"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Feel like a bit of a chump

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I met this girl in an intensive english teaching job. We hit it off and I make her laugh. She's asked if I was seeing anyone and has demonstrated the typical IOIS. She's 10 years younger as well. She plays the guitar as I do and has asked me to come round to hers to change her strings.."and we can have a few beers"

The course just lasted a month and finished yesterday with a staff dinner. There were about ten people there. There was a noticeable increase in kino, but the drink was also flowing and I got drunk. Not silly drunk, I was in control but drunk all the same. When we were walking to get a taxi she said" I'm just going home for a shower and straight to bed. I'm so tired."

Of course that meant nothing for me in the bedroom department. I hid my disappointment and walked her to taxi and gave her a goodbye hug and kiss on the cheek. I'm cringeing now thinking about the cheek thing. So afc. She repeated the the guitar thing but I reckon if she was really into me she would've ****ed me last night.

I'm spinning plates and doing things right in general but last night was a downer.

Next move is basically "no contact" go ghost right?
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah she probably wasn't interested in sloppy booze sex. Watch your intake, drink more water. She'll contact you, that's your green light to schedule the guitar string fixing. Become the teacher, make her do it. It's not that difficult.

Escalate! The guitar fixing is just an innocent excuse, you know that.
 

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Cheers man. If she doesn't contact in a couple of days do you reckon I should open up contact again?

I'm definately giving up alcohol after this. Just too messy and leads to poor decisions.
 
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Dont complicate it. She is obviously into you and there could have been reasons why she didnt **** you that night. Maybe she WAS tired or maybe she was on her period or was too drunk so just contact her in a couple days or whatever but i bet she will contact u first
 

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Thanks. I contacted her on Monday. Probably should have waited. Anyway, we arranged for tomorrow and she's just texted saying she can't. She countered with next Tuesday which is 6 days away. I feel it's losing momentum as I was getting psyched up to escalate for tomorrow. Let's see what happens.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have a massage therapist like that..... she's sick or she can't find a sitter, or??? She's the best massage therapist I've had and will do a 150 minute massage. BUT, she's NOT dependable. I have 3 others I will use before her for that reason..... My back is my livelihood. IF I can't bend over, I can't work. Sorry if this sounds like a parable, but I guess it is........
 

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You got it right sodbuster.

It's my fault too for not striking while the iron was hot. I'm just 3 months out if an 18 month relationship. Rusty.

Anyway, she rescheduled for tomorrow and when I texted to confirm she put it off to Thursday. I'm free Thursday but I said I was busy, and for the rest of the week. Needed to regain some frame. She's got my number if she wants to meet up.
 

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You got it right sodbuster.

It's my fault too for not striking while the iron was hot. I'm just 3 months out if an 18 month relationship. Rusty.

Anyway, she rescheduled for tomorrow and when I texted to confirm she put it off to Thursday. I'm free Thursday but I said I was busy, and for the rest of the week. Needed to regain some frame. She's got my number if she wants to meet up.
Way too many flakes. Next her. If she is interested at all it's very very low.
 
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