"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Feeling Guilty...

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Went out with my girlfriend, her sis&husband, and a mutual friend whom I met a few months ago at an art gallery and also chilled at a club a few times...

Anyway, I didn't use to find the friend attractive, I mean she's like a 7 from memory or so, but tonight she was extremely sexy for some reason, I dunno what it is but no one couldn't tell me she wasn't a 9 or something...

A few times during dinner, we caught eyes but nothing too serious. SHe has a boyfriend (who'm i've met and chilled with together as couples), but I got the distinct feel something was there, but admittedly I'll say that it was more on my end, i dunno if i'm just horny tonite or what but I couldn't get her out of my head and even now she's in my head...

Also, at the end of the night my girls sisters husband was going to take her home and so it would be me and my girls friend walking home together, but the husband made a big deal about taking me home and I couldn't get out of it and I feel bad for even wanting to get out of it... I was actively trying to walk home with the friend to have more time around her and test the attraction levels with some teasing and maybe some kino...

I love my girl to death, and this is seriously bothering me... I have never cheated on her and hardly ever have lustful thoughts about other females.. I mean yeah I say, "she's hot" but its never serious thoughts, tonight i was contemplating what it'd be like to fvck this girl, it was soo bad i even had to go into the bathroom during dinner and masturbate and it only made me even hornier...

Guys with girlfriends ever experienced that ?? Good thing this girl is going overseas with a 1-way ticket in 2 weeks and so she's basically outta the picture now, but the main thing is this is making me rethink my relationship... is it normal to have those thoughts ?? I feel really guilty i was actually trying to be alone with her... i dunn even kno if she felt anything, probably not in all honesty but i was going to try and i feel like crap for that...


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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Its normal bro, and that girl just wanted you to fvck her before she left for good. She even went to lengths so that you would walk her home alone at night. Take the hint next time and just nail the bird.
 

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^ ^ Tks for the advice, but I believe you're wrong...

The girl didn't show any signs of wanting to be fvcked, but its just more of me wanting to fvck her and actually taking steps to proceed, is scary when i'm supposed to be committed to my girl, ehh maybe i'm making too big a deal


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that's really strange, hopefully if you don't see that girl for a while you'll just forget about her.

eh but then i've never had to excuse myself to go masturbate, although one time this friend of mine with like 32Ds was wearing a firefighter costume for haloween, and she normally doesn't show any cleavage at all but DAMN, i was close to asking my teacher for a bathroom pass o.o
 

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that's really strange, hopefully if you don't see that girl for a while you'll just forget about her.

eh but then i've never had to excuse myself to go masturbate
I dunno man, she had me ridiculously turned on. If I didnt' go 'squeeze' one off, I'd have been drooling at the table and I probably would have def. walked her home and said something or did something very wrong and embarrassing...

Yeah don't like her at all, just turned on... one more nut and it'll go away ;)


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes you should be feeling guilty for cheating yourself for being stuck in a marriage like relationship in your early adult years in which you should be sexing up other women until you know exectly what you want.
 

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^ ^ ^ Off-t0pic but she's what I want at this time... I'm not going to let society tell me how to live my life. Trying to live out some modern society notion that a 'regular' life is fvcking alot of random women until 28 when u should settle down. Live your life how you want to, as long as i'm happy...

If a time comes where I don't want her or i'm not happy, I'll move on.



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Cod3r said:
^ ^ ^ Off-t0pic but she's what I want at this time...
No, if this is what you want in this time, you wouldn't be pitching a tent underneath the dinner table for the other girl.

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I'm not going to let society tell me how to live my life.
If you are not letting society tell you how to live your life then why are you feelin guilty? where do you think the guilt came from? on whose morals are you basing your feelings from???

Cod3r said:
Trying to live out some modern society notion that a 'regular' life is fvcking alot of random women until 28 when u should settle down. Live your life how you want to, as long as i'm happy...
This is not society notion about regular life. Our desire to fvck come from nature. Nobody said settle down, or fvck until you are 28 for the hell of it, if you got a hardon for one girl who you think its good enough for you so be it, but you dont. The reason you need to date many women is to go through and see what else is out there instead of wondering about what could it be. If you experienced something at least you would know instead of sitting down and fantasizing about other women and wondered what could have been.......

