"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Feel like friend is stealing girls

DoTheDew

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my friend james and I go out almost every nite together and pick up chicks....problem is he starts talking and doesnt stop....then the girls start a 1 on 1 conversation with him and hes got them hook line and sinker...he even told this girl he met last nightthat he ****ed a girl that very same night about 2 hrs before she met him and had her already giving him head scratches and her already asking for his number!!!???!? wtf...yeh and shes like you better call me everynite before you goto bed and tell me goodnight. daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyymmmm...im just sitting there like what the **** man...i have the wheels too....so everytime we go someplace i have to pick him up and bring him somewhere. but anyways what am i gonna do about this...i want to be able to pimp girls like my friend!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Desdinova

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Your friend is doing everything right. If you want to have better chances, leave him at home and fly solo. Work on your game and maybe even steal some of his techniques.

Oh yeah, and go read the DJ bible.
 

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Leave him at home? Are you retarded?

Nah man, what you NEED to do is go out with him more. Ask him to teach you. Leave your ego at home, lower your guard, and ask him to show you how it's done.

Learn from him, and with him, to elevate your game. Both of you go out with great game and you'll be rockin the venue's in no time. Two can accomplish more than one.
 

GQ Prettyboy

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It ain`t stealing if the girls weren`t belong to you in the first place.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DoTheDew

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Originally posted by SpeedRunner
Why is that every guy named "James" is a pimp? :rolleyes:
because when they walk up to girls....they are like Hey my name is James!! :D " its like a slogan or something...but thats what my friend james does. it works everytime
 

MoveYourAss...

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I think the replies are right. You can learn from him.
That is, as long as he respects leaving you your share, e.g. I had a friend once who came up to chicks I opened, entered the convo and just would not stop, ruining MY game, and he was not even successful himself, annoying the girl 95 percent of the time.

If he's like this and you can't make kinda agreement, which both of you commit to, forget him.

MoveYourA$$... and your brain will follow
 

DeathDealer

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That's funny, I know a guy named James and he's kinda dorky but then he's got serious pimp potential.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Juan_Man

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Don't worry about this guy. You don't need lessons from him either. There's nothing this guy can teach you that you can't learn here. The most important DJ tip I can give you is to be yourself. Girls can see through a phony.
 

Duke

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Here's what you do, man.

Go to fastseduction.com and read Tyler Durden's archive and go to bristollair.com and read his posts there too (they're some of his most important). This will give you a good idea of what value is and why your friend is blowing you out.

Your friend is a natural. I guarantee that if you ask him to EXPLAIN what he does, then he will tell you something like "Dude, this sh!t is so easy. Just be yourself and don't be nervous."

This isn't helpful for our purposes. You can take many paths in the seduction community, but I believe that TD's posts will give you a good reference point to observe your friend's behavioral patterns from.

And that's your main mission. Learn about attractive behavior and then OBSERVE your friend in action so that you can pinpoint what he is doing and see for yourself why it works.
 

Climax

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Originally posted by DoTheDew
my friend james and I go out almost every nite together and pick up chicks....problem is he starts talking and doesnt stop....then the girls start a 1 on 1 conversation with him and hes got them hook line and sinker...he even told this girl he met last nightthat he ****ed a girl that very same night about 2 hrs before she met him and had her already giving him head scratches and her already asking for his number!!!???!? wtf...yeh and shes like you better call me everynite before you goto bed and tell me goodnight. daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyymmmm...im just sitting there like what the **** man...i have the wheels too....so everytime we go someplace i have to pick him up and bring him somewhere. but anyways what am i gonna do about this...i want to be able to pimp girls like my friend!
Why dont u just take your friend james aside, talk to him, tell him how u feel about the situation, tell him what u want, and work TOGEATHER on getting chicks. I bet that he doesnt even realise that he is "stealing" your "game"... so like it was mentioned in a previous post by Soma, if the 2 of you work togeather, u will be able to accomplish alot more, and when i say togeather, i mean TOGEATHER, not just 1 of u do all the talking etc... before the 2 of you go to meet these chicks, make a "strategy" if u need to (so that he wont "get carried away") and then work togeather on getting those chicks.

I think another thing that u need to work on is your confidence, dont be affraid to speak, and if your friend James doesnt stop, then "push in" and say what you want to say. Sometimes u need to take control, like he seems to do every time:rolleyes:

Otherwise... just dont be scared to talk to girls, the more u do it, the more comfortable it will become, till you will get to the point where u can say things like James sais to these chicks without shame or embarrasment. (Eg: that he F*cked this 1 chick 2 hours in advance) You see, these kind of things guys are normally scared/shy to talk about with a woman that he just met, but if u DO spk about things like that, and ARE open with them, this will immediatelly work to your advantage, and will create interest in you.;)

Goodluck.
 

PathGoer

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he is a false friend

friendships is based on mutual respect.

Stealing your food, or approaching your women is a declaration of war.

Find new friends.
 

So Many Ways

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You and your friend need to come to some sort of understanding. He's obviously better than you with women so ask for his help. You have access to a valuable resource here. Work as a team. Approach groups of women and use him as a wing. He can engage the group and then you peel off the woman you want. If you and him can come to an understanding, then both of you can walk out with digits.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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