Feeling just...sad/bittersweet

[PeasantPlayer]

Change of life I guess, getting a new job seeing friends less, some are married have kids, others moved away, some just drifted apart and here I am, working on myself, my music, meditation trying to eat as healthy as I can and I feel good things are coming, I miss all the memories and childhood memories and the way things were, but now its time to be a man. Its a stage I am in right now and will get through.

How did you guys cope or adjust?

 

[Julian]

Take it one day at a time player. THINK BIG. Like REALLY BIG. It's easy to go introvert mode when you have that sad feel and start meditating on it and blablabla, but sometimes thats the best time to go EXTROVERT mode and just put yourself out there.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Julian is right. Just try to meet new people. If you are losing a lot of friends, its time to make some new ones. Simple as that.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Just enjoy life... Meditation is good. Introspection if you are already sad is BAD. I come from a family of introspective types who all suffer from depression. Don't think too much, just live. As John Lennon said, life is what happens while you are busy making plans.
You get through it one day at a time like everything else in life. Enjoy the good moments, work to make more of them and learn from the bad times and try to have less of them.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Thanks fellas

 

[Casillas]

Just as some situations in the past that you thought you will never get through and look at yourself now, you get it over. You're life will start being limitless at the point when you decide to do something about it. Stay strong bro

 

[Serenity]

The purpose of work is to support what you like. If you only work and all your friends drift away, why do you work? What is work worth to you if nothing except work happens in your life? What are you working for?

Ultimately, what is worth working for? I don't think it's right to give you an answer, it's best reached in your own personal meditation.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

True, I feel like my life is transitioning to another chapter and while I am letting go of that chapter (Peter Pan Syndrome) and entering in to the new one. I accepted the challenge I am ready. Having an existential crisis, I want to learn and experience so much more that its got my mind spinning in circles thoughts bouncing off the walls of my mind (receiver) I'm done with the old, but I'll never forget it

 

[Dingo]

Curious how old you are ?....

I had an existential crisis around 53.... mid life does that to you....

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I'm 30 about to be 31 in 2 weeks.....I feel like I should be doing more....like I'm meant to do something and I want be satisfied till I get it done, its been longing at me for a decade already

 

[Dingo]

30 ?! .... The way you lamented I thought you where a old man... lol

We all go through the blahs but wait until you're 50 plus to really have a mid life crisis.

You got your whole life ahead of you.... Carpe diem !

 

[Poon King]

30's is the best decade for men. Its when youth, wisdom, and maturity meet all at once. I'm 31 and I'm doing better financially, socially and emotionally than any other time in my life. And I feel like I'm just getting started.

Sometimes losing old friends is a necessary evil for your own personal growth. Don't cling to the past too much if you want to grow as a man. For me.. I outgrow my friends every 5 to 10 years. I'm only still in touch with one guy from high school and one guy from college.

Once you come to terms with that fact that all things in life are temporary, you will feel less bothered by change. Life is a ride but too many people view it as a destination (blue pillers). I think you waste your life and never reach your full potential when you obsess over blue pill goals like security and consistency. If change scares you, then you will spend most of your life scared. Change is not scary when you view life as a ride though.