Let4everBe
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Hi all,
I stumbled on this site and found a lot of good advice here on love and relationship. I hope that you guys can help me here.
About myself. I'm a guy in my mid-20s. So far I've only had one serious gf (X) in my life for 4 years and we broke up 8 months ago. I had another gf (Y) or rather a rebound for a short 1 month after that and after breaking up with Y I fell in love with a long time friend (Z). Other than that, I had a lot of admirers and potential flings in the past but never proceed or attempted anything because its either I was shy, fussy or afraid (cos I was with X). Z is the second girl I had a sexual relationship with.
About Z. She is also in her mid-20s. She too had a serious bf for 2 years. After that she had a long time fling (1-2 years?) which she didn't want to commit to as she knew he wasn't serious. After breaking up with this long time fling, she was seeing someone else but did not want to continue as she did not want to waste her time when she knew he too wasn't serious. When Z met up with me again (I was overseas for a couple of years) we fell in love and decided to give it a try. We've been going out for 3 months.
Note that she actually had a lot more bf's and non serious relationships in the past but those were not important to her or to be mentioned.
What's bugging me is the fact that she had more relationships that I did. I know for a fact that it wasn't her choice to end up with the wrong guy as she wanted true love and there are times she regretted for even starting the relationship. She did mention that she experienced loneliness and heartburns that she decided to go out with different guys just to keep her occupied. As far as I know (gathering info from her) she only had 3 sexual relationships.
We've been good friends for 3 years and I trust her even as a friend. She's told me a lot about herself and her relationships and I'm thankful for that. I'm only afraid that she might loose interest in me one day or do something behind my back.
Though she tells me she loves me and she says I'm the one she wants to live with forever, I'm still insecure. I even had sinful thoughts of finding a one night stand just to get even with her. Is this normal? What's wrong with me? I do not want to do something stupid like that. I am very much in love with her and I willing to forget her past but it keeps haunting me.... HELP!
I stumbled on this site and found a lot of good advice here on love and relationship. I hope that you guys can help me here.
About myself. I'm a guy in my mid-20s. So far I've only had one serious gf (X) in my life for 4 years and we broke up 8 months ago. I had another gf (Y) or rather a rebound for a short 1 month after that and after breaking up with Y I fell in love with a long time friend (Z). Other than that, I had a lot of admirers and potential flings in the past but never proceed or attempted anything because its either I was shy, fussy or afraid (cos I was with X). Z is the second girl I had a sexual relationship with.
About Z. She is also in her mid-20s. She too had a serious bf for 2 years. After that she had a long time fling (1-2 years?) which she didn't want to commit to as she knew he wasn't serious. After breaking up with this long time fling, she was seeing someone else but did not want to continue as she did not want to waste her time when she knew he too wasn't serious. When Z met up with me again (I was overseas for a couple of years) we fell in love and decided to give it a try. We've been going out for 3 months.
Note that she actually had a lot more bf's and non serious relationships in the past but those were not important to her or to be mentioned.
What's bugging me is the fact that she had more relationships that I did. I know for a fact that it wasn't her choice to end up with the wrong guy as she wanted true love and there are times she regretted for even starting the relationship. She did mention that she experienced loneliness and heartburns that she decided to go out with different guys just to keep her occupied. As far as I know (gathering info from her) she only had 3 sexual relationships.
We've been good friends for 3 years and I trust her even as a friend. She's told me a lot about herself and her relationships and I'm thankful for that. I'm only afraid that she might loose interest in me one day or do something behind my back.
Though she tells me she loves me and she says I'm the one she wants to live with forever, I'm still insecure. I even had sinful thoughts of finding a one night stand just to get even with her. Is this normal? What's wrong with me? I do not want to do something stupid like that. I am very much in love with her and I willing to forget her past but it keeps haunting me.... HELP!