I know this is a little long, but please read it, i really need some advice on this fellas!!!
I was dating a girl for about a year. I'm 22 and shes 19. At first, I used don juan techniques flawlessly for about the first 4 months. you know playing hard to get, being the catch, I even made her admit that she loved me first. This thing was going perfectly, and I eventually admitted to loving her too. We really thought we was the one for each other 100% sure. Throughout the relationship she wasnt sexual at all, I had to initiate everything sexual, and eventually she told me that she felt bad about having sex because its against her morals, and that she didnt want to stop me from having sex because its not fair to me, so i should do wat i need to do for now until shes ready to be more sexual.
So in a few weeks we became pretty distant, then she told me that she wants to be completely single while in college, and that after college she wanted to get back with me. She said she wanted to have freedom to experience life without having to answer to someone, but she said she wouldnt sleep with noone else or talk to nooone else like that. I acted insecure, and kept trying to make sure that she wasnt going to talk to noone else, and i could tell i was messing up by showing that weakness. So eventually, my boy said that his friend swore to havin sex with her, but she denied it, and swore to God strike her dead, and shes religious, so it was pretty convincing. I still dont know what happend, but she appears to have turned into a lil flirt willing to talk to any guy who approaches her. She did admit to being at his house at 4 am and that they was just friends, but i really dont know. It really pissed me off. Basically, i decided to fall back because i know i made a fool of myself by showing that insecurity, and the drama about her talkn to other guys. The thing is, this all happened about a month ago, but i still think about her everyday just about how great we was before any of this happened, and its soo hard to just let her go 100% , because i really thought that was my future wife. How do you guys think i should handle this? Do you see reason to still have her in my life to preserve any potential future relationship or what. When we was togetha i swear she was like the perfect wife type, it was just like a magical connection that i thought was never possible. I havent talked to her for a while cuz she texted me and said hi but i never replied. So what do you all think. I do plan on meeting new women, but i doubt i could have this kind of connection ever again.
I was dating a girl for about a year. I'm 22 and shes 19. At first, I used don juan techniques flawlessly for about the first 4 months. you know playing hard to get, being the catch, I even made her admit that she loved me first. This thing was going perfectly, and I eventually admitted to loving her too. We really thought we was the one for each other 100% sure. Throughout the relationship she wasnt sexual at all, I had to initiate everything sexual, and eventually she told me that she felt bad about having sex because its against her morals, and that she didnt want to stop me from having sex because its not fair to me, so i should do wat i need to do for now until shes ready to be more sexual.
So in a few weeks we became pretty distant, then she told me that she wants to be completely single while in college, and that after college she wanted to get back with me. She said she wanted to have freedom to experience life without having to answer to someone, but she said she wouldnt sleep with noone else or talk to nooone else like that. I acted insecure, and kept trying to make sure that she wasnt going to talk to noone else, and i could tell i was messing up by showing that weakness. So eventually, my boy said that his friend swore to havin sex with her, but she denied it, and swore to God strike her dead, and shes religious, so it was pretty convincing. I still dont know what happend, but she appears to have turned into a lil flirt willing to talk to any guy who approaches her. She did admit to being at his house at 4 am and that they was just friends, but i really dont know. It really pissed me off. Basically, i decided to fall back because i know i made a fool of myself by showing that insecurity, and the drama about her talkn to other guys. The thing is, this all happened about a month ago, but i still think about her everyday just about how great we was before any of this happened, and its soo hard to just let her go 100% , because i really thought that was my future wife. How do you guys think i should handle this? Do you see reason to still have her in my life to preserve any potential future relationship or what. When we was togetha i swear she was like the perfect wife type, it was just like a magical connection that i thought was never possible. I havent talked to her for a while cuz she texted me and said hi but i never replied. So what do you all think. I do plan on meeting new women, but i doubt i could have this kind of connection ever again.