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female friend whos into me, HELP

ediceneet12

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I have a female friend who i'm very found of
I consider her one of my best friends. I've recently
found out that she's really into me. The thing is I have
no feelings for her at all sexually, emotionally except
for being friends.

Now she's extremely clingy to the point
were she texts me all the time, recently
she stopped texting me as much and hasn't
contacted me at all today and is saying stuff
on her twitter like "anything could be better then
the relationship I have with you right now".

Anyways I haven't texted her today because
I don't know what to say, I feel like messaging after
not contacting her for a while would just be really forced/awkward.
I don't wanna lose this chick as a friend I wish she'd just
see me as a friend so we could just continue what we have now.

I know this is a weird thing to post here but please
help, I know I sound like a chump and I don't really care
I just want the friend I had back. I feel like she might just
stop talking to me completely because she isn't getting
what she wants and that's a relationship.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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I've had this sort of problem, I mentioned it in my journal before I think. The girl in question didn't actually know I knew about her feelings though, so I it was a lot easier to deal with.

What I did was ignore it essentially, just continue what I do. I don't think that's very helpful in your situation.

You have a few options as I see it,
Ideally you could talk to her, tell her that **** isn't going to happen and you want to be friends. I don't think she'll handle it well though. From what I have read, she is not being very mature about this at all.

You could continue treating her as normal, implicitly friend-zoning her.

Or you could break off all contact and let her get over it herself, but she might not come back to you. And as you said, you want to be friends with her .

Ultimately, it's your choice, and you have to decide the best way to handle this situation. Sometimes you may not always have advice or help at your disposal. You have to take charge, make your own decision.

What I can tell you is do not, under any circumstances, start a relationship with her. Just don't
 

ediceneet12

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I found out from a mutual friend because she started asking people I knew, if i liked her. Then one night I got bored and looked up her twitter and saw that almost every most was relating to me in some sort of way.
 

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better he do not talk with ehr, she possible thinks he don't know about it.

thing is you can't control what she will do, you can be honest and tell her you heard she asking about you and ask what is all about? or not talk about it and see what happens, like you said you don't feel anything but are afraid to hurt her feelings, but unless you feel the same as her you will hurt her feelings, so up to you how you will deal with it.

remember too if was any guy here asking about the girl saying she only like you as friends is cut all contact and move on, so it can happen and if do don't go after her, save you and her any kind of problem
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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