"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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female friend whos into me, HELP

ediceneet12

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I have a female friend who i'm very found of
I consider her one of my best friends. I've recently
found out that she's really into me. The thing is I have
no feelings for her at all sexually, emotionally except
for being friends.

Now she's extremely clingy to the point
were she texts me all the time, recently
she stopped texting me as much and hasn't
contacted me at all today and is saying stuff
on her twitter like "anything could be better then
the relationship I have with you right now".

Anyways I haven't texted her today because
I don't know what to say, I feel like messaging after
not contacting her for a while would just be really forced/awkward.
I don't wanna lose this chick as a friend I wish she'd just
see me as a friend so we could just continue what we have now.

I know this is a weird thing to post here but please
help, I know I sound like a chump and I don't really care
I just want the friend I had back. I feel like she might just
stop talking to me completely because she isn't getting
what she wants and that's a relationship.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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TK-421

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I've had this sort of problem, I mentioned it in my journal before I think. The girl in question didn't actually know I knew about her feelings though, so I it was a lot easier to deal with.

What I did was ignore it essentially, just continue what I do. I don't think that's very helpful in your situation.

You have a few options as I see it,
Ideally you could talk to her, tell her that **** isn't going to happen and you want to be friends. I don't think she'll handle it well though. From what I have read, she is not being very mature about this at all.

You could continue treating her as normal, implicitly friend-zoning her.

Or you could break off all contact and let her get over it herself, but she might not come back to you. And as you said, you want to be friends with her .

Ultimately, it's your choice, and you have to decide the best way to handle this situation. Sometimes you may not always have advice or help at your disposal. You have to take charge, make your own decision.

What I can tell you is do not, under any circumstances, start a relationship with her. Just don't
 

ediceneet12

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I found out from a mutual friend because she started asking people I knew, if i liked her. Then one night I got bored and looked up her twitter and saw that almost every most was relating to me in some sort of way.
 

Alvafe

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better he do not talk with ehr, she possible thinks he don't know about it.

thing is you can't control what she will do, you can be honest and tell her you heard she asking about you and ask what is all about? or not talk about it and see what happens, like you said you don't feel anything but are afraid to hurt her feelings, but unless you feel the same as her you will hurt her feelings, so up to you how you will deal with it.

remember too if was any guy here asking about the girl saying she only like you as friends is cut all contact and move on, so it can happen and if do don't go after her, save you and her any kind of problem
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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