"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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fellas, how do u think i'm doing w/ this girl so far?

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Girl 1 has been asking me out, & I've declined b/c I was busy. We agreed on something for next weekend which is going to last about 2 hrs. probably. I told her I'm going to be a little late, but I'd be there.

The thing is she is sounding all casual all of a sudden. There are no more jokes or teasing coming from her. She's even starting to sound a little robotic. I kind of feel like I've been too unavailable to her, & she's going to distance herself from me?

Should I make more time for her or just go out w/ her only when I can? What do you fellas think?

I just got an offer from a girl who actually asked me when I was free. So she'll call of work just to go w/ me. Another girl (HB 9.5), after I told her to stay home from our date, b/c she was sick... didn't want to stay home unless we set up another date right then & there for when we are rescheduling.

The girl I mentioned in the beginning of this post...is completely sounding very casual w/ me(kind of like talking to strangers now). I don't know fellas. What do you all think?

I've been dating other girls to tone down my attraction to this girl, but it's not working. While all these other girls are chasing after/supplicating to me, this girl just does the opposite. Must be b/c I act differently around girls I'm not that interested in. :trouble:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yea shes got her hooks in you good. Shes playing like she doesnt even want to do anything with you, unless she really lost her attraction to you. Its funny how we want something more when it doesnt want us back.....
 
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yeah. I agree. I probably do want her more, b/c she doesn't want me back.

I'm not sure if she's lost attraction in me or not. I just plan on seeing her for the date, & then disappearing. If her interest level is high enough, she'll probably come to me. If not, her interest level was probably never high enough to begin w/.

damn oneitis. :trouble:

thanks man for the insight. :rockon:
 
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