fellow dj's. ****ed tup situation :/

[Jair213]

Being talking to brotherinlaws kneese. Flirted with her on watsap.

Got het interested enough that She came to visit from mexico with them. They've being here all week they leave tommorrow. They have being here at my parents house and I live with them. So yeah its easy to game it.

But here's the twist. Brotherinlaw ofcourse wants the best for his kneese, etc. I mean I'm not working now but going to college this month. Not working yet but soon but I know this doesn't excuse how irresponsible I've being through out my life and I was also really bad in los Angeles partying it up hard, messed up my credit, got a bunch of tickets and all other issue's.

He talk to her yesterday last night. I asked her ''watt did he tell you'' she said about your past and your present. And I replied with ''well you are smart you'll make the right decisions'' and she replied with ''I know I'm smart that's why ill never be your gf'' When she said that I already knew watt he told her. I could only imagine. So I just left it alone.

They leave tommorrow. She also leaves tommorrow back to Mexico. So its all good. I know how I should act like it doesn't phase me. But deep inside its eating me alive.

It wasn't he's business telling anything to her. Or anyone. But I know he wants the best for his kneese. She's 19, I'm 27 fixing my life back up.

I feel like sh!tt because I did like the girl but she's going back to Mexico so it doesn't matter. But you know how sh!!tt is sometimes. You still feel like complete crap regardless.

I feel like confronting him about it so bad but I know I shouldn't. Ugh.

I don't even know how to feel about this whole sh!!tt I just feel so fvcken mad, anger. Smh :/

 

[Don_Dom]

You can't blame him for looking out for his niece. Especially if you have been a royal **** up (no offense.). Don't dwell on it. Use this as inspiration to get your act together and when she's back next year show her a new you. You should do it for yourself anyway, but it never hurts to have some extra motivation like this.

And it's probably not the most productive thinking, but I would probably be looking for ways to get a little revenge on your brother in law for being a ****. I'm sure plenty of opportunities can be had. If you ever catch him doing anything you think your sister might not like, rat him out. He removed himself from the guy code with you, regardless of his intentions. Don't go overboard or let it derail any progress you've made, but a little payback might make you feel better. Imo. And if he says anything just say, hey bro, I thought that's how we were doing things.

Can't blame him for looking out for his niece, but thst still doesn't mean he's not a massive ***** for doing it. He should have talked to you, not her. I have a very low opinion of ****blockers of any kind, personally.

 

[Chamber36]

And it's probably not the most productive thinking, but I would probably be looking for ways to get a little revenge on your brother in law for being a ****. I'm sure plenty of opportunities can be had. If you ever catch him doing anything you think your sister might not like, rat him out. He removed himself from the guy code with you, regardless of his intentions. Don't go overboard or let it derail any progress you've made, but a little payback might make you feel better. Imo. And if he says anything just say, hey bro, I thought that's how we were doing things.

The only way to exact revenge imo is for him to better himself and not let them know that they are getting to you.

Just let them be, OP. Live and let live. You shouldn't put yourself in a position where you are dependent on other people. In other words don't mack in the family.

Personally I commend you for starting college at 27 and trying to get your life back on track, but you can't expect the same grace from everybody. And like you said, he only wants what's best for his neice.

Whatever impression they have of you will take a long time to correct itself, and actions speak louder than words.

Just carry on with your own life brah, spare yourself the hassle of trying to impress them. Just be natural brah, and live ur life, take all that you can out of it, but don't try and fvck up your brotherinlaw because he fvcked you up. Whatever problems he's creating will end up biting him in the back some other way.

Like they told me in primary school: two wrongs don't make a right.

Ya, so in summary, I suppose you are too invested.

 

[Jair213]

Thanks bros. I'm gonna go ahead and ignore all this sh!tt and move on.

 

[Jair213]

Regardless of watt happened

I still got a heavy make out session and believe Or not Shes My gf now Lol

 

[Don_Dom]

Haha. Eat that, brother in law. Knowing the way chicks brains work, he may have helped you.

I'd still **** him up, tho, personally. LOL

 

[Jair213]

Haha. Eat that, brother in law. Knowing the way chicks brains work, he may have helped you.

I'd still **** him up, tho, personally. LOL

I think he did help

I mean he made me look bad etc.

Plus I'm not your typical AFC anymore lol

 

[Don_Dom]

I know a woman who married and had 2 kids as a teenager with a dude she later divorced and she says the whole reason, looking back, was because he got her blood pumping and her father hated him and pitched a fit they were even dating. LOL

 

[Jair213]

I know a woman who married and had 2 kids as a teenager with a dude she later divorced and she says the whole reason, looking back, was because he got her blood pumping and her father hated him and pitched a fit they were even dating. LOL

Damn bro that's some sh!!tt haha...

 

[Jair213]

She's also a virgin.

Wtf this is getting interesting.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Being talking to brotherinlaws kneese. Flirted with her on watsap.

Got het interested enough that She came to visit from mexico with them. They've being here all week they leave tommorrow. They have being here at my parents house and I live with them. So yeah its easy to game it.

But here's the twist. Brotherinlaw ofcourse wants the best for his kneese, etc. I mean I'm not working now but going to college this month. Not working yet but soon but I know this doesn't excuse how irresponsible I've being through out my life and I was also really bad in los Angeles partying it up hard, messed up my credit, got a bunch of tickets and all other issue's.

