fellow djs, got some golden content, but need advice

[imarockstar]

yo yo! been a few months but i need some advice. this is kinda long but there are some good lines and tips that you could take from this. regardless i do need a little advice soo.....

ok so last weekend me and my friend got bored and took an hour trip to a college town. theres this girl that i just met a couple months ago. hb9 (lets call her sara), and super cool down to earth chick. we flirt here and there but i just got out of a long relationship and so did she. i wouldnt say im friend zoned but its not like we talk all the time either. we party or hit bars like once a month but theres always some flirting involved.

anyways. this girl has 2 roommates. my friend (lets call him mike) knows one of the roomies, and was runnin game on her all night. we'll call her becca. so here i am with sara, mike, becca, and the other roommate whom neither mike or me have ever met. (we'll call her stacy).

so me and mike enter the bar. we walk up to the girls, and i spot sara. i start doin some stupid black girl dance on her and she immediately hugs me wth a huge smile. i get introduced to becca and stacy for the first time, then talk to sara for about 5 mins about a bunch of random stuff.

what i did this night was just have fun, only had a couple beers but just had a great energy about myself. i also had some expensive clothes on and was basically lookin damn good. i noticed a couple heavy set black women so i walked up to them and started freak dancin em for a couple seconds just to get some laughs, then i had everyone clear the dancefloor, while everyones circled around me i did some ****ty attempt at a breakdance, just messin around to be funny or whatever.

k back to the point. i come back from dancing and the girls are crackin up etc. so then sara tells me her roommate thinks im hott. that night i was kinda diggin sara and i felt that if i had a chance to get laid it would be with her since ive known her a little longer than the others.

so get this, she tells me stacy thinks im hott. so i say to sara, "well you know what, come here, (she moves in closer) ". i then say "i think youre hott sara". lol it was awesome, she totally didnt expect it and started blushing and said, "ohhh, maybe ill just keep that between you and me".

i then go outside to smoke. i come back in, move right past sara and start talking to stacy. now stacy is freakin beautiful. nice ass, beautiful face, great rack, very tan. id give her a 9.5. and i have very high standards (which sucks) but yeah this girl is smokin. i talk to her for a few minutes, then go back to sara. ya know i just kept talkin to em all, not really focusing on one.

so long story short, nothin happens between me and sara that night. i was kinda torn bc i wanted to get with sara for that night, but i could see myself in a relationship with stacy, and if i did somethin with sara it might ruin it.

so here i am. i want to start talking to stacy, but i dunno if sara thinks im interested in her now since i told her she was hott. at the same time, i want stacy to know im interested, and i dont want to wait, i want her to know asap that i want to get together and get to know each other better.

the thing is i dont have stacys number, and they live an hour away. im not sure when ill see them again, i may see them next week, or it may not be for another month. i added stacy as a friend on facebook. as well as the other roomie mike was talking to, becca. becca wrote on my wall about something that was funny i said the other night, and sara has always thought i was cool, so i got mad social proof from them.

i feel like such a doooosh doing this, but i feel like its the only way. i was thinking of sending her a message on facebook, not a wall post though, a private message, just sayin hey it was nice meeting you the other night, this is kinda lame but i dont have your number and im not sure when ill see you again. i want to get to know you, we should get together soon. blah blah blah, wouldnt really be in those words but that would be the content of it

orrrr, should i call and ask sara about stacy, and get the number from her, or tell her to put stacy on the phone and talk to her? i mean **** dude this is a complicated situation, but i dont want stacy to lose interest, i want to let her know im interested asap. is it super dooshy to ask a number on facebook. i mean im not asking for a date, and its not like shes a random stranger whos number im asking for. and shes obviously interested since sara told me stacy thought i was hott. **** test maybe? but no bc when i talked to stacy she seemed a little nervous and smiling a lot etc, i think she really did say that.

sorry this ****s so long, i need some advice from the REAL djs on here, dont reply if you dont actually have success with women. btw me and all these girls are 21-23 yrs old, if that makes any difference. im just tryin to give all the details possible. thanks guys, let me know which strategy you think is best, or if you have your own ideas on what i should, id love to hear em!

