"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Fears Ph33r

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i have a really big fear of calling people up on the phone, and even asking people to hang out since i dont know if they are good enough friends to hang out with or if they see me as a friend they wanna hang out with
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do you know what a fear is?

Even if you do, to conquer a fear, you mustn't fear.

Hence, take a chance. The phone is not a enemy, and even if you think they aren't great, see how they are like.

Can't do anything at home can you?
 

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You can do tons at home... pick up the phone book, tons of experience could be sitting right there on your lap! Imagine the possibilities;)

Food, whatever, your name... :crackup: Do you enjoy chicken burgers?

Fear are one of two things, unfounded or untrue. There is nothing to fear, except fear itself... You don't fear what you have experience with, and you do fear what you can't concieve of doing without failure. Fear is probably one of the many social problems today, relating to people causing problems and creating negative tensions. Somehwere along the lines, humans programmed fear into people, to control their actions... and it has worked.

Face your fears dumbass! pick-up that phone, call a random person in your phonebook from a payphone. Get a damned rush once in a while!

Ever tried a DJ bootcamp? No? Well, ever tried a social experiment? Been teasing anybody lately? Have you insulted anybody this year? Take some chances my man, you need some luck, and luck will rarely ever land in your front yard.

Go out today, to a payphone, and call random people in your town, see if you can set up a date with them, and than ditch the date. Call 20 women today, doesn't matter how the look, or sound. Some will hang-up on you, some will talk your ear off, some will not say a damned word. Either way, immerse yourself in the situation, and don't give up until you've got the situation under control.
 

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fear isnt real , it is a figment of your imagination that only you can give power to by fueling it with more fear.

when you get afraid , close your eyes and say "fear is not real."
 

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Being afraid is being at knife point from a bunch of rapists.

Calling people isn't a reason to be afraid, my friend! It's like texting, OR TALKING, through a little box.
End of subject.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ethnomethodologist

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Originally posted by penkitten
fear isnt real , it is a figment of your imagination that only you can give power to by fueling it with more fear.

when you get afraid , close your eyes and say "fear is not real."
For some odd reason, I find that totally corny, I would laugh out loud after saying that when I picked up the phone. So it's so crazy, it just might work.

Originally posted by MrS
Being afraid is being at knife point from a bunch of rapists.

Calling people isn't a reason to be afraid, my friend! It's like texting, OR TALKING, through a little box.
End of subject.
End of Subject? Where is the passion in that statement? Don't just shove his problem under a rug, how would YOU enjoy that, if you had a huge problem, and somebody could solve it for you by putting a phone to your ear and making a quick joke.

Maybe he got dumped time and time again while talking to people... what if it is not the phone he is afraid of, but of social awkwardness? The phone is just "a concious indicator of his subconcious intentions" I think he's going to climb on top of a building and throw phones at people... Let's spare the innocent and leave no child behind, this man needs SERIOUS help, especially if he is afraid of something as simple as a phone.

But you were right on one thing... only thing to fear for is your life. Some people don't even fear death, what's your take on that?
 
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