"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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FFS - Damn Loser Friends!

evolvingnerd

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dammit
i've got too many friends who are at both extremes
total nerdy losers and then ur "cool playas"
me..i'm in between...i love nerding it up with my computer, but i can go out and have a good time *without dancing lol*
gotta find me some peeps like me

but the point of this post is, is it deterimental to my game if i'm seen with these friends? like i don't mind being with them, but they're so frickin lazy and unwilling to try stuff out except games
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ Alejandro

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search "Social Chameleon".

case solved.
 

Thraxeh

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evolvingnerd, i have the same friends as you. i think its mad, cause when iwanna go out i'm with the "playas" and when i wanna stay home and lan a bit, or play some thing online, i have my nerds. works out perfectly.
 

evolvingnerd

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but see that's the thing i dont like
i don't really like these playas
they're so fake and loud and vain
i d'nt actually wanna be associated with em
cause that'll also screw my chances over with the nice / shy girls
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DJ_Dork

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basically you're hanging with the wrong crowd. Finding friends is A LOT harder than finding a girlfriend. Most people will agree with me. We're talking about REAL friends, the ones who you can call up and is ready to have a real meaningful deep conversation rather than some rant/rather than a i-got-nothing-to-do-so-i'm-calling-you kinda person.

And remember, you want to make friends with people who have established friends or someone who is patient/cool - not someone who just moved in the area and is desperate to meet people.
 

evolvingnerd

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yeah definitley
i think i'd best make some new friends
but ffs i only seem to meet idiots who i don't like to hang out with
i know heaps of people at uni, but i only hang out with a select few
i'll look into expanding this via hobbies
 

neobrood

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whew...

im so relieved... im not alone.

Yeah... I hanged out with gangsta type friends, ultra nerdos, playas, and then those who love to smoke and drink like crazy... pfft...

I never felt like I belonged to any group. :(
 

Kravy

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Same thing happens with me.
But most groups i know usualy follow each other like sheep and do samething as each other and just end up talkin abouts just cars or some other boring rubbish.

I have only got one good mate who i can talk to about alot things.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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