Female Approaches

[zekko]

It's been said a lot on these forums that women do not approach. I have a couple of stories of female approaches that were told to me by a friend and an acquaintence, respectively. The odd thing is that in both cases, the couples are now married - my friend for about 20 years now, the acquaintence for about five.

Story #1
My friend was eating lunch at the food court in the mall, he was wearing his business suit. A woman dropped off a slip of paper at his table with her number written on it, and walked on without saying a word.

Story #2
My acquaintence went into the gym to work out. A woman who was in the gym went up and told the girl at the desk "I want to meet him. Introduce us". And so she did.

In both cases the girls were hot. In both cases the guys have very successful careers as big business lawyers, they make very good money. And as I said, in both cases they got married. Anything like this ever happen to you or anyone you know?

 

[GotED?]

Gold Digging comes to my mind immediately.

Nothing new about shallow women.

 

[SteR]

But how would they have known they had money? A suit != rich

 

[zekko]

But how would they have known they had money? A suit != rich

Yeah, but in the case of the guy at the gym, he wouldn't have worn a suit. And he didn't have a fancy car at the time either. He was, however, in good shape.

 

[Colossus]

8/10 girls I meet online "approach" me. Women are less apt to approach a guy in public though, it's intimidating.

Occasionally this happens to me, but it's rarely if ever direct.

 

[The Duke]

One night at a club I was leaned back against the bar top doing nothing and got approached. I had a broken leg so I had my crutches and of course thats what she opened me with. I was dressed in a nice shirt, necklace, jeans, and boots. Nothing that made me look rich. This girl was an HB8, blonde, thin, with big fake boobs, late 30's, and made $125,000/year which. She certainly wasn't a gold digger.

The few months I had crutches the amount of women approaching me was phenomenal. I was blown away. With out crutches I probably get approached no more than the average guy does.

I have two friends that are 6'1" and the other is 6'3" with slightly above average looks. Women often approach them. One time I was walking down the sidewalk with one of my tall friends and a car of girls drove by screaming how sexy he was. You would have thought they were guys by the way they acted. lol.

Another time I walked into a bar with my tall friend and this hot chic stared him down,motioned with her finger to come see her. He did. They went home together that night.

It happens fellas. The taller you are and the more attractive, the more it happens to you.

 

[The Duke]

lol @ sampspade.

 

[zekko]

Nothing that made me look rich. This girl was an HB8, blonde, thin, with big fake boobs, late 30's, and made $125,000/year which. She certainly wasn't a gold digger.

I'm glad you brought that up. These girls weren't gold diggers either. Both of them have good careers and make significantly large amounts of money. I guess that raises the bar on the type of guy they're going to want. They can probably smell money.

Funny how you were approached so much while you were on crutches, although it certainly made for an easy conversation piece. On one hand, you might think that crutches would signify weakness, which would repel women. Or maybe they thought it signified an adventerous lifestyle. Or maybe it just brought out their natural nurturing side.

Speaking of tall guys, I have a friend who is very tall, I can't remember his height but he's over 6'5" for sure. Anyway, he said that if he ever needs a woman all he has to do is walk into a bar and he will walk out with one. The girls will approach him. He gave an example of how he was playing pool and before he knew it there was a pair of hands on his ass.

 

[The Duke]

You are exactly right in your assumptions Zekko. The types of girls my crutches helped me attract were ones who liked adventurous guys, and ones who were nurturing. The nurturing ones always told me how they admired the fact that I wasn't sitting at home and how I was willing to hobble thru a packed bar scene unphased by my physical limitations. The adventurous ones wanted to know the details of how I got busted up and I had a pretty good story to go along with all of it too. Women ate it up.

 

[backbreaker]

I've been "approached" quite a few times.

off the top of my head

- one girl who i casually knew from around one day just came up to me and asked me out of the blue "why haven't you tried to talk to me yet, am I not your type or something" we went out a few times she wasn't my type

- I had one girl hit on me but she was a gold digger so that doesn't count

- a few times i've gotten the "call me XOXO my number is " left on my car window when i'm out somewhere. 2 times i can remember and once actually on my door

- Chick I met at starbucks cold approached me straight up and starting talking to me. We went out for about 6-7 dates we had some fun but she was bat**** crazy


especially if you take care of your body and can dress, you will get approached by relatively good looking women.

