When you are about to do something, if you tend to get scared, you think "what if this and this happens?". This is the fear of a negative outcome more than anything else. You mistake "What if" for legitimate calculation - i.e. you think you actually need to make sure of all possibilities. It can be a useful habit in hazardous contexts, but in most cases this holds us back.
Usually the first thought is necessary to decide to do an action. If there are any real hazards of doing the action, your mind will almost instantly come up with a mental image of you being buried alive under a mound of chairs or whatever it is.
AFTER THAT, further time spent is only hesitation. If you think anything else after this key split second, it's worrying. Soon worrying and hesitation build up into fear which holds you back.
In this key moment you need to ask yourself, should I do this? If the answer is yes, you don't need to know any more. Just do it.
You don't need to make safe every eventuality. It's a LOT more fun to be a bit crazy and do things without overthinking, even if some of them crash and burn. Even crashing and burning's fun.
Sure, there are times to be cautious. Life in general isn't one of them.
Viva el capricho!
I'm planning an important section on fear in the wiki DJ Bible. When I get back from town today I'm going to add parts this article... any additional things about fear (threads maybe) you suggest adding?
Usually the first thought is necessary to decide to do an action. If there are any real hazards of doing the action, your mind will almost instantly come up with a mental image of you being buried alive under a mound of chairs or whatever it is.
AFTER THAT, further time spent is only hesitation. If you think anything else after this key split second, it's worrying. Soon worrying and hesitation build up into fear which holds you back.
In this key moment you need to ask yourself, should I do this? If the answer is yes, you don't need to know any more. Just do it.
You don't need to make safe every eventuality. It's a LOT more fun to be a bit crazy and do things without overthinking, even if some of them crash and burn. Even crashing and burning's fun.
Sure, there are times to be cautious. Life in general isn't one of them.
Viva el capricho!
I'm planning an important section on fear in the wiki DJ Bible. When I get back from town today I'm going to add parts this article... any additional things about fear (threads maybe) you suggest adding?