Female friends... trust their advice?

[stormwriter]

Do you guys have female friends that you talk to about women, and if so, do you trust their advice?

I have one female friend that i mostly trust her advice. I email her Doc Love advice, and she said he's right 99% of the time when it comes to women. This chick has some pearls of wisdom, and i told her she should write a book with all this amazing info. She said, "guys shouldn't know these secrets about women. I'm only telling you cause you are a nice guy, and won't take advantage of this knowledge."

She's the kind of chick that i email 20 times a day with all the details of the woman i'm seeing. It makes me feel neurotic thinking about every single stupid little detail. I feel like a chick.... I've caused myself so much stress obsessing and talking about every detail with this female friend of mine.
And if she feels the chick isn't right for me, i think she's giving me bogus advice to piss the girl off, so the girl will dust me instead.

I have another female friend that tells me stupid stuff like, "Just be yourself! You are a great guy, and any girl would love to be with you!" and that gets me nowhere but dumped.

So, i guess i'm wondering if a female friend's advice is bogus, cause they tell us what women "supposedly" want, which may or may not be the case in real life.

 

[Chip]

There's always good advice and bad advice, it doesn't matter who it's coming from.
Just go with your gut feelings, they'll never lead you in the wrong direction.

 

[Survivor]

It doesn't matter if its coming from a male or female. Their advice will always pale in comparison to what you experience for yourself in the School of Hard Knocks.

 

[Reto]

I agree. Advice is just what it is. Advice. You take it or you don't take it.

I have gotten an interesting perspective on how women think from my female friends...

 

[-Zero_h0uR-]

Originally posted by stormwriter
She's the kind of chick that i email 20 times a day with all the details of the woman i'm seeing. It makes me feel neurotic thinking about every single stupid little detail. I feel like a chick.... I've caused myself so much stress obsessing and talking about every detail with this female friend of mine.
And if she feels the chick isn't right for me, i think she's giving me bogus advice to piss the girl off, so the girl will dust me instead.

20 times A DAY!?

Dude... You are a chick.


Read the Don Juan Bible, and RELAX SOME!!!!!!

If you don't, you really will go insane.


-- Zero-

 

[Leporello]

Originally posted by stormwriter
She's the kind of chick that i email 20 times a day with all the details of the woman i'm seeing. It makes me feel neurotic thinking about every single stupid little detail. I feel like a chick.... I've caused myself so much stress obsessing and talking about every detail with this female friend of mine.
And if she feels the chick isn't right for me, i think she's giving me bogus advice to piss the girl off, so the girl will dust me instead.

Whoah, buddy. Stop right there.

I used to do that with a female friend of mine. It did nothing but piss her off and erode her support for me. Eventually she came back (women come back to me like cats to the cream), but it was certainly a dangerous thing.

Can you trust them? Sometimes. But then, maybe not. The advice she gave me never got me anywhere.

 

[trajhenkhet]

No such thing as wise men or wise women. Only those who walk the walk. Is the lady good at attracting other ladies?

 

[Quick]

You know you have some things to work on about yourself if you feel the need to constantly email this girl about details. You can't possibly be in a good position to get girls with that kind of mindset. You need to develop confidence in your actions, so that you stop being so obsessive.

1. Memorize the parts of the bible you're weak on. Ask questions in the forums about parts you don't understand or might disagree with.

2. Decide right now to cut out the AFC behaviors. Practice the DJ ones. Get yourself in the mindset that you're going to act like a DJ because you know that the focus should be on improving yourself and nothing else matters. You're going to do what you need to make yourself happy, and any girl that can't get with that program is meaningless.

3. Know what you want and go find it. Date multiple girls. Stop worrying about the details. You did what you needed to do. If the girl didn't like it or is a flake, too bad for her. Anyone that's constantly worrying about the details is getting too focused on individual girls. With a solid plan of action and the knowledge that there are other girls waiting if this one fails, you'll be able to take things a lot calmer.

The girl who says "just be yourself" is a non-introspective girl who knows nothing about attraction. She's just repeating catch phrases and any good advice she gives you will be by accident. Even a stopped clock is right two times a day. I was trying to tell a girl how to dramatically improve her writing today. When I started speaking in generalities, I realized it was because I didn't have a real and helpful answer for those questions.

 

[Leyton House]

One more thing... Even you will be "successfull" with her advice, it will not lead very far, becaus she is basically not together with you, but with her! Once you have to act spontaneous, you are lost... I did the same thing some time ago, since I knew my female friend was giving me excellent advice. But women in general can see if the behaviour is faked or if it is your own, so that good advice is not so helpfull in the longer run.
On women in general: most of them do not know themselves what they want, so how can they give you good advice? If she is not a very romantic type, i would say chances are good that their advise is reasonably good, as long as you internalize it. I only know two women who give good advice on women, the rest is nothing more than the usual JBY advice...

 

[myfriendblu]

I take most of what females say with a grain of salt. I never found a girls advise to be much of anything, except for maybe my kindergarden teacher telling me to be nice, to share, LOL. Honestly, most chiks are reasonably clueless, have a difficult time grasping reality and are very niave. at least most guys can sorta realize there full of crap, because most women don't believe that they are.