 

[5string]

I get approached by creepy women all the time. They tell me how handsome I am. Hello, stalker! I get so tired of the non stop compliments on my good looks and cheesy pick up lines. All my friends on Facebook tell me it's just because I'm hot. Some day I'll meet a woman who loves me for who I am.

samspade

I think you're hot. Do I have a shot? I'm not even creepy! :flowers:

 

[Who Dares Win]

Apparently in this forum the only one who doesnt get approached from women its me...

Its either my look sucks and my game is supernatural considering the ons coming from clubs or someone here particularly liked the pinocchio character and wanted to emulate him.

 

[backbreaker]

Apparently in this forum the only one who doesnt get approached from women its me...

Its either my look sucks and my game is supernatural considering the ons coming from clubs or someone here particularly liked the pinocchio character and wanted to emulate him.

I can say from my experience, I've never been "ugly" when I was in m teens I dated cute girls, but girls would how can i explain it.. let it be known that they were open to you making a move on them. they never really just approached me.

actually getting approached by real live girls didn't happen utnil I seriously, seriously hit the gym and got in shape. once my jawline really became more defined and I started to fill out shirts with my chest and what not girls dig that ****.

and the thing is, girls that approach you, you know they want to ****. that's why they approached you.

you can get very very hot women and not go to the gym, but you won't get APPROACHED by hot women unless you look amazing with your shirt off. from my experience.

 

[The Duke]

One thing we haven't really touched on yet is how to make yourself approachable in the first place.

Arms crossed, head down, with your back to the girls is a sure fire way to not get approached. Its all about body language fellas. Get it down right and it will open some doors for you.

Next time you are out just sit back out of the way and observe who gets approached and who doesn't and try and figure out why.

Theres a neighborhood bar that all the cool kats go to that has a nice patio with lots of couches. I like to position myself on one of those couches that borders the main walkway. I kind of turn my body towards the walkway and I make certain my arms are not crossed and I make eye contact and smile to all passerby's even the fatties. I might say hi to a few. Always have some silly comment ready to deliver for those you would like to snag. Make sure your buddies stay out of the way. Just have your best wingman close by.

When you go to the next venue, just don't sit anywhere. Pick out a place that has the most female passerby's. And just a tip, if you stand right by the women's restroom trying to pull girls, they will call you out.

 

[Boilermaker]

The basic fact remains that hot women do not have the need to approach so in general they don't.

Two or three examples of this happening doesn't refute this basic fact. When it's said "women don't approach" in this forum; I think what is meant is what happens in general.

Now collect all the responses in this thread multiply that x 1000 and you'll get an answer for all the times women didn't approach our respected members in plausible situations. That would be a fair comparison. Not some bull-shït story.

But actual empirical data.

 

[Boilermaker]

I can say from my experience, I've never been "ugly" when I was in m teens I dated cute girls, but girls would how can i explain it.. let it be known that they were open to you making a move on them. they never really just approached me.

actually getting approached by real live girls didn't happen utnil I seriously, seriously hit the gym and got in shape. once my jawline really became more defined and I started to fill out shirts with my chest and what not girls dig that ****.

and the thing is, girls that approach you, you know they want to ****. that's why they approached you.

you can get very very hot women and not go to the gym, but you won't get APPROACHED by hot women unless you look amazing with your shirt off. from my experience.

another empty premise often perpetuated to give hopes to the masses of beta... From the very guy who was crying "losers can get women without even trying because they had balls to approach " a few weeks ago ... But of course, fools will be fools. Anyway:

-Get rich and women will approach you
-Hit the gym and women will approach you
-Take good care of yourself and woman will approach you
- ....
so on..

Hot women will rarely approach you. This is a fact and if you ACTUALLY compare the number of NOT getting approaches with getting approaches, you will run into a ratio of 10000 to 1. Maybe more....

But as is common, in this forum,

3 is a prime number 5 is a prime number so all odd numbers are prime

logic applies.

