Feel like I can't settle down till I get game.

[Kool4Katz]

I just always imagined I'd be in command and learn how to be a lover of women etc. etc.

I actually like the idea of finding the "one" but I know that I cannot settle down now. Even though part of me wants to.

So I ironically feel like I must get my game up, bang some hot girls, become comfortable with myself and so forth, THEN look for a real relationship that can last.

Anyone feel the same? The idea of finding a perfect girl and settling down seems impossible until I become who I want to be. And that is, among other things, a guy who is comfortable and successful with women.

I will be unhappy even with a perfect wife, because I never got to be a "stud."

 

[Night-hawk]

How you are with all women is most likely how you will be with that one woman. I'd say have fun meeting and hooking up with lot's of women, and while you are doing that you most likely will run into one who is worth your investment...as long as you properly screen her first.

The whole 'looking for that one, or relationship' is not the best atttiude to have because you may fall into placing her into a 'shes so special' (pedestal) category when you find her and guys at times tend to supplicate and sacrifice qualities of their game they know better than, to such girls because they have been 'looking or waiting for her' for so long.

But have fun!

 

[Warrior74]

I had my "stud" days in college and as a dj. I still was never "good with women" like being some super smooth player. I was the nerdy geeky guy who just didn't mind being out there, quirks and all. I knew real players who did a lot of shady things with girls, playing mind games, sleeping with their friends or sorority sisters behind their backs, cheating on their girlfriends, getting girls strung out or trading drugs for sex. I usually came from the "hey lets hang out and have fun" approach. Never pushing or promising more, and never playing mind games. I was the good guy. Not the nice guy. But the good guy. I didn't rack up huge numbers, but I did okay for myself without feeling like a scumbag. Then I settled down, it all went wrong and I actually found PUA sites from links on fathers rights sites and some random googling. I was trying to understand how it went wrong and what I did. Boy did I learn alot.

In my heyday I learned how to GET the women who were attracted to me, but I never learned how to KEEP them. Of course PUA isn't really concerned with that, its more about the never ending stream of new women. At this point in the game, I'm not concerned with sowing any more wild oats or settling down. I've done both. I'm concerned with making money, spending time with my daughter and family and reaching the goals I never got to reach in life. If I have a girlfriend to ride shotgun with me, that will be cool but I don't need one. I don't believe in "the One", although it may exist, I'm not to worried about it. I know I can live with or without women in my life. And I know if I really put in a little effort I can get women, I just don't want to be distracted right now.