Heartrippedout,
Man, I feel your pain. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Believe me, I understand.
You are in denial right now. You know this thing is over, and yet you are acting like you know what is good for her. Like her getting out more is going to help her as well as your relationship. Look, you have to no longer care about what's good for her and what's good for your relationship. Whether you have come to the realization of it yet, or not, this is your time now.
How do we, as men, know that a woman loves us? Is it her words? If one thinks so, he is a fool. It's their actions man. I believe a woman starts to love you when she gives you sex
(that's for the normal chicks, not wh0res) You have to pay attention to their actions. Nothing else. She left...bottom line. What does that tell you?
There is no way to relight the fire. There is no way to spark her interest again. Women do not work that way. When they lose interest, you've got to move on. It's the only way. Your relationship is over. I'm sorry to break it to you, but I know what I'm talking about.
Sure, you may get her to come back, and suffer it out a month or maybe even five years. But it will end. She is not interested in you enough anymore. It happens man. It happens to the best people, so don't let it get you down.
Since she is the dumper and you are the dumpee, here is what's going to happen. She is going to feel guilty. You are going to feel rejected. These are the two emotions you both will struggle with.
If you want to be a good dumpee, you should talk to her and tell her you still love her and support her through her guilt process.
But keep in mind that the dumper almost always disguises this process as trying to get back together with the dumpee. So people get back together for a month or eight years or whatever before it ends. When you see others breakup for good a year after they broke up before, and get confused, this is what's happening.
To be bad dumpee, you just stop talking to her. No communication. This will drive her crazy because she is going to have to face the guilt head on, without you there for her to use, abuse, and discard once she's given herself time to forget she's a b1tch, which is what women do to good dumpees. She'll also use this time to reinforce why you are so wrong for her, so when she finally ends it, and you beg her to come back or whatever, you are repulsive to her as it gets. Remember, most women aren't strong enough to handle guilt on their own. So when you don't let them have any communication, and I mean zero(no email, no phone, no nothing!), they will have a really hard time. Most women, if treated this way, which I think is proper, will turn to some other guy who they will shower with love and affection because they are trying to prove they aren't b1tches to themselves. In the end, the guy will get turned off, dump her azz, and she'll end up wondering how stupid she was to end it with someone who gave her love.
She'll get fat, addicted to Ebay, and bitter toward men because of her own lack of commitment to nurturing her relationship.
As for your rejection, it's going to take work. It's a hard thing to face. That's why so many women reject men before we reject them. They would rather face guilt than the more painful emotion rejection. Ever met a woman who was rejected? She is the one who is 43, single, bitter toward men, and childless. But you are a man. You will overcome it. It won't be easy. But you will overcome it.
Good luck