And all you need to do to prove this theory is perhaps, to find another odd number that is prime. 7 is also a prime number, case closed.

Probably in reality, you must have the guts and go out and do the approaching yourself.

Don't worry about it too much, focus on your goals and women somehow will
get along. They will at least make them available, and you can pick one.

 

[visions]

Gold Digging comes to my mind immediately.

Nothing new about shallow women.

that came to mind with the guy in the suit. the second guy is more questionable. and technically, the second woman didn't approach. she asked her friend to introduce them

 

[Jitterbug]

But how would they have known they had money? A suit != rich

A suited up man eating lunch at a food court near buildings where rich lawyers and the likes are.

An in-shape man working out at a gym no doubt close to work where rich lawyers and the likes are.

Women are very smart about these things, you know.

Howiestern: interesting anecdote. The very first time I got approached by a girl (we ended up dating for months till she moved overseas for work) was when I was out dancing & having fun while I had a broken arm in a cast. She gave me her number without prompting and dug out what I was going to do next week so she could invite herself along.

The other times I got approached a bit (but still had to do the work later myself) were when I just won a pretty big dance contest, and when I used to perform locally so people would know my face. Had a few lays from there, but nothing as easy as your tall friends.

Only counting attractive girls though, obviously. I get countless approaches by fatties lol and the occasional cougars, but I'm strong and a good runner so I haven't been caught yet.

I'm short but in good shape and somewhat easy on the eyes. Dress well but definitely not rich, just comfy.

Now as for random approaches, I have a friend with a French background, not too tall (about 180cm) but very handsome and in great shape (think James Dean with a bit less bad boy vibe). We cannot walk anywhere in my city without him being approached or grabbed by hotties (I'm talking 8+, the lower ones are too intimidated), even the ones who are supposed to be working handing out flyers for nightclubs or waiting tables. He's the only fella I've seen who makes girls walk into things while checking him out. And if he opens his mouth to talk to them in his French accent, game over, they melt into a puddle. He has pretty good game and a cool sense of humour too, but I suspect chicks can't hear sh1t he's saying. He doesn't really do ONS though, but he could've had 5 every night if he wanted to and could keep up. Still, he always has attractive girls lined up for him, until recently when he got into a LTR with the only hottie who's ever dumped him. My pretty boy is getting beta.

That's the only time I know what a fat girl feels like around her hot friend.

 

[zekko]

I notice that most of these approaches involve fairly hot women. They must know they have it going on if they can just drop off their number, walk away, and hope to get results. No rapport, comfort, or seduction stage, to deal with, nothing.

Apparently in this forum the only one who doesnt get approached from women its me...

Nah, you're not the only one. I get a lot of eye contact from randoms, but I practically never get approached. I'm a fairly average looking guy. My looks don't seem to hurt me, but they don't seem to help either. Girls tend to come on to me more after they get to know me. Some of us have to work at it more. Sucks, but that's just the way it is.

I have one story of when I was "approached", and that was from when I was a much younger guy. I was out in a parking lot with my shirt off (I was very tan), and a girl sent her friend over to get my number. Interestingly, this was before I ever started lifting weights so I was pretty scrawny.

technically, the second woman didn't approach. she asked her friend to introduce them

True, but she did initiate the contact. You might say the leaving her number bit isn't technically an approach either, but the intent is still clear. Girls seem to have a more indirect way of doing things.

By the way, there are a lot of professions that require a suit that don't make you rich. Especially in a mall - could be a clerk in a men's clothing store, or the manager of Radio Shack.

I have a friend with a French background, not too tall (about 180cm) but very handsome and in great shape (think James Dean with a bit less bad boy vibe). We cannot walk anywhere in my city without him being approached or grabbed by hotties

We all know guys from foreign lands can often draw interest from women. I wonder if girls somehow sense that there is something different or exotic about this guy.

 

[Knight's Cross]

The female approach, I actually despise it when a chick approaches me. I'll be nice and all, but it isn't the natural order. Most often when a chick approaches me she's too PowerFrau for my taste. I like the demure chick that just offers signs that she's approachable. That's more to my taste.
KC