female freind phones me-i get lectuer from folks

[joe45]

anyone ever been used or been taken advantage of before-was dating, or relationship wise. i'm wonderin if your a guy-works and makes low wages or justp/t mimnum wage job or unemployed, no car, how can odds be that the girl ur dating take advantage of you and use you. in my mind i really doubt it.


funny thing is i met a girl off the net we chatted on the phone, my dad picked up the phone and heard i was chatting with a female friend -which she is. we chatted for like 1hr and half. after i finish chatting with her on the phone i went to bed, he later comes down while i am sleeping and tells me to be careful about ppl and life. his mentaility is he belives everyone in life is out there to take advantage of u and use u-nobody is really ur friend.

he mention not to buy nice sports cars- as a lot of sport car drivers-at night time- would initate and arrograte u, in order for u to race against em-cut in front of u, raise their mid finger, name callin u to race em-ya so don't drive a nice supra, celcia, rsx , intergra.

yea how some ppl and girls are out there to use and take advantage of u, hes askin me where i met her from -i said school, he tellin me to be street smart and be careful . he lectures me for approx 30 minutes, about con artist and how they fool ppl into their money and still can get away with it. he asks me if the girl is chinese and if she goin to school-which i mention yes. oh ya and why Jen phoned so late-11:00pm and we chatted till 12 30 -is that very late.
hes gettin all parnoid about how ppl in life are out to get u-i guess since JEn phoned late at night he thinks she up to no good. he tellin me not to take drugs from ppl-which i never ever did. he still tells and remind me of not to take drugs from age 16 to now age 25. never ever told any drugs-not sure where the heck he gets the idea. its annoying-yes it is.



Jen my friend shes not even my gf-we just went out for coffee once and she invited me out to movie-she works at the theatre.

how can some girl even take advantage of a guy who has no funds or is very thrifty on the dates. lol

 

[spider_007]

my mom was like that.

by the time I realized she was wrong, it was puirty much too late.

If your helping a friend out, Is he taking advantage of you. Yes, in a way he is. But if you don't help firends out, you wont have any.

He is right about one thing. You have to be smart, and take care of your self. If a situation arises where you can help a firend out, DO IT, but know your limit, AND ALWAYS PUT YOUR SELF FIRST.

-If a chick asks for money, you know lending money to firends never ends right....SO YOU DON'T DO IT.
-if a friend is working on his house and asked you to help him, and you got notting more important to do anyways, help him, even if it means working more then one day at it....
-if a bich asks you to drive her to a party, and then while there never talks to you, ignores you, and makes you with some other guy....and then comes back when she needs a ride home, and is all nice to you all of a sudden...your being used.....

It's jut knowing your self, being able to read people around you etc.

 

[oranges]

Some people would buy a sports car just to race other people !

 

[Latinoman]

Tell your dad that you are 23 years old...and ADULT man. But tell him that with respect.

Although, I have a better idea...get your own place.

Dude, you are an adult. It is nice that you listen to the old man talking and consider his advice. But all that said, you are an adult male. You have to make your own decisions.

 

[Rondavu]

Your dad just cares about you, but he has a warped perspective on life. In reality, you should trust someone until they prove untrustworty. Of course this doesn't apply to putting yourself at risk.

When I was a kid we moved into this new apartment. First night a drunk guy knocks on the door who lived in the house behind us and asked my dad for 20 bucks. He handed it right over not knowing him. I asked him why he did that and he said "If he doesn't pay me back, then I won't lend him money anymore". Just as you have credit until you ruin it in the financial world, you give credit until it's lost in the interpersonal world. Don't buy into this "Don't trust anyone" mentality. It's paranoid, and out of touch.