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If a time comes where I don't want her or i'm not happy, I'll move on.
Excuses. You just want more, she is not the problem but your choices and limitation you placed over yourself.
 

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i guess you will not able to forget her man..that really sucks.. besides, nowadays im into those kind of girls whom really able to make me hot... the rest of them are cute, beatiful whatever ..plenty of them...bot they are not really hot...
 

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DJDamage said:
Yes you should be feeling guilty for cheating yourself for being stuck in a marriage like relationship in your early adult years in which you should be sexing up other women until you know exectly what you want.
ummm, no. he found wat he wants in his girl. thats why he's with her. that was justa temporary moment of weakness and horniness made worse by the fact that his girl was away. it doesnt mean he wants something different, or that he doesnt kno wat he wants, jus that he let his guard down for a sec. u obviously never had anything more than jus fvck buddies my friend:down:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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is that girl azn? btw, u can release those tension on ur girlfriend. but remember, don't call out the wrong name.
 

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Raikojo17 said:
ummm, no. he found wat he wants in his girl. thats why he's with her. that was justa temporary moment of weakness and horniness made worse by the fact that his girl was away. :
His girl wasn't around that was the problem?? if that is the case she should be around him 24 hours a day like a babysitter, I am sure he will forget all the women he still wants to fvck when he is around her ALL THE TIME.

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it doesnt mean he wants something different, or that he doesnt kno wat he wants, jus that he let his guard down for a sec.
He wanted to fvck her he said it himself. Let his guard down?? what the hell does that mean??!! are you saying he programmed himself not to be attracted to other chicks and in a weak moment he lost it??? lol
 

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If you are not letting society tell you how to live your life then why are you feelin guilty? where do you think the guilt came from? on whose morals are you basing your feelings from???
That's a good point actually and something I need to think on, but seriously I am happy with my girl, no complaints but of course curiosity about other women is natural and don't deny that... touche

i guess you will not able to forget her man..that really sucks.. besides, nowadays im into those kind of girls whom really able to make me hot... the rest of them are cute, beatiful whatever ..plenty of them...bot they are not really hot...
I've found that to be truth also bro. Most girls are 'cute' or 'hot' or something, but certain girls are just sexy... not alot of females share this trait, I've only known a few girls that got me thissss hot... wow

is that girl azn? btw, u can release those tension on ur girlfriend. but remember, don't call out the wrong name.
Yeah the friend is azn, it seems that's all i find attractive these days...

He wanted to fvck her he said it himself. Let his guard down?? what the hell does that mean??!! are you saying he programmed himself not to be attracted to other chicks and in a weak moment he lost it??? lol
I didn't let my guard down, I just really wanted to fvck this girl... Not just 'play through ur head' fvcking, but actually 'lets run some game'... 'lets walk home together'... fvcking.... I feeL bad just because if the husband wouldn't have really insisted i come home with them, theres a good chance i might have done or said something stupid to that girl....

I guess since I've cheated on all my ex-gf's and with this current one I've never been close to cheating, not in my mind or anything and this night I came very close to my OLD selF and it just scares me because I think my relationship with my girL is special... not just some 'lets pass the time' bullsh@t... hope someone understands


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u cheated before in ur life time,

all of them, thats why, once a cheater always a cheater.. its in the mind too, you're used to ****ing because of some sort of lack-ment in ur exes so u tend to cheat. then ur mind created a "habit" for this.. meaning. u buit some sort of pyschologly attatchment to your mind. you need to fight it bro.
your mind isnt used to a real commitment, ur mind isnt used to turning sex down just for one reason(ur girl) thats why u were horny... and the reason you feel guilty because you have something special dont want to risk it(your relationship)..

you have the confidence and the power to adapt and change.
theres no such thing as gurad.. its You.
if things went further, you would probably have cheated..
then she would have ended up like all ur exes..

you need to say NO to these urges.
dont let her slip away like them other girls,

cheating is a sign for a coward. are you one?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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^ ^ Great advice, I needed that, tks bro...

Also, I was horny just because she dripped sexual appeal tonight, no other reason. It wasn't normal horniness, it was beyond that, i've felt that for only a few girls in my lifetime... I denied it and didn't act and now its over, so i think things are good, that's a big hurdle... :cheer:


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