Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
was thinking the same thing. First thing that popped into my head when I read the title, "fat chicks".Blackmm said:Happens a lot with fat and ugly chicks trying to win you over.
Its ok dood. I totally feel you on that one. Thing is its kinda hard to distinguish between a chick that is trully genuinely attracted to you to an AW unless you hear it from other people, see them in action(but sometimes thats not enough), or in most cases just plain out experience getting your attention leeched out of by her(like your story).young pat said:Sorry for the rant, I just needed to get that out as I'm just annoyed at myself for not seeing the AW traits from the beginning and not when I nexted her, and the fact that none of my buddies who knew her felt it necessary to inform me until after that she was indeed an AW.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I had this fat chick I used to work with ALWAYS going after what's in my pants and would not stop until I put out. I didn't put out at all, and she came after me even more, and telling other women that I was her man/ baby daddy. I wouldn't touch the b**ch with a 93 foot pole!Blackmm said:Happens a lot with fat and ugly chicks trying to win you over.
weird enough, they have the attitude most of us here NEED.:crackup:nismo-4 said:Fat chicks and ugly chicks are used to being rejected and have nothing to lose.
Rebound Material said:Its ok dood. I totally feel you on that one. Thing is its kinda hard to distinguish between a chick that is trully genuinely attracted to you to an AW unless you hear it from other people, see them in action(but sometimes thats not enough), or in most cases just plain out experience getting your attention leeched out of by her(like your story).
young pat said:Thanks man. I hate to hijack this thread, but I just have one more thing to add to my little side story. Yesterday I got a text from this AW, she was *****ing at me because I haven't texted her since she pulled this little stunt, and she a was wondering if I am angry with her.
There is one last thing that my buddy just brought to my attention, I'm just retelling the story. I was recently at a party, and well my drinking got a little out of hand, and I ended up not remembering a couple of hours of the night. Well apparently this AW was there also, and she was hitting on me hard when she wasn't too tipsy (and when I have no recalection (sp?) of the night) and apparently we kept drinking as she was hanging off of me, and from what I hear me only, even when I'd leave her she'd come and try to find me.
We were just debating if actions like that would constitute as tools in the AW's arsenal of attention sapping tools, or if there is something else going on with her. He suggests that I should probably just leave her to herself for the next little while and then take a shot at it near the beginning of school. I'm convinced that shes just an AW. Which one of us is right here?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.