Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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few questions ab out facebook

chance-

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so i recently put some pics up of me and instantly received alot of messages from girls and old people i know.. getting very busy.

just a few questions.

for the info is it okay if i got all boxes ticked

friendship
dating
a relationship
networking

second. i have a few pics of me with girls hugging me kissing me etc.. one of them is ugly that im sitting next to. is that okay to still have as it shows i have social life? does it matter that girls are ugly.. still makes me look good?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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kingsam

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having those boxes mean FA... some ppl tick them, some dont

your over thinking the 2nd bit... one ugly girl wont matter... remove it if ur not sure

the best way to get attention on FB...is to put a really buff pic of your self...as your profile pic...Many people will notice this... i did this a year ago and ther was about 30 comments on it - some joking some "well dones", wows..etc...BUT there were people i havent talked to for years (but are FB friends with) who knew about the pic... so loads of people must have seen it!
 

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yeah only problem with that is im not buff. lol. my profile pic is not bad .. good shot of my face with a blue wall behind me. kind of hits your eye nicely :)
 

kingsam

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facebook isnt good for dating... notied the amount of threads on this forum that start with "this girl on facebook..." and end badly...

use fb to keep contacts/spy on old freinds etc...(every one does this!)

meet women in person, in the real world

also put ur security setting to "freinds only" it stops people you dont know seeing you / possible employers ...etc... thers alwasy embarasing pics on fb, you want to be able to control who can see them
 

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chance- said:
friendship
dating
a relationship
networking
Doesn't matter.

What do you think is gonna happen? A girl's gonna be into you, but not know your Facebook "relationship status" and she's gonna be turned off? Get real.

second. i have a few pics of me with girls hugging me kissing me etc.. one of them is ugly that im sitting next to. is that okay to still have as it shows i have social life? does it matter that girls are ugly.. still makes me look good?
What the f***? I'm sorry to take out my frustrations on you, but this Facebook crap is starting to piss me off.

Are you happy with the f**king picture? Yes? Then f**king use it. It's just common sense.

Unless it's a picture that shows you blowing another dude, I really don't think anyone gives a f***. My god, people. Stop overthinking every damn thing. Better yet, go meet women in real life. Facebook isn't even a dating site for christ's sake.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thedude4242

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dont go on facebook to date just use to it to talk to people. wait for women to contact you in those kind of ways.
 

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Actually I don't like to tick looking for... I think it makes me look desperate. as if you need something or you are expecting stuff out of your facebook. just my opinion
 

JCballin88

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bookman said:
Actually I don't like to tick looking for... I think it makes me look desperate. as if you need something or you are expecting stuff out of your facebook. just my opinion
Same here...remember that "less is more." I have guy friends on there with all those boxes ticked and they've been single (and admittedly desperate) for a LONG time.
 

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yeah I wouldn't want people to have a track of when I am single and when I am not... I leave most of my info empty, I do not make plans public, I don't want people to know a lot about me, leave some mystery :p plus it is embarrasing if you keep the single status for too long
 

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over thinking. i just have friendship and random play ticked off though
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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CaptainJ

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chance- said:
yeah only problem with that is im not buff.
Why not? Get your ass in the squat rack boy!
 
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