He talk to her yesterday last night. I asked her ''watt did he tell you'' she said about your past and your present. And I replied with ''well you are smart you'll make the right decisions'' and she replied with ''I know I'm smart that's why ill never be your gf'' When she said that I already knew watt he told her. I could only imagine. So I just left it alone.

They leave tommorrow. She also leaves tommorrow back to Mexico. So its all good. I know how I should act like it doesn't phase me. But deep inside its eating me alive.

It wasn't he's business telling anything to her. Or anyone. But I know he wants the best for his kneese. She's 19, I'm 27 fixing my life back up.

I feel like sh!tt because I did like the girl but she's going back to Mexico so it doesn't matter. But you know how sh!!tt is sometimes. You still feel like complete crap regardless.

I feel like confronting him about it so bad but I know I shouldn't. Ugh.

I don't even know how to feel about this whole sh!!tt I just feel so fvcken mad, anger. Smh :/

A few things I'm thinking here:

-1st of all, it's his niece, he's looking out for her. Yes, he may be railing your sister, but setting his 19 year old virgin niece up with a fvck up (in his eyes), is something he's going to try and avoid.

-2nd of all, unless you're planning on marrying the broad, I'd stay away from it. It seems to me like it could cause unnecessary family drama.

-3rd, and most important,

''well you are smart you'll make the right decisions''

What did you mean by this? Were you telling her that it was up to her if you two were going to keep seeing each other? Giving her the power to decide on the outcome of the relationship? If she was on the fence then, IMO, that statement right there could push her over to the other side.

-4th,

''I know I'm smart that's why ill never be your gf''

this may have been her uncle talking, or her trying to convince herself that she felt that way. Like Dom_Dom alluded to above, just because her uncle told her to stay away, it doesn't mean that she wants to stay away. Attraction is not a choice. If anything, IMO, if you're the family bad boy that the parental figure wants her to stay away from, then if anything, that would increase her attraction towards you.


I'd play it cool from now on. Go this route: "you know I've been thinking about it, your uncle's right, we shouldn't see each other. Take care!" Then act aloof like you don't give a $hit. This helps you out in two ways, you're respecting you brother in law and his wishes, but you're also sending your girls hamster into a little bit of a spin. "does he really not like me?" DJ 101 here.

My feeling is eventually she'll try to get back in touch with you somehow, Facebook, emails, texting "just keeping in touch." I'd honestly ignore all that crap, and really let her decide how much she's going to end up pursuing you. It's not your fault if she ends up chasing you down...

IMO, this is a good way to see how the chips fall, if it was meant to be

 

[Jair213]

A few things I'm thinking here:

-2nd of all, unless you're planning on marrying the broad, I'd stay away from it. It seems to me like it could cause unnecessary family drama.

-3rd, and most important, What did you mean by this? Were you telling her that it was up to her if you two were going to keep seeing each other? Giving her the power to decide on the outcome of the relationship? If she was on the fence then, IMO, that statement right there could push her over to the other side.

-4th, this may have been her uncle talking, or her trying to convince herself that she felt that way. Like Dom_Dom alluded to above, just because her uncle told her to stay away, it doesn't mean that she wants to stay away. Attraction is not a choice. If anything, IMO, if you're the family bad boy that the parental figure wants her to stay away from, then if anything, that would increase her attraction towards you.

IMO, this is a good way to see how the chips fall, if it was meant to be

2nd - well shes a virgin so i dont know i am contemplating on it hard.

3rd - watt i meant when i said that was that based on watt my brotherinlaw told her to make a decision cuz shes smart meaning if shes smart she will stay away from me haha.. i hope she understood it that way so she responded with ''ill never be your gf thats why im smart'' i didnt give her any type of power i never told her anything that i liked her or wanted a relationship with her to be honest so i dont even know why she said that hahahahaha..

4th - thats exactly watt is happening pretty much im the badboy of the story bro! haha

I'd play it cool from now on. Go this route: "you know I've been thinking about it, your uncle's right, we shouldn't see each other. Take care!" Then act aloof like you don't give a $hit. This helps you out in two ways, you're respecting you brother in law and his wishes, but you're also sending your girls hamster into a little bit of a spin. "does he really not like me?" DJ 101 here.

she called me yesterday and said she wanted to talk to me about watt her uncle told her.. she spilled the beans and told me everything he told her that ''im not the right guy for her, not him, im lazy i dont work that ive being saying that i have being trying to go to school for the last 2 years and i never go etc'' then she was all like you know im ma try and put everything into this(our relationship) but i want you to put your part in too'' i responded with ''well you know im already starting school this month and gonna start working but im doing this for my self, my strife and motivation to move on to be succesfull im doing it for my self no anyone else, im going to be doing me and you do your thing'' as for this relationship will see were this go's.. she just stood silent, and i told her yeah your uncle is right he cares for you he wants the best for you i understand i got nothing against him... and she was all like ''ok''

My feeling is eventually she'll try to get back in touch with you somehow, Facebook, emails, texting "just keeping in touch." I'd honestly ignore all that crap, and really let her decide how much she's going to end up pursuing you. It's not your fault if she ends up chasing you down...

the reason why i dont want to go this route is because i know shes a virgin now, and she already is doing enough pursuing.. im contemplating on wife'in her up in the near future.. she comes from a good mexican traditional family.. but also its long distance and still regardless she accepted the relationship but i asked her with no intentions of anything being serious i was just testing her interest level etc guess watt she said yes, she was actually dumb struck and couldnt believe it haha.. but to be honest its long distance if the chicks sticks with it good if not fvck it i dont giva a fvck.