Feb 14 08 - Feb 14 09.. Direct approach Journal

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea seein as I got no dates fo vday cuz of laziness to approach n spendin my times online gettin at girls. I will b doin a direct approach journal from today thru next vday of 2009.

I will use direct approaches, will ask fo da number all da time/ sometimes I want even ask n try to esclate the same day wit her.


Lines that I will b usin.

Let me ask u a ?. She will say yea. N I will ask her if she is single.

Another one I will use is, how u doin. N another one will b I like u n want to get to know u better


So advice would b appreciated n this journal will b fun n a great learning experience

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey man, the only advice i can give u is to never give up the direct approach and u will succeed my friend.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Great move . Stop fvcking reading all the time . Go in field .

get bootcamp of this website and follow it .

and dont be upset from rejections . they are just exercise .

 

[cyp6]

Do It!

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I've noticed this thread has not been updated. I'm making a similar commitment to direct approaches right now until March 3rd, in venues such as the church and perhaps the mall the same way you are doing.

By the end of next week, either you will put me to shame, or I will put you to shame on these approaches.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea im bac, so lil update. 2nights ago i came form playin playin basketball bout to go to mcdonalds wit my boys. This girl that worked on the counter looked good so i ordered my food. It was gonna close in a few mins so we jus ate their. Wasnt that many ppl there so she let some1 take her spot while she clean da garbage n stuff like that. I tell my boy dat im goin to talk to her den i get up n walk towards her.

Me: Let met ask u a ?

her: jus looks

me: Are u single?

her: no

Then i was thinkin of jus walkin bac but i manage to say are u guys hiring. She says yea n fo me to go up there n get an application. So i refill my drink then was thinkin if i should get it or not. I go up in line again n ask da guy fo one. WHile doin that i turn aroun n see that she is lookin at me. So im guessin she was thinkin if i was really gonna ask them fo da application or sumthin. Then when i walk bac i say goodnite to her n she says bye.



Im thinkin if i should use the default line Let me ask u a ?, then say are u single? Im plannin on tryin that for at least 10-20 times this week n if it doesnt go well then I will try anotha opener like how u doin n so on. I also have to smile when i go up to a girl. I will b doin daytime approaches this week to see wat happens

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea im bac. Been thru drama, broke up wit my girl last week... So I went to holla today wit 1 of my boys... he's an afc but im also helpin him to holla at girls.

So went to da mall, was there from 5 to 9. N i only talked to 15girls within dat time n no numbers...

10times i used da, let me ask u a ?. Den i say r u single while smiling. All of them said no. Den fo da otha 5 i opened up wit how r u doin. I got a betta feed from dat but afta i ask if they single n they say no

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey budddy, i would try true direct. Are you single isn't the best question. Why? because most girls will say they aren't single, eventho a good portion are. I believe its a pride thing with them if they say they don't got a BF, they'll think their not as attractive compared to if they did.

How are you doing? Is great...but with that one...eventually tell them they're cute IMO.

But about true direct, i would do the "Your cute/gorgeous/stunning...i want to meet you/get to know you/talk to you" openings. Those are best for direct. If u doubt me, why not see for urself the reactions u get?

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea im back wit the approaches. Just got this new job as a doorman,not bad actually but I might be doin sum porter stuff also...

Newayz was walkin home today from work, saw this girl at the corner. She was like a 7.

So I said to her.

YoungSir: wit a smile wats ur name

Her: said her name

So we both cross the street n I say..

YoungSir: Do u live around here

Her: No

YoungSir: iight, silent fo a few seconds then I say so wats ur number.

Her: I don't give out my number

Youngsir: O really, I bet u b on myspace 24/7 don't u

Her: she laughed alil n said no but I be on it

YoungSir: u got an aim,or yahoo.

Her: no jus msn

YoungSir: so I asked for her myspace name

Her: gave it to me

YoungSir: so where u headin to. She says work den I ask her where she lives she tells me then says she has to make da turn for her job. Then she says hit me up


Overall I think I did kinda weak but I was mad tired from work n I winged everything on da spot. B4 I said wats ur name I wasn't even gonna talk to her then I had this thought in my head like if I don't say something im gonna b mad at myself later on for not trying so I talked.

O n I messaged her lata on, jus got her message on myspace few mins ago. She says dat she's not interested in like relationships jus as friends.... so wat do I do wit dat? Let dat go or keep trying?


Also wat should I do next time after saying wats ur name. I have to put in some kino n other stuff next time I kno that. Im guessing I didn't put that much for attraction level which is y im prolly getting put in the friend zone n she didn't want me to get her number lol

 

[r0cky]

WAZZUP PLAYA??!
Yea you're doing good there man. Thats what a cold approach consists of. Just keep doing it for the sake of practice. If they don't wanna give you their #'s screw it because its not about that, its about practicing for that moment when you see that hottie that nobody else but you dares to approach.
Keep up the good work.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea imma get bac to postin in here. Had otha approaches but im goin to start again.

Rite now bout to hang out it rocky again at union square n talk wit sum girls so ill post my fr's lata on tonite. If any1 else wanna holla at sum girls rite now den meet us at union square. I should b there in bout 20 mins

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yea so we met up. I had 1 ok approach talked to this girl from england. She was sittin down by herself. I asked her fo her name. Then asked where she was from. How she like it in nyc since she was visiting. Basic stuff for 5mins. I asked her wat she was doin this weekend n she said hangin out wit her sister. Then I said lets hang out too, she said she has a boyfriend. Then I said well lets b friends let me get ur nukmba n again she said boyfriend so I said it was nice meeting u. Then shook her hand n left.

