"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Feeling like it is too late to become a DJ ...

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Firefly said:
I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ.

...still so much for me to overcome

4. Muscular but still chubby physique
5. Lack of a proper social group. Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women, so can;t use them as social proof.
6. Lack of "exciting" hobbies - No experience in motorbike riding, skydiving or any of those things that women seen to consider "manly"

Any suggestions or tips?
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fwiw, I have started training mixed martial arts with my local dojo of cage fighters. My first fight will not be until later in the year, but simply training in a martial art, boxing, or mma can solve all three of those problems. The social group comes from the friends you make while training.

Also fwiw, at my weight, I will likely be fighting some 19 or 20 year old kid. I turn 32 next month. Your age, much like your life, is what you make of it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bible_Belt said:
Your age, much like your life, is what you make of it.
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It is. We have to stop making excuses why we can't take chances and live. I'm just turned 31 and doing everything differently.

The funny thing is when I was younger I said "but I'm too young to do that" now it's "too old to do that" and the common denominator is my attitude.
 
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