me. What should I do next though?

 

[BPH]

I did want to just schedule a date as soon as possible, but I got blocked 8 messages in.....


She said are you 58 to be messaging me on viber?
I said I have a rare genetics mutation which makes me look 17 when I'm actually 60
She said : so you're retarded?
I said: You're not funny.
Apparently she blocked me afterwards. (viber doesn't show)

I don't care if she called me retarded. I thought it was a **** test, and that I needed to "put her in her place". That's what I've read on r/TRP.(r/theredpill)


Which part was incoherent? I definetly wanna get laid. I guess I missed the opportunity to go give her $hit about blocking me. What should I do next though?

Oh ok, so this is the same girl?

Well, first off, you could've avoided all of this by just texting her phone number like a normal person. I don't even know what Viber is.

What could you have said differently?

Lean into it, jokingly - "I'll have you know it's a very serious condition - it's that Benjamin Button's disease"

Generalize it - "Everyone's a little retarded sometimes, just never go full retard"

Whether these would've worked, hard to tell, but what DIDN'T work was getting offended, as you did above.

That said, she felt comfortable enough to call you retarded, and then blocked you when you were bothered by it. That's not an unreasonable reaction on your part. Her wanting to see you rather than unblocking you and messaging you herself means she likely wanted to continue messing with you in front of her friends and your cousin, rather than because she had a legitimate interest.

What should you do next with this girl? Nothing. Move on.

 

[ValiantMale]

What advice are you looking for? You seem to just have a "meh if she wants to talk to me she can talk to me" mindset... You had a girl who was interested enough to give you her number.. I think what you need to learn is how to escalate.. But i think your shortcoming is in reading too much into the words shes saying and not trying to understand that she likes you enough that she gave you her number..

I've had friends like this too. Get out of your ego and think about the end game: having fun with her, spending time getting to know her, and having great sex before drawing away for a bit and letting her chase you.

Never look too into the moment or little meaningless things like something she said in a text.. That will distract you from your ultimate goal and is a sign of inexperience/immaturity.

 

[AntoniousIV]

Oh ok, so this is the same girl?

Well, first off, you could've avoided all of this by just texting her phone number like a normal person. I don't even know what Viber is.

What could you have said differently?

Lean into it, jokingly - "I'll have you know it's a very serious condition - it's that Benjamin Button's disease"

Generalize it - "Everyone's a little retarded sometimes, just never go full retard"

Whether these would've worked, hard to tell, but what DIDN'T work was getting offended, as you did above.

That said, she felt comfortable enough to call you retarded, and then blocked you when you were bothered by it. That's not an unreasonable reaction on your part. Her wanting to see you rather than unblocking you and messaging you herself means she likely wanted to continue messing with you in front of her friends and your cousin, rather than because she had a legitimate interest.

What should you do next with this girl? Nothing. Move on.

Sti

What advice are you looking for? You seem to just have a "meh if she wants to talk to me she can talk to me" mindset... You had a girl who was interested enough to give you her number.. I think what you need to learn is how to escalate.. But i think your shortcoming is in reading too much into the words shes saying and not trying to understand that she likes you enough that she gave you her number..

I've had friends like this too. Get out of your ego and think about the end game: having fun with her, spending time getting to know her, and having great sex before drawing away for a bit and letting her chase you.

Never look too into the moment or little meaningless things like something she said in a text.. That will distract you from your ultimate goal and is a sign of inexperience/immaturity.

I think I do have an issue with looking into words too much and taking things personally. Not so much now but I used too.
I really dont care if she calls me a r3tard as a joke.

Update:
She followed me in ig. Maybe it's not hopeless.
Should I text first or wait?

 

[Vanderdonck]

Should I text first or wait?

Reach out, start over. She obviously wants to keep the connection and your cousin is trying to throw you an assist. If you don't try to get with her your cousin will, lol.

I don't care if she called me retarded. I thought it was a **** test, and that I needed to "put her in her place". That's what I've read on r/TRP.(r/theredpill)

That's stupid. Put her in her place? You read that on Reddit? Remember there are a lot of opinions out there but a lot of keyboard jockeys too. If you truly don't care then don't care. There is a lot more mileage in being your most authentic and best self than in following some RP code. I know that might be confusing since you're young and starting out but I think it's better to lighten up and save the indignation for when you truly feel it. (And even then, pause and count to ten.)

 

[AntoniousIV]

That's stupid. Put her in her place? You read that on Reddit? Remember there are a lot of opinions out there but a lot of keyboard jockeys too. If you truly don't care then don't care. There is a lot more mileage in being your most authentic and best self than in following some RP code. I know that might be confusing since you're young and starting out but I think it's better to lighten up and save the indignation for when you truly feel it. (And even then, pause and count to ten.)

Ok thanks. It's 10:40 am here. I'll text her 1 pm to hangout after work.