 

[TheDoctor]

Wow, long post but I was interested where you were going with it. Having been a strapping young Fraternity Man in my younger college years, I can say without a doubt that now and again in your DJ future, when mixing it up with multiple hotties, you will have to pick and choose your battles. This kind of thing happened to me (and my bros) frequently.

Golden Example (my situations): I would want to get with some HBwhatever, and in to do so meant approaching her. Well, in college, especially dealing with sorority girls, it is almost impossible to find one alone. They study in groups with one another, eat with one another, live with one another, go to the clubs / bars / restaurants / bathrooms with one another. Basically, trying to be a young pimp (having no knowledge of forums such as SS) I would make a decision on who I would pursue. You don't want to show interest in one girl in front of another girl you are interested in as well (at least not in the college sorority scene (aka drama scene)). Sometimes I made the right decision (picked the right girl), sometimes I made the wrong one (picked the girl who wouldn't give it up AND lost my chances with the others in her friend circle). You live and you learn.

It also depends on the women. Some girls will lose interest if they show it, and you show interest to one of their friends. Some won't. Bottom line is that going for two HB's in the same close friend circle is VERY HARD. Unless one is a closet slvt or whatnot, you rarely get a chance with both (unless enough time has passed).

My suggestion, go with your instincts on the most likely lay if that's what you want. If you want a relationship, go with the one you like the most or see the most potential in. Basically, forget about trying to work both of them. Maybe one now and one six months from now.

Good Luck, keep us posted.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Just call up Sara and tell her to give you Stacy's number. Then call up Stacy and chat her up, not apologies or explanations as to how/why you got her number.

 

[imarockstar]

yeah im thinking thats what ill do. i think ill just call sara and get the other girls number. sara doesnt seem like relationship material to me, shes hott and all but the other girl is hotter haha. plus i feel like facebook messaging is so 3rd grade unless u really know the girl well. i feel like that would seem like i was too scared to ask her number when i saw her that night. ugh its whatever tho, ill keep u guys posted on what happens. thanks for the responses!

 

[Pimp-sicle]

First off, you should've hooked up wih Stacey on that night. One because she was highly interested in you on that night, two because that would've only made Sara want you more than she already did. You can't mess something up with a chick when your not in a relationship with her, you keep mentioning social proof and you had the perfect opportunity to validate that proof and you side stepped it for some reason.

Next you say you consider Stacey relationship material and you don't even know her...be careful with that frame of mind, leads to one-itis.

Lastly, you don't really have a dilema. Just flat out ask Stacey for her number through Facebook. Something like:

"hey stacey, had fun partying with you and the crew the other night. Give me your number and I'll give you a call so we can party again."

Don't mention anything about "I'm not sure when I'm going to see you again" etc, that all reeks of desperation. Just state the facts and go take what you want.

Many of you newbies make things A LOT more difficult than they really need to be and area constantly worried about putting yourself out there because you want to maintain mystery, or look suave in everything you do. Just keep your roll as the man and you'll be fine...


If u hook up with Stacey, Sara will want u more....remember that




PIMP

 

[imarockstar]

pimp sicle you are the man! youre exactly right, especially about the whole relationship material. i just realized that, i dont even know this chick. ughh im a moron, it sucks its like every new girl i talk to i find a way to get interested in her, even when i barely know her. like theres this chick at work, i got her number and text her for like a week. she flaked on me once i stopped texting and calling her, now shes texts me nonstop. but the thing is i saw this chick a week later and she looked like straight up dogsh*t. she went from a 8 to a 5 just like that, but the point is that i was starting to like her after one week of talking to her. thanks for slappin some sense into me dude!