"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Female Friend Wants Me To Treat Her Like a Girlfriend

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I met a girl last weekend who is a friend of a friend. We were dancing, grinding and making out for a good long while. We didn't have sex that night. She said she had to get up early for work. I didn't press the issue. A few texts since then. She sends out an open invite for thursday: playing pool, which leads to drinks and dancing.

However there are only a couple of girls and only of them is pretty: her. Four of us guys stay out late. She is trying to "leverage" this situation, ignoring me, acting like she is interested in these 3 ugly guys. I'm not buying it, but I'm bored as she is clearly playing games. I talk to a couple of other girls and she throws a small tantrum. This annoys me even further so I get away from her and dance and grind with a couple of the hottest girls there.

NOW, she completely loses interest in all other guys and just watches and stares at me having fun. Then she continually reapproaches me all lovey dovey now. I'm nice to her but having a really good time with these girls. I get these girls' numbers but look for my female friend at the end of the night and she is nowhere to be found. I just assume she went home.

Next morning, she is ticked off. She sends polite texts asking if I got home safe. Now, this is customarily the guy's standard text the next morning. So, basically, she was going to tease me, blue ball me the entire night, then MAYBE I get laid at the end of the night, but I have to endure her flirting with a bunch of other guys all night. Then I have to be her "safe" escort home as if I were a date or even boyfriend. Yet, I feel no such obligation.

I can see this game coming from a million miles away. What girls don't realize is that when the ratios in a bar are even close to 50/50, I have far more leverage than they could even imagine. I have a date tonight which is good, but be careful: women these days think every guy is a cuck who will just follow them around like a puppy dog and that he has zero backbone.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Next morning, she is ticked off. She sends polite texts asking if I got home safe. Now, this is customarily the guy's standard text the next morning. So, basically, she was going to tease me, blue ball me the entire night, then MAYBE I get laid at the end of the night, but I have to endure her flirting with a bunch of other guys all night. Then I have to be her "safe" escort home as if I were a date or even boyfriend. Yet, I feel no such obligation.
I think you're doing good so far, you just gotta keep making it clear through your actions that if she wants you, she better spread those legs rather than play games.
 

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So, basically, she was going to tease me, blue ball me the entire night, then MAYBE I get laid at the end of the night, but I have to endure her flirting with a bunch of other guys all night. .
I would find this kind of behavior a turn off. I'm sure many girls think this is a good go-to move, but it would just revolt me.
I would do the same thing you did and just drop all interest and attention.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I would find this kind of behavior a turn off. I'm sure many girls think this is a good go-to move, but it would just revolt me.
I would do the same thing you did and just drop all interest and attention.
Yeah but I've seen guys pull it off. They get the girl at the end of the night (or so it seems. impossible to say for sure). However, they have to endure hours of physically chasing the girl around along with 2,3,4 other guys. The girl may be pushing, even hitting or kicking the guy, to tool him. No joke. It's utter humiliation. There is absolutely no chance I will allow that to happen.
 

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Yeah but I've seen guys pull it off
Oh, I'm sure you could pull it off. I'm saying at that point I wouldn't even want it anymore. Like I wouldn't want to kiss her if she threw up in my car or blew a guy in the bathroom. I just don't need that in my life. On to the next thing.
 

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I met a girl last weekend who is a friend of a friend. We were dancing, grinding and making out for a good long while. We didn't have sex that night. She said she had to get up early for work. I didn't press the issue. A few texts since then. She sends out an open invite for thursday: playing pool, which leads to drinks and dancing.

However there are only a couple of girls and only of them is pretty: her. Four of us guys stay out late. She is trying to "leverage" this situation, ignoring me, acting like she is interested in these 3 ugly guys. I'm not buying it, but I'm bored as she is clearly playing games. I talk to a couple of other girls and she throws a small tantrum. This annoys me even further so I get away from her and dance and grind with a couple of the hottest girls there.

NOW, she completely loses interest in all other guys and just watches and stares at me having fun. Then she continually reapproaches me all lovey dovey now. I'm nice to her but having a really good time with these girls. I get these girls' numbers but look for my female friend at the end of the night and she is nowhere to be found. I just assume she went home.

Next morning, she is ticked off. She sends polite texts asking if I got home safe. Now, this is customarily the guy's standard text the next morning. So, basically, she was going to tease me, blue ball me the entire night, then MAYBE I get laid at the end of the night, but I have to endure her flirting with a bunch of other guys all night. Then I have to be her "safe" escort home as if I were a date or even boyfriend. Yet, I feel no such obligation.

I can see this game coming from a million miles away. What girls don't realize is that when the ratios in a bar are even close to 50/50, I have far more leverage than they could even imagine. I have a date tonight which is good, but be careful: women these days think every guy is a cuck who will just follow them around like a puppy dog and that he has zero backbone.
Good job man !
 
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