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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Hey,

In this whole self-changing from a nice guy to a Man thing, today, I was planning on hanging out with another guy maybe to practice our game, so I put on some of my best clothes this morning, and my Mom was like are you going anywhere today, and I told her I was probably going to hang out with this one guy today. It just sort of seemed weird because I know my Mom and Dad know me as the "nice guy" who stays home on the computer or whatever. I got these creepy thoughts in my head that what if my parents think I'm getting weird or getting gay even. Wow, I just don't know.
What do you advise me to do/feel? More moments that show I am changing to my parents are bound to happen.

Thanks!
 

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How is it at all weird? Maybe they were just surprised at the reaction? hell, they might even support you!

If they really had an issue with it I'm pretty sure they'd tell you. As far as I'm concerned your change is for the better. Theres no reason to feel down about it, go hang out with your friend :up:
 
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someone800 said:
Hey,

In this whole self-changing from a nice guy to a Man thing, today, I was planning on hanging out with another guy maybe to practice our game, so I put on some of my best clothes this morning, and my Mom was like are you going anywhere today, and I told her I was probably going to hang out with this one guy today. It just sort of seemed weird because I know my Mom and Dad know me as the "nice guy" who stays home on the computer or whatever. I got these creepy thoughts in my head that what if my parents think I'm getting weird or getting gay even. Wow, I just don't know.
What do you advise me to do/feel? More moments that show I am changing to my parents are bound to happen.

Thanks!
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Your parents will likely be very proud of your success, socially.

Just like how my parents were.

They were glad that I'm getting out of the house more.
 
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Yeah, I guess. Thanks for the replies. I think I just need to be more confident with myself because I was telling my parents I was going to hang out with someone. My Mom was like, "a girl"? I replied, no, this guy named "Insert name here" down the street (we haven't hanged out before).
 
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someone800 said:
Yeah, I guess. Thanks for the replies. I think I just need to be more confident with myself because I was telling my parents I was going to hang out with someone. My Mom was like, "a girl"? I replied, no, this guy named "Insert name here" down the street (we haven't hanged out before).
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Even if it was a girl, you should not be embarrassed. Its normal for a guy to like a girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i know EXACTLY what your talking about

back in 7th grade i used to not wear any nice clothing and i used to spend my time playing video games. i was skinny, awkward and strange.

but in the 8th grade i had a sudden idea that i wanted to look better and be more social so i started shopping at department stores and american eagle and all that bull

when i did this my brothers made fun of me and my parents thought i was very strange

this wears off quickly, they will grow accustom to it and you will never have to feel weird again

now I'm in the 11th grade, im very sociable, i dress well, i talk to lots of girls, and my parents treat me the same

it may take time to get used to, but once you do its well worth it
 
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You can't let your parents hold you back man. I started going out to parties and sh!t and my parents didn't like it but I'm still REALLY glad I did. It got to a point where they got p!ssed off that I was going out so much, which affected my negitively. However your parents are the only people who love you unconditionly so you shouldn't worry to much what they thing. They want what's best for you and would probably be glad that your being social and having fun. I went through the same stage and it worked out fine.
 
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Actually -- I tried something a little similar this week.

I basically wore a tie to school, instead of jeans/band tee.

My parents were not the only ones to notice. But they did -- and they asked me what was up. I alluded to trying to impress someone -- so I think they get the general idea that I'm trying something new. They didn't seem disturbed -- after all, there is no concrete evidence of negative behavior -- only behavior that is different from the norm.

I know my parents liked my new look -- and were initially impressed, if a bit puzzled. Unless your parents have a history of reading too much into your actions, or have responded negatively in some other way, I wouldn't worry about it. Stick with it, and people will just accept that you have come to embody this new charismatic style.
 
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SinJester said:
You can't let your parents hold you back man. I started going out to parties and sh!t and my parents didn't like it but I'm still REALLY glad I did. It got to a point where they got p!ssed off that I was going out so much, which affected my negitively. However your parents are the only people who love you unconditionly so you shouldn't worry to much what they thing. They want what's best for you and would probably be glad that your being social and having fun. I went through the same stage and it worked out fine.
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This was a good post so I'll build off of what Jester said.

Do you remember your thread here earlier about "Not knowing who I am anymore," someone?

Remember what I said? People aren't used to change.

In this case it even applies to your parents. They aren't used to it. All though they probably whole-heartedly support you, they are probably just surprised of this change, thats all.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LostAndConfused said:
This was a good post so I'll build off of what Jester said.

Do you remember your thread here earlier about "Not knowing who I am anymore," someone?

Remember what I said? People aren't used to change.

In this case it even applies to your parents. They aren't used to it. All though they probably whole-heartedly support you, they are probably just surprised of this change, thats all.
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Yeah, your right-thanks. I probably just a little over-worried since it is my parents and they raised a "sweet, innocent, shy, overly-nice and thankful to everyone" boy.
 
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