Fellow DJs, I lack guts and I need help ASAP!

[BannedGod]

Tomorrow I am seeing this girl, and I want to make a move on her, but I lack guts, however it's not because I am scared of being rejected. I want to date her (LTR) and I know she wants that too (I'm, say... 95% sure). However, I don't know why, but I'm scared of kissing her. I have just kissed one girl in my life and she said I was a great kisser (she still said that even after we broke up, so I guess it must be true), but I think despite what she said it might be a reason why I'm scared to kiss her... I don't see any other reasons then that, because like I said I doubt she will reject me, and even if she does, I'd rather have that than keep waiting to kiss her and end up losing her because I'm taking too much time.

PLEASE help me to get the guts to kiss her. Do your magic DJ Forum! You guys have always been a huge source of motivation for me, don't let me down now!

 

[onyx]

i dont see what the problem is, if your taking her on a date like you said, surely shes interested in you romantically

just kiss her when you feel the time is right.

what i usually do when I wanna kiss a chick is i either say

a - you gunna give me a kiss then

or

b - im gunna kiss you and if u dont want me to then ull have to stop me (this as failed me once but i ended up ****in her a few weeks after)

 

[BannedGod]

i dont see what the problem is, if your taking her on a date like you said, surely shes interested in you romantically

just kiss her when you feel the time is right.

what i usually do when I wanna kiss a chick is i either say

a - you gunna give me a kiss then

or

b - im gunna kiss you and if u dont want me to then ull have to stop me (this as failed me once but i ended up ****in her a few weeks after)

Yea I know she is interested and I know she won't reject me, yet I'm scared of kissing her... Thinking about it makes me real nervous, and knowing myself, I probably won't dare tomorrow

 

[kyphan]

Yea I know she is interested and I know she won't reject me, yet I'm scared of kissing her... Thinking about it makes me real nervous, and knowing myself, I probably won't dare tomorrow

The easiest way to handle fear, in my opinion, is to simply ask myself, "Is there anything here that is life-threatening to be afraid of?" If I find nothing life-threatening about my situation, I become calmer. Heck, if you look into her eyes and feel afraid, think that thought. She'll probably wonder why you're staring at her, and she'll definitely wonder why your facial expression relaxes in front of her eyes. Then you simply lean in and kiss her.

Focus on success and positive things. It makes a difference.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Just do it, don't think about it just do it. Best time is after making her laugh, when you're close together you'll say something and then look into each other's eyes, then you'll just know. Simply go in for the kiss.

Great advice. I was gonna post on this earlier but forgot to. Try to do it when you're having a high. You both could be laughing your a$$ off or doing something exciting, or whatever. When all those good emotional juices are flowing, it will make it much more memorable for her.

 

[Derek Flint]

If you only knew what kind of nasty thoughts are going thru her mind, you would have no problem making a move.

Tell yourself this: If you don't make a move, she's going to tell everyone that you're some kind of a fag.

 

[Strip Club Inspector]

You have a problem that affects people negatively in other areas of life: public speaking, business, parties. It's called performance anxiety. You are looking at this evening as a performance. It's your job to perform and hers to reject. Not true. Remember you're buying, she's selling. Make her convince you it's worth your time to kiss her.

You need to repeat a mantra to yourself (I gave this advice earlier): I AM NOT HERE TO PERFORM. I AM NOT A FRIGGIN' ENTERTAINER. I AM HERE TO HAVE FUN, GET TO KNOW THIS CHICK, AND DETERMINE FOR MYSELF IF SHE IS WORTH MY TIME, IF SHE GIVES ME PLEASURE BEACUSE I DESERVE THAT BECAUSE I WILL GIVE IT IN TURN TO THOSE THAT ARE WORTHY.