"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Fellow DJ's, please tell me I havent blown my chance in this situation!

donjuanapprentice01

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Alright guys, here's the deal. I've been starting to feel alot more confident about myself lately and have started going to the bars again, by myself I might add. Anyways, here's the scenario:

I went out Thursday night, to this patio bar on the waterfront of my city as there was firework displays going and figured it would be packed. Got served by this stunning babe, I'd say an HB9 in my books. Thought nothing of it, tipped her as I would normally with any other server.

Friday night, I head out to this classy bar in town as they have a band playing (btw, love going here as I feel it's not as intimidating going alone to a club as a live band is playing, so you can chill by yourself listening to the band. If you want to go solo, might want to find a place with a live band playing) Anyways, back on track here, I'm sitting at the bar making convos with as many people I can and guess who shows up? Yep, the chick that served me at the patio. She remembers me. She is there with her friends, but we strike up a short convo, we introduce ourselves and then she goes back to her friends. She comes back again and orders more drinks later, we talk a bit more... she goes back to her friends. I don't go for the digits, for whatever reason. Anyways, I go and try to find her after the band has finished up but she must have left.

Fast forward to today, I'm at the patio bar, she is there but she doesn't serve me today. We say hi, but that's about it. As I pay my bill and leave, I say "see you later Kate (that's her name) and again I strike up another convo with her. For whatever reason, I can't ask for her digits, I don't know why I can't, because I like her. Anyways, she finishes up the convo by saying "well, I'm sure we'll see each other again, you know where I am".

Alright, I want to ask her out. I felt intimidated asking her out today because she was at work, there were other people there and the manager was there also. I guess I need to get more liquid courage for me to ask her out. Anyways, I feel like a douchebag.

So finally my question. Do you think I've wasted all my chances here? I had 2 solid chances to ask her out, and I've failed to do so. I plan on going back midweek to this patio bar and am determined to ask her out, but I'm worried the window of opportunity may have closed.

Thanks as always fellas
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ChalengeGuyFan

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Leave the theoretical answer aside and see what the practical one is. Take your chances and ask for the number the next time you see her.
Have the "I might fvck up everything now, but I like being naughty :D" mindset if you can't ask for the number otherwise.
 

donjuanapprentice01

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Well, asked her out today, Blown out of the water.... said she had a boyfriend.

Chalk up another one. This **** doesn't come easy at all for me.

I better get a better, higher paying job, cuz it looks like hookers for the rest of my life :(
 

fertileTurtle

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WTF. You have keep doing this until you get it. No biggie.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Smack

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It doesn't matter what people on the internet say. We could say you're right in there son, only for you to fvck it up big time, which you probably will if you are sincerely asking this question to internet people.
 

Joe Stud

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keep her as an aquaintence, spin other plates. ya never know. she's obviously being chased by many, so play it cool and be fun around her. having her out as a friend can add to your social value. and stop giving up at the first sign of nonsuccess. if she has a bf, its not personal against you
 

Johnny_Kage

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Just one chick, dude. Don't get your panties in a bunch. Remember: abundance mindset. If you're talking to a bunch of women, one of them having a bf won't be a big deal.

Besides, this wasn't necessarily a blow-out. Maybe she actually does have a bf (it does happen...I promise!)

Cheers!

- Johnny Boy
 
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