"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Field Notes (Girls with Headphones)

bootypirate250

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For a while i figured that approaching girls with headphones on was too hard to close so i just didnt go there. Now it seems like 70% of the HBs i see on the bus/train and coffee shops are wearing headphones. So i am testing some strategies to first get the headphones off and then more importantly to keep them off until i have closed with a number. I used to ride the bus with headphones too, but i have stopped doing that because it makes me less approachable in the same way.

First i try to engage eye contact to let them know i have noticed them

Second i focus on something elsewhere in the room or on the bus while maintaining a smile. This gives her a chance to check me out.

Third...I have tried a couple things in this step. Motioning her to take her headphones off, mouthing words like "hows it going" etc. making sure there is eye contact is key. duh or she wont see you.

Fourth, you have to be assertive enough that when you do get the headphones off she will keep them off. The obvious convo starter is "what are you listening too" and go from there. If you let the convo go stale or hesitate too much she will probably put the phones back in.

I like this because you dont have to cold read her right off the bat to start the convo.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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less thinking more doing

approach her with a smile and simply say *hey what you listening to*

not rocket science :rolleyes:
 

bootypirate250

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Isnt that exactly what i said in my post? The idea of me writing down what i have tested is simply so someone else doesnt have to test it...........
 
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