"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Female friends/Accepting friendzone

NobodyCares1

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So lately I've been thinking about me and expanding my social circle which was very small for years. Now since I began to develop my game I began socialising more. I have some more guy friends, but maybe just two or three female, well not even friends, we don't talk regurally, I just know them and sometimes we have a short convo.

I thought about it and usually when I get to regurally have conversations with a woman I end up making a move on her and we basically become more than friends even when I say that we are just friends. I always make a move and this so far ended up just in one of two ways. She either had enough of me hooking up with other women and stopped contacting me (she said that she really just wants to be friends but I rejected that) or well this haven't happened yet but I have a feeling that one girl will try to friendzone me soon. We've been going out together for a month, we even talked about a relationship, then some stuff happened I haven't contacted her for a month, she then broke the NC so I thought about giving her another chance, but I have a feeling that she has interest in some other guy now. So she just keeps me around as a backup, and will probably want us to be friends for now.

So one way to get more female friends would be to choose the low road and accept frienzone. I don't feel comfortable with this but most of my female friends come from my AFC times and I really don't have a lot of close female friends (I'd say only three). So should I consider accepting friendzone? Or should I just be more socially agressive, like adding girls I just met on FB and texting them, really trying to be friends?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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LearningSlowly

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I have the same problem sometimes. Friends drift in and out, and so do lovers. Just be open and offer to hang out with male and female friends often. Then be happy with whatever results, because that is the only mood worth having.
 
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