"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Feminine Manipulation - Projecting the Good Girl Image

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I don't know if this is something that generally happens to good, or better, looking guys... But I have a minor theory (or off-shoot of a theory) that a select percentage of girls who recognize you as being attractive (and thus worth entertaining), will try to project this Good Girl aura so as to try to persuade you into thinking that is who they are, which is not accurate.

They've read Cosmo so many times that they think by projecting this false Good Girl Image we may fall in love and live happily ever after. Well, for guys like me, that's a recipe for disaster. Why? Because I have a high sex drive. And this typical "holding off" of sex and other uninhibited sexual encounters, so as to stay congruent with a Good Girl Image, leads me (the person with options) frustrated with the fact that the girl I'm dating is trying this on me. It feels disingenuous and desperate. So not only do I not get the sex that could be enjoyed but I'm also dealing with a manipulative personality.

Is this typical of most women? It's a broader interpretation of the Anti-Slut Defense and would fall in line with the dual/conflicting schedules of mating Rollo has talked about (and makes perfect sense).

I'm leaning toward it being typical... Anyone skilled enough to know how to handle this successfully? It just seems so... Dirty. Impure. False.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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while shes trying to make you wait for sex, be banging a couple of other chics on the side. when she wonders why your not so hard up for her...she might get the message that you have options.
 

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Warrior74 said:
while shes trying to make you wait for sex, be banging a couple of other chics on the side. when she wonders why your not so hard up for her...she might get the message that you have options.
I figured that was the only remedy.

But is it naive to think that there are a lot of girls out there that don't play "this" game? Is this behavior typical?
 
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