Feeling Lonely

[tryst type]

I've been having random moments where I can't help but feel lonely. I attest it's mostly due to the changing weather, upcoming holidays and most importantly my friends being too busy with their gfs enjoying autumn activities that I like to do yet find no one around to do them with.

I question if I want a girlfriend and am always reminded of how picking I am and it seems impossible I'd find someone I'd like to see more than once and in public! As of now I simply meet up with girls at their places for a one nighter (sometimes nothing sexual even happens because I'm simply just disinterested)

Am I doomed to be lonely?

 

[The Gambler]

Are you doing any pro-active activities to meet new people?

I'm curious, because when I was down in the dumps I'd tend to circle the wagons and it would take me a lot of time to regroup. There's nothing wrong with taking a break for a while, of course, but eventually you have to get back out there to make things change.

If you have a bit of free time these days, spend some of it at the weight bench. I've been back at it for two months now and feel like a new man!

Good Luck,

The Gambler

 

[JBB84]

Its definitely the time of year that can make ya feel lonely. Jumping into a relationship with anyone to fill a space isn't the answer either, though. Make sure to do things to keep yourself feeling confident and looking good. Being happy on your own sets you up for a healthy relationship, and thats what you really want in the end. You can still be proactive about it, but be good to yourself first.

 

[tryst type]

I have been keeping myself busy with other things like work, hobbies and for a month now I've found myself simply not interested in going out socializing/meeting new people.

 

[JBB84]

I've been feeling down about my oneitis too and I know I have to get back into a good work out routine. You have inspired me, Meast. Nothing beats looking amazing the next time you see her. Kudos.

Reading is also good for loneliness and to take your mind away from repetitive thoughts. I am going to read mine now, in fact.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I've been having random moments where I can't help but feel lonely. I attest it's mostly due to the changing weather, upcoming holidays and most importantly my friends being too busy with their gfs enjoying autumn activities that I like to do yet find no one around to do them with.

I question if I want a girlfriend and am always reminded of how picking I am and it seems impossible I'd find someone I'd like to see more than once and in public! As of now I simply meet up with girls at their places for a one nighter (sometimes nothing sexual even happens because I'm simply just disinterested)

Am I doomed to be lonely?

Hell no. After the holidays you'll be happy you didn't spend money on some chick who may not even be around in the future. Worry about meeting chicks after the holidays.

Also it depends on what you're picky about...


I also for the most part like my freedom. I do eventually hope to meet a chick and have kids someday. Even get married (to the right person).

I know that outlook of wanting to get married is taboo and sacriledge on this forum. Though I know many people who have good marriages.

We all tend to feel lonely at times. For the most part because we were put on this earth to procreate and move forth humankind.

 

[AW1983]

We get into these guy talk convos man and they are better than any hangout with some dumb b1tch I have to qualify for 2 hours.

Straight up. I've been doing more of this and I realize, damn...I'm enjoying myself way more than when I have to spend three mediocre hours with some broad just for that short conquest at the end of it...

 

[bmp2cpm]

Dogs make great companions. They are more loyal then any woman. Plus, if you get a small, cute dog, dress it up in something cute or funny, take it to popular parks with running/walking trails, women will come to you. Just a thought.

 

[El Suave]

ALWAYS remember that it is better to be alone than with a woman that disrespects you. That should be the only thought going through your head when you feel lonely.

 

[st_99]

this thread is depressing.

 

[Three]

LOL. This thread IS depressing, but these are some great ideas. Get out there and do some man shit, boys!

I'm feeling it, too. Don't get me wrong. It's been six months now since my wife left and I get intensely lonely at times. I wonder what the hell I'm supposed to do with my time now. I spent all of my time before just trying to take care of everything, work, kids, apartment, and a high-maintenance young wife with emotional problems and a matching kid with the same issues. I didn't have time to work on myself.

Now, I have this time and sometimes I don't feel like doing a fucking thing.

But, I do force myself to go for a walk or run. I try to socialize as much as possible. Dry spell with the women, but I'm getting out at least a couple times a week.

Just don't let yourself fall into a slump and get stuck there. Keep up with the basics and then force yourself to work out and socialize.

 

[Serg897]

this thread is depressing.

I disagree. Its about learning to be complete, whole, and independent without having to rely on another person for fulfillment. That to me is one of the best things a person can be.