Feeling guilty. Girls think I'm something I'm not.

[Poonani Maker]

When I pass people at the mall or in a club or on the job, them with their boyfriends, they turn their heads, and if I lock eyes with them, I can see them start to gush or melt. I know that after I pass them, or briefly chit-chatting with them, that they will begin to compare me to their current hand-holder, and expect WAY too much from him. This goes for married women too.

Sometimes I'll just do something intentionally to embarrass myself or to put her/turn her off, so that she will think of her boyfriend more highly than me. I feel sorry for the guys who are on the receiving end of the abrupt change in their girlfriend's personality/treatment towards him.

If she only had more time with me, then she would realize what a loser I really am, in the realm of being able to KEEP a girlfriend. I'm a hard person to live with, I know. I'm not everything these impressionable lasses make me out to be.

I'm a good person. I just can't help being mean, and a breaker of laws that everyone else, including their boyfriends, seem to uphold.

 

[iqqi]

Are you drunk too?@

 

[mutambo]

Must be so damn hard for you, because your oh so damn beautiful.
I hope your life will get beter and you UG up.

 

[Nighthawk]

I've noticed a similar thing. If you're with a smoking hot woman and you are in the same shop or cafe as a couple where the woman is less attractive, she will often start being extra mean to the poor guy whether he was checking out your girl or not.

Happens with older married couples particularly.

 

[izza]

When I pass people at the mall or in a club or on the job, them with their boyfriends, they turn their heads, and if I lock eyes with them, I can see them start to gush or melt. I know that after I pass them, or briefly chit-chatting with them, that they will begin to compare me to their current hand-holder, and expect WAY too much from him. This goes for married women too.

Sometimes I'll just do something intentionally to embarrass myself or to put her/turn her off, so that she will think of her boyfriend more highly than me. I feel sorry for the guys who are on the receiving end of the abrupt change in their girlfriend's personality/treatment towards him.

If she only had more time with me, then she would realize what a loser I really am, in the realm of being able to KEEP a girlfriend. I'm a hard person to live with, I know. I'm not everything these impressionable lasses make me out to be.

I'm a good person. I just can't help being mean, and a breaker of laws that everyone else, including their boyfriends, seem to uphold.

Ooo, I hate that feeling that chicks dig me for my looks. It's the worst!! And feeling like a fraud, or someone that appears attractive but isn't when chicks get to know us. That's a bad feeling man.

Personally, I've fought it by dressing way down (oh man, if you saw me today vs. two years ago, you would laugh - my beard is enormous, I've gained some weight, I stopped cutting my hair and my fingernails could cut garlic.)

Fight this feeling of being a fraud with everything you have. If you're like me, this feeling means you are relying on too many crutches and not developing your core personality enough. Do what you have to do to feel like people are talking to you for who you really are. In my case, that was dress down, I call chicks right away, and tell them embarrassing sh!t about myself. Yes, I don't get the chicks interested in the facade anymore. Now I get chicks who I KNOW are interested in me. Me. That's the way it should be man. I still have a lot of issues to work out. Feeling like a wonderful person is one of my biggest victories though. You can feel that way too.

Best,
Izza