"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Females Love to set Traps!!!!

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There is no point. Walking away is a type of emotional blackmail. It shifts the power right back to the person having the balls to do it as a mean of regaining control of the situation. It works and it works really well.

But at one point, we have to start growing up and stop playing this game. yet, society teaches that we need to play this game. Your parents do it to you, so you do it to your love ones.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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JJ0004 said:
Why do females want to set a trap on dudes all the time? In other words when they say they want you to be her man and I reply by saying "Lets chill and see what happens." Then they test you by ignoring you for days even weeks to see if you miss them.

I know most of you guys have gone through this and some of you probably texted or called a few times(2 max). Then you stop trying.

From your experience out of all the girls that flaked on you, how many actually responded back to you and how long did they take to reply back after they put the silent treatment on you????
Well i noticed that when I failed the flake test by getting angry at them and telling them I was angry that i never got very far after that... but when I passed the flake test by acting like i didnt care too much and understanding of their BS excuse I ended up f'ing very fast...
 

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They flake to see how much you care, and if you are a wvss, at the same time.

Even if you "pass", don't they fail? Yes, they fail.
 

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dannyegg4575 said:
There is no point. Walking away is a type of emotional blackmail. It shifts the power right back to the person having the balls to do it as a mean of regaining control of the situation. It works and it works really well.

But at one point, we have to start growing up and stop playing this game. yet, society teaches that we need to play this game. Your parents do it to you, so you do it to your love ones.
Didn´t you contradict yourself with the last paragraph?
 

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Blue Phoenix said:
Walking away is effective but she loses you. What´s the point if she pushes you hard enough if it reaches this stage (The guy leaving)??
And why would you want to stay if she pushes that hard? :confused:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And why would you want to stay if she pushes that hard? :confused:
Who said I wanted to stay when she pushes hard???
 

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Emotional blackmail is something that our parents used on us when we were bratty little kids. If you don't stop crying, we're going to withdraw the love from you. What's worst than physical abuse? Emotional abuse. It tells the other person, 'smarten up and do what i say or else'. Threats of walking away really is what making the other person feel.
 

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So if you're the guy you really need to mean it, or imply it, that you indeed will walk away. You're not really looking for attention, you're looking to take care of business.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And because she has breast, that's the kicker!
Imitating Homer Simpson... "hmm.... breasts...." :p
 

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I'm thinking you took too long to escalate. I've made the same mistake recently.

What do you mean I took too long to escalate???? And what would you have done different?
 

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They flake to see how much you care, and if you are a wvss, at the same time.

Even if you "pass", don't they fail? Yes, they fail.
This is what confuses me SO much! The girl only looks stupid when she puts up a dumb flake test and then pursues you *afterwards*.

But I guess females have the liberty of throwing potentially great relationships on the line before they even begin.....because she has a huge selection of men to choose from.
 

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But I guess females have the liberty of throwing potentially great relationships on the line before they even begin.....because she has a huge selection of men to choose from.
Exacltly!!:up:

The only way to play the game women play is to have many women which makes LTRs and marriage impossible
 

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Walking away is our last and most wild card. The time a girl takes you from granted and feels on the pedestal, that´s the best moment to use this card and throw her down. She won´t know what hit her!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LostAndConfused said:
This is what confuses me SO much! The girl only looks stupid when she puts up a dumb flake test and then pursues you *afterwards*.

But I guess females have the liberty of throwing potentially great relationships on the line before they even begin.....because she has a huge selection of men to choose from.
This is why you don't take them seriously until you've fvcked them. All girls are going to test but they are going to do it in their own unique way. The test is really to see if you're a man. But a real man doesn't put up with tests. So it's kind of a paradox there.
 

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This is why you don't take them seriously until you've fvcked them. All girls are going to test but they are going to do it in their own unique way. The test is really to see if you're a man. But a real man doesn't put up with tests. So it's kind of a paradox there.
What do mean by "a man won´t put up with tests"??? Doing what?
 
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