field on kino

[gongxia649]

sunday - had a great time with this girl going shopping. pushed her 2 times.

tuesday - point my finger on her back, and did a small massage on her shoulder.

wednesday monring - saw her holding some paper and walking by. asked her to come and show me what she has, then i quickly grabbed her hand. she pulled away. she told me, you are like "john" (an old guy who likes to shake hands) and walked away.

what happened?

 

[gongxia649]

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[Fash]

wednesday monring - saw her holding some paper and walking by. asked her to come and show me what she has, then i quickly grabbed her hand. she pulled away. she told me, you are like "john" (an old guy who likes to shake hands) and walked away.

Do you work in a mental institution by any chance?

"An old guy who likes to shake hands"??? Is that one of the patients?

 

[gongxia649]

no, that old guy is 45, its a coworker.
im 27, shes is 25 i guess.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

sunday - had a great time with this girl going shopping. pushed her 2 times.

LMFAO!!!!

tuesday - point my finger on her back, and did a small massage on her shoulder.

lol This is NOT what "kino" is. (man, i hate that term.... touching has turned into a science experiment around here with fancy geeky language. It's a girl!!! touch her!!! Don't Kino her. When can this nonsensical vocabulary stop? please, can someone make it stop?)

 

[Fash]

In that case...

sunday - had a great time with this girl going shopping. pushed her 2 times.

Going shopping??? In my experience, going shopping with a girl is a no no! When women shop, their mind isn't on anything else but the shopping! "Pushed her 2 times"??? thats something you migh do with your pals! its no kino!

tuesday - point my finger on her back, and did a small massage on her shoulder.

Is she a work colleague too??? Why are you giving her massages? do you WANT to be seen as the creapy guy in the office that uses "neck massages" just to touch up the women??? What has she done to deserve a shoulder massage from you?

Remember! your attention should be an exclusive and privilaged thing. Don't give it to her so easily.

wednesday monring - saw her holding some paper and walking by. asked her to come and show me what she has, then i quickly grabbed her hand. she pulled away. she told me, you are like "john" (an old guy who likes to shake hands) and walked away.

what happened?

Why the hell do you care what the piece of paper is? or were you just looking for an excuse ( a lame one in this instance) to talk to her???

And WHY did you quickly grab her hand??? :nono:

You see kino isn't just about establishing physical contact! It is about doing it the right way! You need to do it subtly when you have her attention and you have having a conversation with her not while she is walking by!

I suggest you read the DJ bible and some field reports to find out what kino really ease.

also, make sure you dont become the weirdo in the office who touches all the woman.

What happened???

You freaked her out! She probably wasnt ready for you to grab her hand and you spooked her! Only touch ehr if you are out together and NO PUSHING! only soft and subtle touches!

 

[DarkChaos]

What would qualify as "soft and subtle"?

 

[Fash]

What would qualify as "soft and subtle"?

While you are talking to her, gently give her elbow a little squeeze...

While you are talking to her and maintaining eye contact, smile and just hold her hand, give it a little squeeze and see if she squeezes back (squeeze back = IOI, so squeeze means she is not ready yet)

While you are talking to her, if she says something nice or compliments you, just say "aaah, thats really nice! you get a hug for that!"

While you are talking to her, ask her to smell you, its a new aftershave you have bought. Then smell her! this will be great to getting close to her and possibly putting your arm around here without it feeling out of context...

Notice a pattern????

Now go out there and sarge!

 

[gongxia649]

going shopping cause we wanted to have dinner with other colleages.

it was already late after everyone left home, she was using the kitchen phone. so i point her back and asked her to give up the phone. 20 min later, she was still on the phone. i touch and massaged her shoulder. i asked her to give up the home, she liked it.


yes, its an excuse. i quickly grabbed her 2 hand (i thought this is kino).
i think i did it in the right way. after the shoulder massage i was going for it. so next day i tried to grab her hand.

what should i do now?

 

[gongxia649]

maybe i was so impatient to have her hahahahahahah.


btw looks like i cant delete my post.

 

[gongxia649]

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