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Master Don Juan
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So I went out today despite feeling like crap, having only 6 hours of sleep (I'm in the in college, and that's a big factor in performance levels). I had a pen with me and spent some time furiously scribbling down a few issues and ideas that came up for me when I was out:
1. I have no friends. I have acquaintances, but I don't have a "crew" per say, because I am very particular about who I hang out with. I want to hang out with people who are as motivated as I am, but I can never seem to find any. I also want cooler guy friends who may not be as motivated, but I don't know how to really make friends with them. I was thinking maybe a contemporary church would be a good place to find these kinds of guy friends.
2. Often I'll walk by a girl or group of girls, and then after about a half minute of deciding that I'm going to go for it, I go for the approach. It's not as spontaneous as I think it's supposed to be (maybe this is just an unhealthy standard), but often I'll get a good reaction.
3. Sometimes I can't tell a girls age. I'm 19 years old, almost 20, but I look like I'm much older beacuse of the way I dress. I can't get into most bars and clubs in my area, so I'm limited to malls, social gatherings, college campuses (my favorite, lots of girls there), and cafes.
4. Sometimes, especially at a mall, I'll see a girl with a nice body, but I can't see her face, and it can be difficult to get into position to see her face without doing anything outwardly weird, because often they're in women's clothing stores. Yeah, I know about having your own reality and stuff, but if i go into the stores too often, the employees will recognize me and be like "wtf". Or at least I think they will.
5. Wedding rings! They deter me, even though I know most girls wear them to keep the *******s away!
6. When I walk through the mall, I'm rarely there for more than 20 minutes. I walk briskly, and people often comment on how I often look like I'm on a mission. I walk down the mall scanning, and looking into the stores to see if there's anyone interesting to talk to. My standard approach is "Hey, I saw you over here and I just wanted to meet you." It gets good reactions, but I often quickly stall and eject, usually within less than a minute. It's the experience that matters, right? I used to just ask "Hey, I saw you over here and I wanted to find out if you were single". That almost ALWAYS got an EXCELLENT response, but it seemed like every girl I asked that wasn't single, and I couldn't tell if they really were. Whatever. Maybe I come in with too much energy?
7. I usually lose a girl after the day two or three. I have no idea why, and I think it may be because I might call/text too often. I've made it a goal that from now on, I'll hang out with the girl ONCE, and ONLY ONCE, and move on to the next one, regardless of what happens, because I obviously do something that gets their interest level down, why not just skip the step and move on immediately?
1. I have no friends. I have acquaintances, but I don't have a "crew" per say, because I am very particular about who I hang out with. I want to hang out with people who are as motivated as I am, but I can never seem to find any. I also want cooler guy friends who may not be as motivated, but I don't know how to really make friends with them. I was thinking maybe a contemporary church would be a good place to find these kinds of guy friends.
2. Often I'll walk by a girl or group of girls, and then after about a half minute of deciding that I'm going to go for it, I go for the approach. It's not as spontaneous as I think it's supposed to be (maybe this is just an unhealthy standard), but often I'll get a good reaction.
3. Sometimes I can't tell a girls age. I'm 19 years old, almost 20, but I look like I'm much older beacuse of the way I dress. I can't get into most bars and clubs in my area, so I'm limited to malls, social gatherings, college campuses (my favorite, lots of girls there), and cafes.
4. Sometimes, especially at a mall, I'll see a girl with a nice body, but I can't see her face, and it can be difficult to get into position to see her face without doing anything outwardly weird, because often they're in women's clothing stores. Yeah, I know about having your own reality and stuff, but if i go into the stores too often, the employees will recognize me and be like "wtf". Or at least I think they will.
5. Wedding rings! They deter me, even though I know most girls wear them to keep the *******s away!
6. When I walk through the mall, I'm rarely there for more than 20 minutes. I walk briskly, and people often comment on how I often look like I'm on a mission. I walk down the mall scanning, and looking into the stores to see if there's anyone interesting to talk to. My standard approach is "Hey, I saw you over here and I just wanted to meet you." It gets good reactions, but I often quickly stall and eject, usually within less than a minute. It's the experience that matters, right? I used to just ask "Hey, I saw you over here and I wanted to find out if you were single". That almost ALWAYS got an EXCELLENT response, but it seemed like every girl I asked that wasn't single, and I couldn't tell if they really were. Whatever. Maybe I come in with too much energy?
7. I usually lose a girl after the day two or three. I have no idea why, and I think it may be because I might call/text too often. I've made it a goal that from now on, I'll hang out with the girl ONCE, and ONLY ONCE, and move on to the next one, regardless of what happens, because I obviously do something that gets their interest level down, why not just skip the step and move on immediately?