Female Approaches

[synergy1]

women don't approach me too often, but it does happen from time to time. I am slightly above average height but not too much, but I do see the tall guys getting approached on that fact alone. Must be nice! However at my height its more up to me and how I do the approach to dictate success. Women will give me the signals to approach so I have to act on it. Consider it a **** test I have to jump through hoops where as a really tall dude already has passed said **** test.

 

[backbreaker]

just today i went to the grocery store to pick up some tomato sauce for the meatloaf i'm making tomrorow and these 2 girls come walking towards me and then look away and start giggling and i hear one of them say "damn
he's fine". i got to admit i chuckled

I'm pretty hot. I think the only thing keeping me from being a 9/9.5 is my height (5'8). but face wise i'll go toe to toe with anyone and like my chances i'm very handsome, myw ife tells me all the time i have the best skin of anyone she's ever met i do have really good skin i got that from my dad, natural light brown eyes and i don't have a very babyish face even at almost 30 which got on my nerves as a 15 year old but as a 30 year old i've grown into it. if i could go tot he store and buy about 6 inches of height i'd be doing the damn thing.

 

[SteR]

just today i went to the grocery store to pick up some tomato sauce for the meatloaf i'm making tomrorow and these 2 girls come walking towards me and then look away and start giggling and i hear one of them say "damn
he's fine". i got to admit i chuckled

I'm pretty hot. I think the only thing keeping me from being a 9/9.5 is my height (5'8). but face wise i'll go toe to toe with anyone and like my chances i'm very handsome, myw ife tells me all the time i have the best skin of anyone she's ever met i do have really good skin i got that from my dad, natural light brown eyes and i don't have a very babyish face even at almost 30 which got on my nerves as a 15 year old but as a 30 year old i've grown into it. if i could go tot he store and buy about 6 inches of height i'd be doing the damn thing.

lol a bit of humility wouldn't kill you...

 

[zekko]

just today i went to the grocery store to pick up some tomato sauce for the meatloaf i'm making tomrorow and these 2 girls come walking towards me and then look away and start giggling and i hear one of them say "damn he's fine".

I have to say getting that kind of feedback on a regular basis has got to make waaaaay easier to have good inner game. I will get compliments on my looks from girls who know me, but virtually never from strangers. It must be nice, has to be a big ego boost.

I know some pickup gurus like to push the idea that if you think you are hot, then you will be hot. I do think that's a good attitude to go around with for a guy, but I also think that if you were really hot, then the sort of thing you are describing would be happening to you.

I've often thought that the one thing you were missing, BB, is the height. It seems like you tick all the other boxes (looks, wealth, game). As a white male who gets to hear other white women talk, I also know there are quite a few girls who would find you a turn on just because you are black.

lol a bit of humility wouldn't kill you...

Eh, if he's hot he's hot.

 

[backbreaker]

lol a bit of humility wouldn't kill you...

lol why?

I have to say getting that kind of feedback on a regular basis has got to make waaaaay easier to have good inner game. I will get compliments on my looks from girls who know me, but virtually never from strangers. It must be nice, has to be a big ego boost.

exactly. if people tell you that you are good looking enough, you will tend to believe you are good looking and act accordingly. There is nothing wrong with thinking you are hot.

I mean i don't think i'm a model or anything like that but I believe that I grade high on most women's scales.

I know some pickup gurus like to push the idea that if you think you are hot, then you will be hot. I do think that's a good attitude to go around with for a guy, but I also think that if you were really hot, then the sort of thing you are describing would be happening to you.

If anything when i was single it (confidence in my looks) easier to cold approach girls beucase i honestly believe that just about every woman i would run into would at the very least, find me cute. So 9 out of 10 women if she thinks you are cute is at least going to hear your rap out without being a **** about it even if she is taken. I might not be her type; as stated i'm not all that tall and I am black but even with those 2 things, she wont' hink i'm unattractive. at least that's how I see it.

As a white male who gets to hear other white women talk, I also know there are quite a few girls who would find you a turn on just because you are black.

