Feel Like I'm Going AFC Again

[Mando]

Basically, I've had no luck, and I'm in college. I've only made friends with a few people, but nothing that I could call up and ask where the parties are at. Not to mention they live about an hour from me. All three girls I've gone for have boyfriends, which isn't really stopping me, but I don't feel like its going anywhere. I don't have a job because all of the places I've applied at are fully staffed, so there's no social circle through there. Two people who I thought were my good friends never want to hang out with me and pretty much bailed on me as soon as one of their other friends came back, not that it matters because they weren't any fun and never wanted to do anything.

I don't know, it just seems as if I'm going back to that state where I'm not socially active, even though I try to be, I just have nowhere to start. I'm also starting to workout again and it helps me relieve stress and stay in shape, but its not really doing anything toward the ladies. I can open well unless I get approach anxiety, but my game dies eventually because I don't keep the interest up, I can pull a number but thats about it. I am also very social whenever the moment comes, such as in class when we're in a group I can take charge and be fun and talkative, or at parties I can go around and meet everyone no problem. Its just I can never get them attracted enough to get beyond a number close, for a date or anything.

I feel like I've learned so much but have nowhere to go with it.

Anyone know the problem here? Sorry if it sounds like I'm ranting, but I honestly don't know what else to do. IF someone could give me advice to lead my in the right direction, it'd be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Taste]

Basically, I've had no luck, and I'm in college. I've only made friends with a few people, but nothing that I could call up and ask where the parties are at. Not to mention they live about an hour from me. All three girls I've gone for have boyfriends, which isn't really stopping me, but I don't feel like its going anywhere. I don't have a job because all of the places I've applied at are fully staffed, so there's no social circle through there. Two people who I thought were my good friends never want to hang out with me and pretty much bailed on me as soon as one of their other friends came back, not that it matters because they weren't any fun and never wanted to do anything.

I don't know, it just seems as if I'm going back to that state where I'm not socially active, even though I try to be, I just have nowhere to start. I'm also starting to workout again and it helps me relieve stress and stay in shape, but its not really doing anything toward the ladies. I can open well unless I get approach anxiety, but my game dies eventually because I don't keep the interest up, I can pull a number but thats about it. I am also very social whenever the moment comes, such as in class when we're in a group I can take charge and be fun and talkative, or at parties I can go around and meet everyone no problem. Its just I can never get them attracted enough to get beyond a number close, for a date or anything.

I feel like I've learned so much but have nowhere to go with it.

Anyone know the problem here? Sorry if it sounds like I'm ranting, but I honestly don't know what else to do. IF someone could give me advice to lead my in the right direction, it'd be greatly appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

I hear you man. I remember when I had one friend who barely hung out with me and whenever I would be attracted to a girl, he would hook up with her and **** her. It can feel lonely when **** isn't going right for you and you just need people to hang with, a social circle to rely on.

I wouldn't focus on girls right now. I would take a 30 day challenge where you focus on creating a tight social circle rather than focusing on girls. I've been in that mindframe liking girls that I can't have too and it's a waste of time.

The right direction is to use your social skills that you have and make some cool friends. When girls become your least priority, you attract them countlessly, wierd how that works but it's completely true.

If you want to get into it more deeper, just send me a pm and i'll see if i can help you.

 

[Warrior74]

Knowing with out action is not knowing at all.

In college I talked to everyone. EVERYONE. Bible thumpers, jocks, nerds, social groups, frat boys, hot chics. Become known. Social circle game rules college. go to parties and events on campus. Be outgoing. Stop complaining, your doing better than ever. Stay positive and active. It's on you to make it happen, if you don't then it won't. To get something out, you have to put something in, the more work you put in, the more you get out. So get to work boy. Double your efforts and win, or complain and remain the same. Work harder, your getting there.

 

[Mando]

Thanks for the responses guys, they helped a lot. Taste, I PM'd you.