"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Feeling Misunderstood The Worst Feelings To Have

LoneSilver

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That was inspiriing:up:

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Dongfu said:
Misunderstood is the characteristic trait of a unique individual. Einstein was misunderstood. Tesla, Jesus, Buddha, MLK jr. Average, boring, "yes sir" people people are understood perfectly. Many of us here misunderstand each other initially.

It just means you are not average.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LoneSilver said:
I realize that in order to be successful you can't please everyone or your going to fall short in your own joys in life. Your going to eventually step on a few toes when you express an opinion or some other matter or even just messin' around jokely with someone but it's taken the wrong way. I guess and really not much you can do about that.
Try to please everybody, and you'll hardly end up pleasing anybody.

Like Dongfu said, the most complex and unique people tend to be the most misunderstood -- which is really a "duh" statement, looking at it.
 

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iqqi said:
At the same time, my biggest problem personally is having such an open mind. So when I am criticized or misunderstood, I sometimes stew over it as if the person had any merit whatsoever, even the vilest creatures. Thing is, I like this about myself, even if it is sometimes a weakness. To me it means that I am willing to change if I need to, and that I recognize the virtue of humility and flexibility in thought. What is worse than a person who WILL not see that they are wrong?
That's not a weakness, but a sign of strength.

The funny thing is that people take equivocal points of view as "weakness," and equate strength with "taking a stand" and inflexible pig-headedness. Which is absolutely bassackwards. It takes real strength to question one's own point of view, see all sides of an issue, and own up to one's errors, than to just cement one's mind in place, so to speak.
 
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