Feeling good despite no play.

[Poonani Maker]

Do you feel good day-to-day despite no sex. I feel very good and healthy. I feel more tired cause I'm older (my eyes do), but I am getting amazingly good sleep, just Deep REM sleep with multiple memorable dreams. I have a rotation of 3 books at once usually either read in bed or in the tub. I can say I've certainly reached the point of not needing ANY woman (and it pisses them off btw, and I have a couple in my daily contact - today even as well - that are outright disdainful of me for not wanting them (about 15 years younger)...one will try to bring up her boyfriend and their cuddling watching TV and she'll be being hit on by a smokey older sick dude but she'll keep telling him about her "boyfriend" and activities in front of him (customer) and me semi-co-worker (though we do not work for the same company, but on the same "team"). There's a homosexual guy who works on her side as well and he has turned against me and gossips like a b!tch to her when I'm not there (and even if I am there) - I think she may have told him that I detest homosexuals and those with tats and piercings and on and on. I make about 6 times as much money as they do and they know it. This little hottie (though flat-chested) is so frustrated by how I NEVER show any attraction towards her and just really push her out of my mind as a possibility. She's really beginning to hate me for it too. She's burned through 3 "boyfriends" since I've known her about 3 years, boyfriends that Lived with her (one of them an oilfield worker). She's wanting to leave her job for a couple of weeks now and the faggot tells me this (she doesn't). Her other job is at Charlotte Russe, so she's the "mall" type, the blah blah blah type. I don't want her, but she's starting to treat me unprofessionally because of that. I'd like for her, her faggot co-worker (who keeps talking about "quitting" and even if he can use me as reference), the new hire and the grandmother transfer (can't stand her either! always bragging about her PhD - no way to verify and how all her grandchildren and family eats at her house every week that she fixes a huge dinner for everyone, extremely liberal old woman). They ALL pretty much like "Ellen Degeneres."

They'll speak to me so friendly so I'll have to reciprocate and take what they say in good faith and banter and chat, but if I had my druthers, I'd say NOTHING and be on my way. I do not generally like socializing with people, who for one, would not like me if they knew my mind wholly, and 2, that are so diametrically opposed to me that there is no hope in me ever CHANGING them/their views. The Mall chick, I do not care to even attempt to change unless she were to fall for me so hard that she drops EVERY thought and thing in her life and waits at my beckon call... Even then..I pause. If she became so enthralled or hypnotized by me that she dropped it ALL and followed me (like Jesus lol), then that'd be the ONLY way she'd ever be getting "interest," "attraction," "sex," or "commitment" from me.

We, as men, give Commitment (our currency) while women give us "female validation." Many women AND men do not understand that these two currencies is ALL that is being transferred in our interactions with one another. Not even sure if women could understand that basic premise, even if you told it to them a 1000 times over a great period of time.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

no i dont feel better when im not having sex. even if the relatio**** "situationship" is more or less toxic in every other dimension than the sex, i will still be more confident in my day to day when im getting some poonani on the side :shrug: ive tried to tell myself otherwise but it never works lol theres some sort of chemical need for sex for humans, you can diffuse it in particular ways but it always re-emerges

 

[Poonani Maker]

I see a lot of angst on even mid-30 year olds (guys) that could probably be quelled by fruits and vegetables (easiest administration through juicing so no chomping for hours). I believe this is due to the QUickkk grabbing and eating (the easy way out) processed foods (you know, practically ALL Wal-Mart, Target, your local grocery - even "health food" grocery like Whole Foods etc), the SUgarrrr foods. Sugar will make you irritable, so when you're having interactions with (hopefully) females you wanna fvck, you have no encumbrances when there is no or minimal sugar eatin at you. You can focus in like a light saber on HER (either distantly or up-front-n'-personal face-to-face). Basically, it just makes you "resourceful" as does nofapping. Your sleep will be Deep deep so you truly wake up a new man. If you "go your own way," and Improve Yourself (Alpha) above all else (sure you need to give to others -especially low-wage earners who by the way usually have the worst negative feelings about their jobs I've found but really who wouldn't? - every now and then that makes you feel good too). Then there's the books, to keep you occupied, or whatever you're gonna do outside.

So many guys who eat bad and have got encumbrances in many other ways cause they're not even 1/10 of what kind of MAN they need to become before they venture in to female interaction, are basically just clingers-on to women depressingly almost ALL if not all throughout their lives. Even genetic alphas or those who have made themselves alphas by sheer force of will self-improvement or rise in position in life, get chinked away by the chisel held in female hands (who are NOT trying to "improve" you the man at all, they are Not "sculpting" you into their "ideal" man, no no but tearing you the Fvck DOWN with every scrape of your statue (you've built for YEARS)).

When you see MEN with Big n' vast Garages with tools plastered ALL over the walls and just massiveness, he's a big self-improver and his wife is inside the house away from him. She'd love for him to let her chisel on him to build what she thinks is her "ideal" man (which would lead to divorce). She's thinks oh, how would that be great if he'd just "let" me sculpt him. He says, "Nah nah naw, naw naw naw naw..." You ain't gunna do THAT! She's got her fingers at her mouth, so Weak. He's a walking mountain of progress.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

im going to have to agree with most of this post. you MAKE yourself into a man.

this is why the sam harris vs jordan peterson debate is childish bath water at best, as in theres no baby to throw out here, in fact return the tub to wal mart please. obviously we are not born with free will, we have to TAKE free will from life. sam harris is right that we are more or less essentially chained to our genetic/deterministic causes, yet this is not subversive at all, if anything its just a genetic cop-out so losers can go "see this is why im a loser, its not truly MY fault, x causes made me this way." and winners can go "i was just born for this man".....neither is true. even a perfect genetic specimin is going to encounter bare life, is the strongest tree the the one that is the strongest because it was either born that way or because it chose to be that way? no, the strongest, baddest, asskickingest looking trees are ones that got hit by lightning and had another tree fall on them and they said you know what **** this **** im the biggest baddest ass kickingest tree in the forest a little lightning doesnt scare my non-sentient ass. my point is that youre right, the best marriages are the ones in which the father truly is a force to be reckoned with. theres no major difference in being absolute in your "self", and toxic/abusive relationships from the outside looking in. anyone that claims this is an sjw/fem that doesn't understand dialectics. of course from one angle (her perspective) its going to be "toxic abuse", the woman thats truly worth sticking around though is the one that can comprehend why certain sacrafices are necessary in order for "love" to happen, ie the marriage doesnt end in divorce and transvestite children.

that said there is true abuse that occurs in **** tons of relationships, and that should not occur, im talking the hubby that comes home flies off the chain and beats his wife for burning the croutons.

bill burr has good insight into this. there are plenty of valid reasons to hit a woman, but as men we don't ever do that, because we don't need to.