Another one was she was sittin on a rail n I said wats ur name. She gave it then talked fo 2mins n said she got a man.

Other 3 didn't say nuttin. Man I need to imrpove n talk to the ones I really want even if I get rejected

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yup im back.

Sat 10/11/08

Came back from playing basketball in the morning. Went to popeyes/burgerking sameplace to eat. I saw this good looking girl come in n go to the burgerking line. So I say to my friends that im gonna talk to her.

So I go outside and wait for her to come out, she comes out and

Me: wats your name while smiling

Her: says her name and she continues to walk(she is smiling by the way)

Me: you live aroun here

Her: yea

Me: me 2, n she crosses the street cuz her job is on that street.

She works at a bank so I say o I probably seen u b4.

Her: laughs no cuz I just started working

Me: I laugh o iight

Den I ask her does she have an aim.

Her: says no

Me: I ask if she goes on myspace

Her: yea but not anymore like that cuz its boring now

Me: I say yea don't front u be on there 24/7 while laughing

Her: laughs and says no its wack now

Me: say wats ur number

Her: o no I got a boyfriend

Me: iight but we can can still b friends so wats ur numba lol

Her: laughs u don't have to have my number. I work various days and u say that u live aroun here so come by

Me: ok good meetin u n I leave


So now wat do I do now? Do I continue and push up on her? She has a man supposedly but she says for me to come by so don't know

 

[Lust]

Yup im back.

Sat 10/11/08

Came back from playing basketball in the morning. Went to popeyes/burgerking sameplace to eat. I saw this good looking girl come in n go to the burgerking line. So I say to my friends that im gonna talk to her.

So I go outside and wait for her to come out, she comes out and

Me: wats your name while smiling

Her: says her name and she continues to walk(she is smiling by the way)

Me: you live aroun here

Her: yea

Me: me 2, n she crosses the street cuz her job is on that street.

She works at a bank so I say o I probably seen u b4.

Her: laughs no cuz I just started working

Me: I laugh o iight

Den I ask her does she have an aim.

Her: says no

Me: I ask if she goes on myspace

Her: yea but not anymore like that cuz its boring now

Me: I say yea don't front u be on there 24/7 while laughing

Her: laughs and says no its wack now

Me: say wats ur number

Her: o no I got a boyfriend

Me: iight but we can can still b friends so wats ur numba lol

Her: laughs u don't have to have my number. I work various days and u say that u live aroun here so come by

Me: ok good meetin u n I leave


So now wat do I do now? Do I continue and push up on her? She has a man supposedly but she says for me to come by so don't know

Don't actually go by while she's working, that's weird.

I think you asked too many questions and didn't display much of your personality in that one. You got a big plus for having balls to approach, but the interaction lack a little.

In direct approaches like yours, you really have to put a little charm, a little charisma on to make it work. I have no idea how your body language and non verbal signals were so feel free to discard all of this if you think you had it right, because charm and charisma is pretty much all non-verbal communicators.

If I were you, I'd give yourself a pat on the back for the approach, know that if you ever see this girl out you can say hi, and leave it at that. I wouldn't "drop by to say hi" at her work.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Don't actually go by while she's working, that's weird.

I think you asked too many questions and didn't display much of your personality in that one. You got a big plus for having balls to approach, but the interaction lack a little.

In direct approaches like yours, you really have to put a little charm, a little charisma on to make it work. I have no idea how your body language and non verbal signals were so feel free to discard all of this if you think you had it right, because charm and charisma is pretty much all non-verbal communicators.

If I were you, I'd give yourself a pat on the back for the approach, know that if you ever see this girl out you can say hi, and leave it at that. I wouldn't "drop by to say hi" at her work.

Just my 2 cents.

Yea you are right thx for your advice. I need to show more charisma and charm. THo i do think i have alot of both, i just have to demostrate it more. I rather do direct approaches though so i will continue to do this until i master it. Sometimes i do feel the AA Anxiety n cant go up to a set or more then 3 girls at time becuase i feel that one of them will laugh if i try to talk to one of them.

Also i have to stop thinking wat others around me think about me when i do approaches. Like in the trains or anywehre where ppl will notice if i get rejected or not. It takes time n im willing to stick wit it no matter wat

 

[YoungSir4sho]

Yup ill b gettin my 100 approaches b4 the end of the month. From oct 21st to oc31st I will at least talk and approach 100 girls.

From nov 1st thru nov 30. At least talk to 200 girls.

From dec 1st thru dec 31st I will at least talk to 300 girls.

So b4 this year is over I will at least approach 600 girls(this is not including the ones I've talked to b4 today of course)

I firgue I mind as well just start approaching more n get better. ILve seen a few ppl levels and how good they are at this and I want to become better.

I want to be at the point where ppl can feel my aura n presence in a positive way. To talk to any kind of girl anytime I want. So its time to take control n go through the ups n downs. Im ready so instead of talking a lot more ill just get it done through action n will post tom with the frs from lata today. Remember even if I get rejected 10 times today at least I will be getting experience. And have fun at the same time cuz I want to master this