"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Feel Numb - Cheated on GF of 1 day with ex-FB

Jitterbug

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Rollo Tomassi said:
So you're upset about a promise you made your adolescent self at 15?

Do you think maybe you can understand what your Dad was experiencing when he did what he did? Do you think maybe there was more going on in his situation at that time than you were aware of?
Exactly.

Crissco, you have some daddy issues and you're taking your 15 y.o self too seriously. I had some similar issues with my dad, and one day (not very long ago) I invited him over for a week and we talked about everything. Turned out that what I had in my head at that age was not even close to the truth, and the things I thought were absolutely unacceptable back then have become very different now with my own maturity and experiences. My dad and I have never got along better than now, and I feel my maturity and confidence have taken a major boost.

25 is way too young to have an exclusive GF in this modern world, especially in New York! Short term exclusive with an expiry date if you're hungry for relationship lovey dovey, sure, but you are throwing away time and freedom that one day you will wish you could have back.

Also, really think about why you want a "challenge" from a woman. I bet that is something programmed into your head by what Rollo would call the Feminine Imperative. I'm not sure what you're doing with your life at the age of 25, but I'm 5 years older and have more than enough challenges in my life that I definitely do not want some woman to challenge me all the fvcking time when I need to wind down. However, when I was younger, my thinking was very similar because that's what I learned (not intentionally, but it got stuck over time) from blue-pill people around me, and our beloved media...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Desdinova

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Crissco said:
we both said were gonna try to work on it bc we both know we're not good at relationships.
Did you ever think the reason you're "no good with relationships" is because you've been with nothing but 5hitty women? There's thousands of lousy, low quality women out there. I know because I've dated bus loads of them. A quality woman is extremely difficult to find, and the older the women are, the worse they're going to be.

You shouldn't go into a relationship to improve your relationship skills. If you know how to attract a woman and cause her emotions to fluctuate, that's all you need. You just need to keep doing both of those things for the woman to remain attracted to you. The only experience you need is dating.

kimberleah said:
Honestly you shouldnt be in a relationship.
No, he should be in a relationship with A GOOD WOMAN.

4 girls at once? What- do you think you're God's gift to the world?
The more women you date, the quicker you filter out the garbage. It has nothing to do with being God's gift.

All you low-class ****ty men that think you deserve nice, loyal, nurturing women make me laugh hysterically.
I think ALL men deserve nice, loyal, nurturing women. Unfortunately, there are very few women like that to be found. They're too busy shunning those things because society encourages them to use the '50s housewife' label to become lazy and selfish.
 

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Im over this now, blew it off days ago, but all of you guys make a very valid point.

Ive had nurturing woman in my life, my second to last ex was very nuturing, and a good person. She used to bake for me, cook, clean, help my brother out. To bad she got fat and got very very clingy or it might of worked out.

I understand where my dad is coming from now, but the fact was I looked up to him alot, and it hurt me, plus the fact my mom had cancer around that time also didnt help.
 

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You "cheated" on your "girlfriend of one day?" That's worth a laugh.

Rather, you have no commitment to either, and they have no commitment to you. So it's impossible to cheat.

You should say that you fornicated with a woman, then promiscuously fornicated with another, and that you're so fickle that you went back to screw the first one again.

Jeez! It's not like you married her and cheated on your honeymoon. Get a grip.
 

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Your dad made a promise before GOD to be faithful to your mom. Did you do the same for your GF?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dear Crissco,
Oh come on you enjoyed yourself and you want sympathy?...Get real,and just accept that you are at heart a philanderer like most of us....We follow our basic urges,accept that relationships are all cyclic in Nature and just keep travelling on....As Kipling puts it "...the more you have known of the others,the less will you settle on one.."
 
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