i wanted to take a moment to talk about reality versus fantasy, as i believe this is a SERIOUS issue for a lot of men.
most men have no concept of reality, and as such live very unhappy and unfufilling lives.
if you are paying the rent and are physically healthy, then you have everything you need to be happy. if you have these things and aren't happy, its becuase you aren't living in reality.
you see, reality is a harsh mother f*cker. people get hit by cars, people get cancer, people's children get stolen, molested and killed by sick f*cks. etc.
reality is filled with a lot of horrendous sh*t.
now, luckily though most of us don't experience these things. but because we don't, we are free to believe in all kinds of disney bullsh*t. we are free to sit there and wish away our lives - hoping for that playboy model, or making a million dollars, or whatever. and because we don't have these things we think we have 'failed' in life.
and that thought process, of seeing yourself as a failure, is the biggest obstacle to getting women and improving your life that there is.
you see, the men who are truly successful in life are the ones who are living in reality. they don't spend their lives worrying about what they do and don't have. they don't judge themselves by how much money they are making or how many women they have bed.
they are men who appreciate what they have. they don't sit there complaining about what they dont have. they realize that as long as they have their health then they are LUCKY.
and because they have this attitude of appreciation for the smallest things in life, they have a strength. they are able to chase after their dreams, after women, etc. and not fear failure. because they don't see their life as horrible if their business fails, or a woman rejects them, etc.
you cannot build a life you love if you don't love your life to start with!
you see, the reality is that you were never meant to be a millionaire. nature designed you to be a simple creature - eat, sleep, f*ck. thats all you need. and heck, nature was even kinder, the only things you have to worry about are eating and sleeping. if you can't get a chic you can still spank the monkey.
you see, in reality your life is wonderful even at its most basic level.
its only because so many of us reject reality. we reject the simplicity of life. we say 'NO! THAT'S NOT ENOUGH. I WANT IT ALL. I WANT WHAT EVERYONE ELSE WANTS. I WANT WHAT I SEE ON TV EVERY DAY. I DESERVE IT!" that we end up hating our lives and ourselves.
we also end up makign STUPID decisions and taking ridiculous risks trying to attain these things.
we let women treat us like sh*t because the idea of not having a woman horrifies us because it plays into our own sense of failure.
there are guys who reject all kinds of great women because they are hb6's, because they want an hb 9 (even though they themselves are only male versions of a 6). and they think themselves failures because they can't land hb9s. here life presents them with a woman who would be perfect for them as a companion and yet they reject her - because mass media has led them to believe that an hb6 isn't worth anything.
now, im not saying that reality means you have to settle for less. but if you are a 6, you shouldn't feel bad about hooking up with an hb6.
reality is filled with a TON of horrendous sh*t. people die in car crashes. people get cancer. people suffer from depression. people get divorced. people lose their jobs. etc.
as long as you have your health you have everything you need to be HAPPY.
you are wasting your life if you live in the world of FANTASY and as a result are miserable or discontent. you are wasting your life if you are focused on what you don't have, instead of what you do have.
and in the world of fantasy you will make horrible choices, because you are chasing after happiness. but happiness is does not come from external things. and the more you try to find it in the external things, the more you will be depressed that you can't seem to find it.
but if you get with reality and realize that you have A LOT to be happy about as long as you have your health, then it becomes very easy to build on that happiness.
it becomes easy to deal with women. a woman who increases your happiness is good, a woman who detracts from it is bad. but you first have to be happy to make that judgement! if you aren't happy then how would you know whether a woman detracts from your happiness.
i know this is a bit of a minimalist view on life, BUT, a minimalist view is good. its at the core of all the advanced ideologies (christianty, buddhism, hinduism, etc.). adn the reason is that minimalism reminds you that happiness comes from within. and it also makes you value and appreciate everything that comes in to your life!
if you love your life with just the bare bones - ie. your health - you will be able to truly appreciate all the extras that come into your life (women, jobs, money, etc.)
but if you don't love your life with just the bare bones - ie. just you and your health - then you will never appreciate the things that come in to your life. you will always worry that if you lose them your life will return to being sh*t.
this is the root of many AFCs - they hate themselves and their life and they FEAR rejection and they FEAR losing their woman.
a man who does not love his life in its most basic form is destined to live a life of FEAR. fear of losing his job, fear of dying, fear of divorce, fear or being screwed over by others, etc.
we have been brainwashed to reject minimalism - to reject reality. we have been brainwashed to embrace excess and to believe that a man is only worth what he possessses. that without success in his career, with women, etc. he is nothing.
but its this type of thinking that creates a self fulfilling prophecy. its this type of thinking that makes you a slave to a job you hate, which makes you afraid to take career risks, which amkes you afraid of CHANGE, and which makes you a slave to women.
anyway, just thought i'd toss these thoughts out there for consumption.
