Feedback on date please?

[AlphaNoob]

So me and a friend went with our two dates and their friends to this dance at school. As we were waiting for her friends, my date paid little attention to me. Always talking to her friend and on her phone. Had a short conversation with her and that did not go so well. She was not that responsive. When we got there, grabbed her by the waist and told her to come check out the place with me. She moved away from me and went back to her friends. So at this point I was thinking wtf. I felt disrespected because she was with her friend all this time. I didn't want to follow them around like a slave the whole night. So then I just leave them and go do my own things the whole night. At the end, I go back to the group and leave with them. As we walk outside, I leave my dates side because I was still disappointed of the way things went that night, though I had a lot of fun with other girls. As we get outside, I look at her and notice her eyes watering up. She's about to cry. She looks away and then she walks back with another friend, separate from me and my friend.

Was this my fault? Yes we were not very close before the date, but this site has taught me that if a girl really does want to spend time with me, she would. I talked to a friend who has been in a relationship before and he said I put too much pressure on her when I grabbed her to go with me in front of her friends. What the fuq happened guys?

 

[ChemGod]

How old are you? It would seem some things work better with girls of different ages. Older girls would probably respect you for taking command like that, but I would've probably said something like, " Lets go ( smiling of course) " and than taken her, doing it coming out of nowhere might have scared her a little. And only girls that actually like you will be happy that you want to be alone with them. In my experience, your gut will tell you if a girl is into you or not. From what you described, it sounds like very low interest from her. Girls that like you will go out of their way to get be around you and talk to you. When you say hi, you will instantly see their faces light up and they will stop talking to anyone else.

Girls will try to get you to do things and feel bad by crying for NO reason. This one time in middle school, we were in the school bus and my friend took a pad from my ex and started throwing it around. I caught it a few times and gave it back to her but I didnt even take it in the first place. The next day, she went back to school and her friends referred us to peer mediation, which her and her friends were apart of. They BLAMED IT ALL ON ME. Wtf? These people called me in during class, and called her in and made us talk to each other about why we aren't getting along. Obviously, since I was being blamed for something I didn't even start, I was super annoyed and pissed so I was being kind of a jerk and she starts to cry. They told me if I didn't comply they would get me in trouble for sexual harassment. The guy who actually took it out of her bag was never even called in. They warned me that the Principal was very tough on this. I was in the 7th grade and they were willing to ruin my life because of some girl. They forced me to say sorry and hug her. I did feel bad about what happened the day after it happened but this made me really despise her. But we were both young so I dont really blame anyone. We also became really good friends again after that and I knew I couldve gone back with her anytime I wanted until the end of middle school where we went to different HS. I could probably even get her right now if i met her. Point is, girls will do anything to make you look bad, best thing to do is avoid the girl until she learns you wont put up with her ****. IF she really likes you, she will come back. IF not, move on.

 

[Masculinity]

No offense, but it sounds to me like you were a second or third choice. That is, she was really not that interested in you and didn't want to go to the event alone. A girl who likes you makes things easy for you, including giving you attention and interacting with you. Crying at the end of the night as an artifact of guilt against you. I don't think you did anything wrong, so I would just forget about this one.

How old are you?

 

[AlphaNoob]

I'm 18. From this site, I've learned to take initiative and go for what I want. But seems like this girl is not responding to game. Or maybe I'm killing the attraction. When I see a girl I find attractive, I go ask her out before getting to know her. Shouldn't that be the purpose of the date. Only the girls that I do not show interest to are most responsive. Don Juan is not really working for me right now.

 

[RangerMIke]

There was another dude that she was upset about. You didn't do anything wrong. Her tears had nothing to do with you.

Her actions indicated she has low interest in you. Move on.

 

[Igetit!]

So me and a friend went with our two dates and their friends to this dance at school. As we were waiting for her friends, my date paid little attention to me. Always talking to her friend and on her phone. Had a short conversation with her and that did not go so well. She was not that responsive. When we got there, grabbed her by the waist and told her to come check out the place with me. She moved away from me and went back to her friends. So at this point I was thinking wtf. I felt disrespected because she was with her friend all this time. I didn't want to follow them around like a slave the whole night. So then I just leave them and go do my own things the whole night. At the end, I go back to the group and leave with them. As we walk outside, I leave my dates side because I was still disappointed of the way things went that night, though I had a lot of fun with other girls. As we get outside, I look at her and notice her eyes watering up. She's about to cry. She looks away and then she walks back with another friend, separate from me and my friend.

You're asking for feedback on your date. Well let's see......

She paid little attention to you...
Spent the majority of the time either talking to her friend or playing with her phone...
When you did get a conversation going,it didn't go too well...
She pulled away from you when you tried to get her to check out the place with you...
...and at the end of the date,her eyes were watering up and she was about to cry............and you want feedback.


Well I'm no expert,but offhand....I'd say it didn't go too well.

Was this my fault?

What what your fault....her crying? Well I'm gonna say no,but we don't know WHY she was crying. I mean surely she wasn't expecting you to hang around her all night after her being all cold and standoff-ish.

Could be that she just wanted your attention. It's like,she didn't want to date you or anything,but she didn't want you to shun her either. She didn't want to be shunned and essentially blown off by you walking away and
leaving her to herself,while her friend's date with your friend went well.

Just a guess. Again....you don't know the real reason she started to well up.

I talked to a friend who has been in a relationship before and he said I put too much pressure on her when I grabbed her to go with me in front of her friends.

That's possible. Can't see that being a reason for her to start to cry,though.

 

[_sideways_]

Shes learning that dudes wont put up with her shyt and shes still young so she allowed herself to cry. U did everythig u could to have a nice date. She blew you off and you moved on and had fun anyway.

So she cried over spilt milk. What A BIG BABY. Plus women cry...they like it imo.

Also...who cries over a first group date. Issues bro....move on.