"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Feel stuck in my role (at school)

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So i'm gonna keep this quick cause im goin to see watchmen in like 10 minutes with mis amigos. Basically, when i'm out of school i easily act like a big player a good amount of the time, and do good. However in school/in class I tend to be quiet kid. It's a combo of in school I usually focus on one thing at a time (eg i'll **** around after finishing my ****, but not while i'm doing it; problem is there is a neverending stream of **** i have to do there in some classes and i'm committed to getting good grades) and in the past i've been a quiet kid introvert. It's mostly my own problem, cause usally i do pretty well with it these days and have a LOT more friends, and people accept that i'm a real outgoing person out of school so they aren't wierded out or w/e, but I still feel like it'd be wierd to start acting like that in school. So sometimes, esp. if i don't have a good friend near me to get me out of it, I snap back into the role i used to fill.

So anyone got advice/experience with acting differently (how you are now, not how you were) in HS?

EDITS: also this is more a problem in groups of people that know each other and i've kinda-knew them all for a while (ya know?)

And my question is mostly how to be a fun guy while still doing my work in class, I am bad with multitasking that.

Oh and I might as well throw this in, I find most ways to flirt in school just idk the word, childish? Like blatant teasing stuff and idk if i'm just overly sensitive to it but it seems so wierdo stuff to me even tho i've done it and it works, like i love to tease girls if we're talking or w/e out of school but in a class i feel limited to childish bs a lot of the time.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I know a few guys like that but as long as your known as the "real good guy when he outta school" then it's okay, it even better because people want to know what your like out of school, puts a bit of mystery into it :up:
 

Get-With-It

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It's the enviroment. Chances are you were at your most afc point at school and while you practiced and became good at DJing outside of school, you neglected to practice it at school so it still is a foreign notion to you. It's understandable. If you get rejected in real life then it's no issue because you'll never see the chick again. In high school if you get rejected then the risk of embarrassment is amplified as well as the chance of it spreading around school and you gaining a bad rep.

My tip: baby steps. Don't make yourself feel like just because you can spit game at the mall you have to be a serious pimp in Algebra class. If trying something new at school like flirting seems wierd at first then it's a good thing because the more you do it the better you get. Slow progress is better than no progress.:cool:
 
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