Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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few questions ab out facebook

chance-

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so i recently put some pics up of me and instantly received alot of messages from girls and old people i know.. getting very busy.

just a few questions.

for the info is it okay if i got all boxes ticked

friendship
dating
a relationship
networking

second. i have a few pics of me with girls hugging me kissing me etc.. one of them is ugly that im sitting next to. is that okay to still have as it shows i have social life? does it matter that girls are ugly.. still makes me look good?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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kingsam

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having those boxes mean FA... some ppl tick them, some dont

your over thinking the 2nd bit... one ugly girl wont matter... remove it if ur not sure

the best way to get attention on FB...is to put a really buff pic of your self...as your profile pic...Many people will notice this... i did this a year ago and ther was about 30 comments on it - some joking some "well dones", wows..etc...BUT there were people i havent talked to for years (but are FB friends with) who knew about the pic... so loads of people must have seen it!
 

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yeah only problem with that is im not buff. lol. my profile pic is not bad .. good shot of my face with a blue wall behind me. kind of hits your eye nicely :)
 

kingsam

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facebook isnt good for dating... notied the amount of threads on this forum that start with "this girl on facebook..." and end badly...

use fb to keep contacts/spy on old freinds etc...(every one does this!)

meet women in person, in the real world

also put ur security setting to "freinds only" it stops people you dont know seeing you / possible employers ...etc... thers alwasy embarasing pics on fb, you want to be able to control who can see them
 

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chance- said:
friendship
dating
a relationship
networking
Doesn't matter.

What do you think is gonna happen? A girl's gonna be into you, but not know your Facebook "relationship status" and she's gonna be turned off? Get real.

second. i have a few pics of me with girls hugging me kissing me etc.. one of them is ugly that im sitting next to. is that okay to still have as it shows i have social life? does it matter that girls are ugly.. still makes me look good?
What the f***? I'm sorry to take out my frustrations on you, but this Facebook crap is starting to piss me off.

Are you happy with the f**king picture? Yes? Then f**king use it. It's just common sense.

Unless it's a picture that shows you blowing another dude, I really don't think anyone gives a f***. My god, people. Stop overthinking every damn thing. Better yet, go meet women in real life. Facebook isn't even a dating site for christ's sake.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thedude4242

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dont go on facebook to date just use to it to talk to people. wait for women to contact you in those kind of ways.
 

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Actually I don't like to tick looking for... I think it makes me look desperate. as if you need something or you are expecting stuff out of your facebook. just my opinion
 

JCballin88

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bookman said:
Actually I don't like to tick looking for... I think it makes me look desperate. as if you need something or you are expecting stuff out of your facebook. just my opinion
Same here...remember that "less is more." I have guy friends on there with all those boxes ticked and they've been single (and admittedly desperate) for a LONG time.
 

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yeah I wouldn't want people to have a track of when I am single and when I am not... I leave most of my info empty, I do not make plans public, I don't want people to know a lot about me, leave some mystery :p plus it is embarrasing if you keep the single status for too long
 

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over thinking. i just have friendship and random play ticked off though
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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chance- said:
yeah only problem with that is im not buff.
Why not? Get your ass in the squat rack boy!
 
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