Feeling demoralised

[AttackFormation]

I haven't fvcked since sometime in July, and it's really getting to me. Months without hearing "cvm wherever you want to", "please enter me", "mmmmm", "your d1ck...", "AttackFormation...", "I love sucking d1ck", "ooh, ooh, ooh", "I love when you tease me", "rub your d1ck on my pvssy... oooh! mmm...". Do you know what that does to your mind? I can't take any more. I see these kids around me with their girlfriends, talking about how they're gonna hang with them, exchanging pictures and sh!t on snapchat or whatever. I actually dumped my latest because I couldn't stand her even in bed, I decided I would rather be alone than see/fvck her and I still think it's the right choice. So that's not my problem.

The problem is I can't get a replacement. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don't like spending money unnecessarily, I don't like the bar or club "vibe" in general and I haven't learned any flashy dance moves yet although I plan to - so I don't really have fun in either bars or clubs and not having fun when you're picking girls up is obviously a recipe for going nowhere.

I have loose acquaintances that I see as I do my daily routines, but the two guys I could consider friends have either practically moved on from me and is busy with his career, girlfriend and other friends, or is in the same boat as me although he has a girl (who has no girlfriends).

I recently quit my job but I had no female colleagues anyway. I study, but from home - and in short with what I'm studying right now I don't think it'd make a difference if I was in a classroom. I go to some other places but none of them are currently a good hunting ground. I also live in Sweden, which has a reputation even amongst ourselves for being socially insular and "cold" and even though I plan to relocate I'm stuck here right now.

I've pretty much combed through the internet dating options I have. I would like to find someone who actually makes my d1ck hard, but finding thick or bigger girls here is quite hard (although it's not a requirement because that would leave me with a far smaller amount of pvssy candidates) and it doesn't help that the gender ratio here is no good.

I just don't meet any girls. What would you do?

 

[dustmuffin]

You have quite a conundrum. I have no clue. I went to school in Sweden 35 years ago. There were no foreigners so I was unique. It was heaven on earth and easy to get women. I think things have changed. Try to join an activity club? That's what I would do. Try to date utlaning? Look on "The Local Sweden" web site. It is a Swedish news site for foreigners in English It has a dating section. You might find an interesting foreign girl and get to practice your English. I still keep in touch with my old Swedish GF.


http://www.thelocal.se/

 

[gravityeyelids]

When it rains it pours. Its a vicious cycle because when youre not getting laid, it's much harder to get laid. When you're getting laid, girls seem to throw themselves at you. I went through a long dry spell...including most of the summer, probably 3 or 4 months over all. I was desperate, hitting on anything that moved. I too am a picky person when it comes to girls, but I was in such a slump that I couldn't even bag girls so lame that I look back at now and say "why did I even want that?"

You're projecting negative energy and it's turning girls away. When you're on point and your game is on, girls can smell it on you. You can pull girls anywhere, not necessarily just at the bar or online.

I went through that spell and then suddenly over the course of a week, it suddenly clicked and I hooked up with like 5-6 girls within a few weeks. I actually had to make myself slow down because I was afraid of STDs and focus on just the girls that really turned me on. And now I'm sleeping with a girl that's probably the hottest girl I've ever slept with on a weekly basis. This is not even me trying to brag. A few months ago I was looking at myself going "what is wrong with me? Why isn't anything working?"

I'm assuming youre not new to this because of your status and the way you talk. Once you have a few years experience under your belt I find that it comes in cycles. Just stay strong, distract yourself with a hobby or improving yourself and just wait it out man

 

[AttackFormation]

About activity club/hobby, I have a couple but am going to add dancing classes to the list. It's important to be skilled at having fun (ie. dancing, haha) and hopefully that will hit me up with some cool girls. I too feel like it's easier when you're already getting laid, not because of a physical difference but because of the way you feel.

 

[AttackFormation]

Just talk like you're getting laid. Women aren't mind readers.

Of course, but there's something about being with a girl that makes you feel more at ease at least in my case. When I already have a (non-keeper fyi, I wouldn't show such disrespect to a girl I wanted to keep) girl, I feel completely at ease flirting with and looking at other girls. My inhibitions go away, like being on alcohol. It's fvcked up when you think about it.

 

[gravityeyelids]

I hear you. As a natural introvert, I actually do a little better when Im not dating anyone because I have the motivation to be aggressive, but there's no denying that women have that 6th sense when you have options and will literally come to you.

Yea i totally feel like they can smell it on you. I'm generally a fan of faking it until you make it but your actions and body language usually say far more than your words, and in many cases women are indeed mind readers in the sense that they can smell pu$$y on you and can tell even if you talk like you're getting girls