I've said that myself. I don't understand black guys who think being black is a barrier in 2013. then again, the way I dress and like, I'm black, but i'm not dark skinned so it's like, it's "DIFFERENT" but it's "toe in the water different" if that makes any sense not "let's jump in the deep end" different.

my wife has pretty much told me that's the reason she gave me a shot beucase when i first approached her she was polite even tempted but she thought i was too short. I pushed past her first no becu ase it seemed like a weak ass no and eventually got a yeah. she had never dated a black guy before and she thought i was pretty good looking.. we'd been eyeing each other for about 2 weeks before I approached her so I knew she was interested and i seemed like i was pretty confident in myselif, i'll give this little midget a shot lol. I'm the type of black guy that women who never dated black guys date to say they dated a black guy lol.


on the other hand zekko, it's why my game was so pathetically bad when i was young. it cuts both ways. therei s more to game than attracting girls. i could attract girls in high school. i couldn't keep them and i couldn't attract the ones that everyone wanted. that's what i wanted. they thought i was cute but i didnt' have the confidence to attract them. my game was horrible when i got to this form for the simple reason that i never had to work to attract girls. i bought the "she's not the right one ust keep holding on" line hook line and sinker. just keep weeding through them and you will find your one. and ALL of them eventually treated me like ****. that's a pretty ****ty feeling.

it just goes to show that at the end of the day we have some things working for us and we have some things thtat don't. i probably was blessed by having very good looking parents to be a good looking male but on the other hand i was raised by an overly religious mother that made me a BETA male AFC and my looks made it to where i never had to learn basic game princples that most well adjusted males have to learn. i had never in my life approached a girl straight up and asked for her number until i was on this forum. i never had to. i didn't know **** about screening for interest or any of that siht. i believed in the hall mark fairy tale

 

[Bokanovsky]

But how would they have known they had money? A suit != rich

A woman can tell the difference between a nice canali or zegna suit worn by a hot shot corporate lawyer and a walmart suit worn by a used car salesman. Average people rarely drop $2,000 - $3,000 on a suit.

 

[Jitterbug]

Eh, if he's hot he's hot.

He's also quite strong, squatting and bench pressing world record lifts for 20 reps in his weekly workouts.

Anyway... back to the thread.

I had a kinda of bizarre approach once at a hotel. Was there for a friend's birthday, and I happened to be really dressed up (talking suit and fedora). Didn't intend to do any gaming, but I was flirting with this chick I used to bang before she went overseas, and she just got back with a BF in tow. For whatever reason, it was a rather quiet night at this place, and the cute waitress kept coming to the table to make eye contact then flirt with me. We talked for a bit, it went well, and without me asking, she wrote her number down a piece of paper (how old fashioned, I thought at the time) and gave me so I could invite her to a local band gig. Btw this is Australia, we don't have the tipping culture you guys do, so she wasn't after tips. I TXTed her number either the day after or two days later, can't remember, but it turned out to be a wrong number of some guy who amusingly expressed sympathy towards me. He didn't know her either. Her handwriting was very clear, so it wasn't that. I did drop by the hotel once later and she pretended we never knew each other. I didn't talk to her at all, simply decided that she was :crazy: Not quite sure what that was all about though.

 

[5string]

5String, that's sweet, but I told you, I like you as a FRIEND. Now can you buy me a drink like you promised?

Even though you have now friendzoned me, I'd still buy the beers brother.

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

I can say from my experience, I've never been "ugly" when I was in m teens I dated cute girls, but girls would how can i explain it.. let it be known that they were open to you making a move on them. they never really just approached me.

actually getting approached by real live girls didn't happen utnil I seriously, seriously hit the gym and got in shape. once my jawline really became more defined and I started to fill out shirts with my chest and what not girls dig that ****.

and the thing is, girls that approach you, you know they want to ****. that's why they approached you.

you can get very very hot women and not go to the gym, but you won't get APPROACHED by hot women unless you look amazing with your shirt off. from my experience.

Amen brother!