Most guys I know that are very successful with women have a combination of an above average physical appearance combined with massive social proof.
It seems that social proofing can work wonders towards attracting women. Women LOVE guys that other women go for, even if the guy is not that spectacular looking.
I notice that these guys usually have a network of female acquaintances/friends that they hang out with. They go out AS FRIENDS and the guy really does not care if the girl is attracted to him. He just treats her like a guy friend (minus sex jokes and other man-to-man talk) and does not try to make a move.
Their value increases to the other chicks because he is constantly seen laughing and having a good time with his girl friends. His girl friends may even become attracted to him at some point in time.
My theory:
So if this is how it is played, maybe a good start for a lot of guys here is to work on physical improvement, approach attractive female friends and make subtle remarks that you want to be friends w/ them even if they are interested in you. Build up your female friends base until you can consistently hang out with them @ clubs, malls, parties. Build up your guy friend base so you don't come off as gay. Go fishing, camping, poker, gym, etc....
Give off the vibe that you're not lookin to hook up. Look harmless. Let the girls get comfortable to the point where they will be hugging you and touching you because THEY TRUST you won't take it seriously.
Then watch as they start developing feelings for you because they can't stand other girls wanting to be around you. You will be social proofed like crazy and then you can start hooking up.
This work for handsome good-lookin dudes here because girls assume that they are players or "ladies men" but if they are surrounded by chicks that admire, trust, and respect them, then girls will be more willing to sleep with them and not feel guilty afterwards.
Average to above average guys here could implement this as well with the same success, cause it will throw off the girls preconceived perceptions that you are just lookin to hook up. Once you are social proofed they will be willing to compromise to get with a sought after guy like you. Plus you'll be "that ugly dude that gets all the chicks" haha
This is just one aspect of winnin it with the ladies and its also a theory of mine, im not really social proofed like I wish I was because I always try to "hook up" with every girl that crosses my path. I guess they see that I am just "another horndog tryin to get into their pants" If i loosened up like some of the more successful guys i know, then maybe I wouldnt be facing so many more rejections then they are. I truly think the reason a lot of guys here just dont make it with women is because they have little to no female friends/aquaintances.
It seems that social proofing can work wonders towards attracting women. Women LOVE guys that other women go for, even if the guy is not that spectacular looking.
I notice that these guys usually have a network of female acquaintances/friends that they hang out with. They go out AS FRIENDS and the guy really does not care if the girl is attracted to him. He just treats her like a guy friend (minus sex jokes and other man-to-man talk) and does not try to make a move.
Their value increases to the other chicks because he is constantly seen laughing and having a good time with his girl friends. His girl friends may even become attracted to him at some point in time.
My theory:
So if this is how it is played, maybe a good start for a lot of guys here is to work on physical improvement, approach attractive female friends and make subtle remarks that you want to be friends w/ them even if they are interested in you. Build up your female friends base until you can consistently hang out with them @ clubs, malls, parties. Build up your guy friend base so you don't come off as gay. Go fishing, camping, poker, gym, etc....
Give off the vibe that you're not lookin to hook up. Look harmless. Let the girls get comfortable to the point where they will be hugging you and touching you because THEY TRUST you won't take it seriously.
Then watch as they start developing feelings for you because they can't stand other girls wanting to be around you. You will be social proofed like crazy and then you can start hooking up.
This work for handsome good-lookin dudes here because girls assume that they are players or "ladies men" but if they are surrounded by chicks that admire, trust, and respect them, then girls will be more willing to sleep with them and not feel guilty afterwards.
Average to above average guys here could implement this as well with the same success, cause it will throw off the girls preconceived perceptions that you are just lookin to hook up. Once you are social proofed they will be willing to compromise to get with a sought after guy like you. Plus you'll be "that ugly dude that gets all the chicks" haha
This is just one aspect of winnin it with the ladies and its also a theory of mine, im not really social proofed like I wish I was because I always try to "hook up" with every girl that crosses my path. I guess they see that I am just "another horndog tryin to get into their pants" If i loosened up like some of the more successful guys i know, then maybe I wouldnt be facing so many more rejections then they are. I truly think the reason a lot of guys here just dont make it with women is because they have little to no female friends/aquaintances.