feeling the onset of onitis ...

[mackdaddy27]

Okay I just spoke to at least 3-4 NUMbers today...None of them I could really care for.


Its the one called 'Tonya' in my log: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136870
I feel I connect with her.. Plus, she is super hot.
I dont know the problem is kinda like this, I want her bad, but I dont want to lose it at the same time by being aggressiveness while demostrating neediness... I got this far because I was alpha, an alpha doesn't care and is ready to walk. I might have ****ed it up last time I called , I was too eager to see her, and got excited too easily that I think she said she'll call back but never did. I am kinda inexperienced past this point.

I was really slow I called 2 weeks after i got the number, 2nd call was another 2 weeks.. So if I dont progress I might be in the Friends zone.



Ad I know'll what happens on monday when I call her again at 6 pm, if she picks up .. I hope were at least we're talking mode. I know this girl has a very large social circle, she is pretty popular and very good looking. I 've got a lot of work to do.

THIS IS THE SECOND TIME THIS SHYT HAPPENED. Where I get onitis, I become AFC , I lose the girl..

 

[KontrollerX]

Other than inexperience what would you say makes you become an AFC sack of jelly when interacting with this girl?

Do you become weak because of her beauty, fearful of making a mistake while talking to her, what exactly is it?

In general identifying the cause of the problem isn't the same as solving it but in this case we don't even know what the problem is that is making you AFC with this chick and others lol.

Perhaps you automatically pedastalize the girl as being better than you and you are unworthy to be in her presence.

If that is the case you need to unplug from that mindset.

She's just a human being no different or better than you.

You have to humanize her and get away from the goddess idealizing if thats what you've been doing.

Because once you humanize her the fear producing mystery fades and she becomes a person with good characteristics as well as flaws.

In other words she becomes no different than you or I except with female parts lmao.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Okay I just spoke to at least 3-4 NUMbers today...None of them I could really care for.


Its the one called 'Tonya' in my log: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136870
I feel I connect with her.. Plus, she is super hot.
I dont know the problem is kinda like this, I want her bad, but I dont want to lose it at the same time by being aggressiveness while demostrating neediness... I got this far because I was alpha, an alpha doesn't care and is ready to walk. I might have ****ed it up last time I called , I was too eager to see her, and got excited too easily that I think she said she'll call back but never did. I am kinda inexperienced past this point.

I was really slow I called 2 weeks after i got the number, 2nd call was another 2 weeks.. So if I dont progress I might be in the Friends zone.



Ad I know'll what happens on monday when I call her again at 6 pm, if she picks up .. I hope were at least we're talking mode. I know this girl has a very large social circle, she is pretty popular and very good looking. I 've got a lot of work to do.

THIS IS THE SECOND TIME THIS SHYT HAPPENED. Where I get onitis, I become AFC , I lose the girl..

Well, my oneitis would say she'd call back in 5 mins to confirm a date, and didn't call back until 45 mins had passed. To say I was pissed would be an understatement, but she confirmed the date, so I let it go. Since this one did not call you back, I'd say it's lookin bad for you. I know what you mean by wanting to "see" her. That's all I want, in this day and age, to see and to BE with her, just to sit or experience life with her makes me happy. It rejuvenates me. She's like a little doll but she's 28. She's one of the best "friends" I've ever had, and I haven't had that many BEST friends in my lifetime. They're rare indeed. Most have been guys and from early youth. She and one other gal from long ago have been what I'd consider a best friend. It's like it's easy for you to get along with her, as if she already belongs to your family. And that's the kind of gal I want to marry, the one who makes me FEEL good outside of the bedroom.