"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I have a difficult time getting into fictional books now...last good on was king of torts..

any suggestions would be great
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Heart Break Kid said:
1984, Brave New World, Fahrenheit 451,
These books are NOT fictional!!
 

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Now, now. Let's not get into a political discussion here... (it's banned). As for fictional books, you'll find that the busier your life becomes, the less time you'll have to read anything other than textbooks. If you're looking for pure escapism, I might recommend anything by Frank Hebert or Harry Harrison (The Stainless Steel Rat is an excellent read if you're anything other than a straight-edge person).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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for fiction, i love dean koontz
my brother loves stephen king
and gio loves john grisham (but some of his are true stories)
 

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Holy sh1t, Diablo woke from his ancient slumber. Long time no see brother.

I agree that the busier life gets the less time I have to read anything but what will help my near future.

A couple of books I go back to are:

The Damnation game by Clive Barker

Moonchild by Aleister Crowley

The Stand by Stephen King (his best book)

I can't really recall any others . . .
 

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Charles ****ens - loved his novels when I was in high school.

If you are looking for something short and entertaining, try Ender's Game.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you want fiction, I can't recommend any.

If you want Literature, Start with short stories.

Read Conrad's Heart of Darkness
 

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Firepower said:
If you want fiction, I can't recommend any.

If you want Literature, Start with short stories.

Read Conrad's Heart of Darkness
What do you mean by "Literature"? Isn't fiction a form of literature?
 

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Fiction is indeed a form of literature as you ask, but most fiction is not literature. I was educated to note the distinction between the two, with professors emphasizing a judgment not tainted by snobbery or personal preference.

The indulgences a writer allows himself in creating his own world means not every creator is a true god - corruption ensues when the limits of reality are not imposed. Hence, sci-fi and fantasy are the most likely offenders.

The best example is placing examples of Conrad's Heart of Darkness and Victor Hugo's The Hunchback of Notre Dame at the "Literature" end of the scale, then placing Eric Nylund's HALO novel, The Fall of Reach at the bottom:


Somewhere in between the two is an argument for deciding criteria for literature, but none can be found at these poles.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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